Called into the Teacher's Office- New Update Page 6

[MELSMICE]

They had that program all set and ready to go for this year. My DD was one of five students in it- but then they cancelled it. Apparently once word got out every parent was calling the office wanting to know why little Johnny or Susie wasn't invited to be in it, regardless if they could understand the material. Then one of the mom's want to the school board and said it would upset her child to watch the others go off to another classroom and not be invited to go. In reality it would have been hard for the mom.

I think that mom is a moron. Sorry, first word that came to me when I read that!!

My first thought was that this school & it's administrators has no backbone.

Parents complain about everything. You can't back down from what you know is right because some people complain.

It's too bad the children that need the enrichment won't get it because the administration can't stand up to a mother.

 

[dreamer17555]

I had to pick Miss Cat up from school early yesterday. She had to go get her eyes checked. Cat is crossed eyed and she wears glasses to correct it. There is a surgery (no patching since its in both eyes) but we are waiting until she is older.

There I ran into one of our PTO volunteers from last year (she was working in the office). She talked about the new group. Apparently Cat is one of seven kids to do the research project thing (only one from her class, the other six are split between two other teachers – I wish Cat was in one of those classes but beside the point) Stephanie told me that it is basically the Fly Up program redesigned. There were originally 9 in Fly Up (five counting Cat from her class last year) and I know one skipped a grade. I don’t know what happened to the other child (wasn't in her class last year so really don't know who this is even).

The Principal (yeah my spelling is bad- so sorry) wants to keep it hush hush so not to get the same stupid thing that happened over the summer. Also Stephanie told me later (I called her) that the school is in a lot of trouble right now. They did not properly test a bunch of kids (not just our group) and the school is scrambling to fix it, which explains why the principal (see getting better!) was so adament about getting Cat retested. They have I guess a battery of tests one being an IQ test.

This whole thing is making us seriously consider trying to get her into a private school.

Frankly I have better things to do than to make up stuff on a message board. Those who read my TR know that I am going through (working through) a really rocky time in my marriage. I am a full time student, and I am a Co Leader for her Daisy Troop. Whatever. I also have a son who is recovering from chicken pox. All the advice is great though.

-Becca-

Edit To Add: Cat is already commited to the dance teams for this year. She is however dropping her acro technique class just so she gets some more down time. She is currently at a friends house (She slept over last night) and has another Birthday party to go to tonight. Tomorrow we are going to force her to just chill at home (she does not do relaxing very well) I might even take her for a pedicure for some Mommy and Me time. I really took to heart all the comments about her dance and we are going to work on not only cutting back but making sure she doesn't spend every hour of the day practicing in her room.

Honestly Cat is a good kid but rather high strung with needing to be perfect. I want her to learn now instead of later that it is okay to try and fail as long as you pick yourself back up.

 

[famofsix]

keep your chin up OP.

 

[Mkrop]

I think your recent update that it is a group of kids vs just your child sounds like a better fit!

We went through some similar stuff with DS10(almost 11). Mainly our pressure came from family. His private school has very strict restrictions on cutoffs. Socially he would never had been able to cut it if being moved up was an option. He does get teased about being "so smart" but the kids also make sure to pick him first when group project time came around.

His teachers have been wonderful, they have allowed him to assist the other kids in class who are struggling. He really enjoys this and this has given him a new sense of confidence and helped with his much needed social skills. Also there is a great deal of craziness from parents when there child does not get picked for advance classes here too.

DH and I decided not to "challenge" anymore with school work, DS does enough on his own. We didnt want him getting too far ahead of his peers. Advanced reading at his school didnt start until 3rd, and Honors Math starts 5th grade for him this year.

We challenged him physically, DS LOVES sports, but this is not his strong area, he can succeed with hard work (unlike academics where it is super easy), so he can understand that although some things come easy to him some things take hard work. We are hoping this lesson can be applied if and when school becomes the challenge. We rotate the activities as well.

Maybe reducing her dance a tad (not too much since she does love it) and put her into some other activity (doesnt have to be sports) that could challenge her may be somehting to consider.

Dont beat yourself in the parenting area either. I have no idea if what I typed above is the right thing for my kid or not but it feels right. We are all flying by the seat of our pants.

Also I did read your trip report awhile back, I would be cautious with Cat. Even though she was a perfectionist before, she did have a tough time when you and your DH separated. She may be using the things in her world as an attempt to control what she can, bc there are many things at this point that are beyond her control.