But I DID rsvp to your party!!

[pilotwife_02]

I'd reply to her and tell her that each of your daughters has an "Amy" in her class and since she didn't specify in her generic invititaion or voice mail which of your children was invited, you will be sending all three

Seriously though, even in my evites I put our last name "just in case" in the title of the party. I do find it funny that she call you by your email address in your message

 

[luvsJack]

Yes, one of my daughters is in Amy's class. That doesn't make them friends. It makes them classmates. None of my 3 girls has ever asked to go to an Amy's house, or call an Amy on the phone. Or tell a story how she and an Amy played on the playground.

We are just a generic classmate. And just as others are entitled to the opinion that you can/should invite anybody & everybody (and later freak when they don't get RSVP's) I am entitled to an opinion too.

Well, that is just a very weird invite and follow up; but I also find it strange that this child is in your daughter's class and they don't even know each other? How big is the class? Dd and everyone in her class are friends, now she is not friends with everyone in her grade, but they are all on a first name basis (I get that in large schools this wouldn't be possible but the individual class shouldn't be that big). I would think the mom would have at least took the time to figure out whose mom you are so she could say "this is for xxxx's mom".

And, too, even if your school did have the "invite all or none" rule, sending evites would have been the way around that rule so again just doesn't make sense to invite people you do not know.

Very odd.

 

[golfgal]

How did she get your phone number if she doesn't know your name?

 

[mjkacmom]

Yes, one of my daughters is in Amy's class. That doesn't make them friends. It makes them classmates. None of my 3 girls has ever asked to go to an Amy's house, or call an Amy on the phone. Or tell a story how she and an Amy played on the playground.

We are just a generic classmate. And just as others are entitled to the opinion that you can/should invite anybody & everybody (and later freak when they don't get RSVP's) I am entitled to an opinion too.

How old is Amy? My first graders think that everyone they know is a friend. I have no idea who they played with on the playground. Now, my 3rd grader is very friendly, to the point where we no longer have parties, because I can't afford it! My 6th and 8th graders have very defined friends. We only have friend parties, because we have very little family around. My 2 oldest have way too many friends for a sleepover, or to invite a couple of kids anywhere.

I wouldn't be so harsh for getting a voice message - maybe she missed an email? Maybe Amy thinks your child IS a friend.

 

[luvmy3]

You know, she was probably making a lot of phone calls. A misstep in the name is quite possible. It happens. Happened to me this morning - on the receiving end. I'd certainly give her a pass on the "stern tone" - it likely had nothing to do with you. You have her email, why do you need her phone number? She did use "please". What's the big deal?

Addressing someone by their email address is not a misstep, calling her June when her name is May is a misstep. She also called and left a message asking for the OP to contact her, its pretty much a courtesy (and common sense) to leave your phone number especially since she already sent out e-vites and (thought) she hadn't heard back from the OP. I totally see the OP's point and I wouldn't have bothered getting back to her, she could search through her email folders to find my previous reply herself

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

We are just a generic classmate. And just as others are entitled to the opinion that you can/should invite anybody & everybody (and later freak when they don't get RSVP's) I am entitled to an opinion too.

Sure everyone is entitled to their opinion.

But judging someone b/c you got an invite seems a bit more than an opinion. To each their own.

I guess if your child had told you--"gosh no mom, I hate that girl", it might be different. But just b/c she doesn't chat with you about it--getting in a tizzy over receiving an invite seems to be wasted energy.

I don't care one way or the other.

 

[ICF]

I am not sure if this is true or not but I was told if you were invited you have to get the person a gift.

someone played an April Fool's joke on your then....

 

[golfgal]

Some schools have a rule that you must invite all kids in the classroom to a birthday party--I don't agree with that rule at all but some schools have this rule. When our kids were in elementary school if you wanted to pass out party invites AT SCHOOL, you had to include all of the kids of the same gender but that didn't apply outside of school, like an evite system.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

Sometimes it's easier to invite the whole class than to decide where to draw the line. Both my girls have always had a couple of best buddies that they hang out with the most, then a very gradual decline to the ones they really only see at school. It's easy to say I'll invite my 2 besties, and not the 2 I never play with, but it's harder to draw the line with the girls in between, when you played with one 6 times in the past 3 months and another 5 times. Until this year, my kids have always had only 10-12 kids of their own gender in their class, so it's not like it's a huge party if we invite all of them. (They have no cousins their age and there aren't that many in the neighborhood that aren't also in their class, anyway.)

Anyway, I do think the woman was rude for calling when you'd already responded, and for calling you by your email address rotfl2: who does that?!). But I think it's a little over the top to call Amy a "stranger", when she is one of your daughter's classmates.

 

[DizBelle]

I am not sure if this is true or not but I was told if you were invited you have to get the person a gift.

In this case, I invite all 257,218 disboard members to my birthday party. Please go ahead and forward your gifts to me now if you are unable to attend.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

OMG that is too funny.

 

[MushyMushy]

I would have probably laughed at being addressed by my email address.

It used to be common in my town to invite entire classrooms. People would have skating parties and it cost the same amount whether they'd have 10 kids or 50 kids, so why not do 50? It was fun.

 

[kinntj]

The phone call/message was definately weird.

Since there is an Amy in one of your kids class, I would assume that's the one. Now, either your kid wants to go or not. I'm not seeing what the big deal is.

Lesson learned, make sure you address the evites with a last name to make it clear who it's from and include the child who is invited. Don't do a follow up call with the email address as a name. That's just weird. Why not just follow up through email.?

We are going through an invitation list right now with my Dd who will be turning 8 in May. She's only allowed to invite 11 other people to a huge inflatable place with face painting. She just wants to invite those that are close to her; including 3 boys, so that's what we're doing.

 

[Scurvy]

I don't see anything wrong with inviting the whole class, although we've never done that. My son prefers doing something special with family and close friends. As others have pointed out, though, some schools require that you give invitations to all or none and so many people choose "all".

The woman sounds like a bit of a nut. I can't believe she called you by your email address rather than your name - that's weird! And she really should have been more specific in the Evite. She should have addressed it to the specific child who was invited and at least included Amy's last name, especially since "Amy" isn't exactly an unusual name! The stern tone of voice was also quite rude. It's possible something went wrong and she didn't receive your response to the Evite, but she should have been nicer about it.

I am not sure if this is true or not but I was told if you were invited you have to get the person a gift.

No, this is definitely not true. I do think there are quite a few people who believe it, given the number of people who invite those who they hardly know to their wedding or other events.

 

[Crystal0608]

My dd chooses certain friends for her party, but ds always WANTS to invite his entire class. Most plus a few siblings show up. I usually know most of the classmates names though. It's weird how she had your email and phone number though. I've done evite a few times and it has always been right on the rsvps.