Burned out parent..

[tcufrog]

14-year-olds are the worst. I'm shocked more people don't kill their offspring at that age. LOL I guess the best thing you could do is to try to not let it bother you or give the child over to another adult either the other parent or grandparents if that's possible for a while. Whenever my kids started getting on my nerves at that age I would just tell my husband that I'm done for the day and decompress by myself. Sometimes you just have those days.

That’s very tempting. Maybe I need to send him spend a day with my mom. She’s very affectionate with my kids but doesn’t spoil them. He hasn’t been doing a good job turning his homework in on time so she recently scolded him. DS14 was shocked and exclaimed “ Not you too grandma?!?” I’ll get a break and he’ll get some tough love.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

chardonnay and chicken tenders, alone watching a pay per view movie at the holiday inn express that was a few blocks from our then home. dh stayed at home with the kids. no one to deal with, no one to interrupt my tv or my sleep. best sleep i had in ages. it was like hitting a reset button.


if you can swing this-ask for a late checkout.

Sounds like heaven!

 

[slo]

I’m not gonna lie - I had many moments like that when DD23 was a teenager. All I’ll say is that she was a challenge. You’re not alone with your frustrations

 

[mjkacmom]

(((HUGS))) Yep mid teens. It gets way better at 16. Yet still pulling teeth at that age to get things done. For now, just take a timeout and do something you enjoy. Just breathe. The switch flips when they turn 18. It's awesome. They go from not wanting to help or complaining when asked (ages 13-17) to always wanting to lend a hand at 18.

Hope you feel better. I'm sure your Christmas & trip will be great.

Not all of them! I have an 18 year old who does not love lending a hand. Right now I have him and his 23 year old brother living at home full time, I have to ask them to do anything. Even my husband would never take the garbage out unless I asked (I know this because I’ll leave it and see how high it gets).

 

[holden]

Communication is always the answer. Explain that you are stressed/burnt out and need help. Your son will understand. Chances are he feels that way too, so he can relate. Apologize for being short with him. He will respect you for it.

It took me a long time to realize the more I communicate with my kids (instead of just telling them things), the better our relationship. Communication is listening, understanding and expressing. Not always easy to do, but the payoff is big.

 

[OhDannyBoy]

My girls are only 2 and 4 and this thread terrifies me....

 

[Snowflakey]

Take a moment to yourself and really, really spend time on thinking about how lucky you truly are. Look at all who are dying, the poor, the local house that just burned down, a child who just loss their life...... it will put everything else in perspective.

 

[DeeBee3]

So now you all have TERRIFIED of what awaits me. ;-) My oldest is 8. Already with the moods. Other is 4 and is a whole household to herself. It feels like you need 4 adults to keep up with her. Guess I better buckle up, stop yelling, and just "let it go."

 

[prairie_girl]

My girls are only 2 and 4 and this thread terrifies me....

Not all kids are like this. I had no issues with my daughter was a teenager. Sure, we’d have our moments, but it was the exception, not the rule.

 

[Brett Wyman]

LEXIPRO

 

[OhDannyBoy]

Not all kids are like this. I had no issues with my daughter was a teenager. Sure, we’d have our moments, but it was the exception, not the rule.

Fair enough.

 

[dez1978]

14-year-olds are the worst. I'm shocked more people don't kill their offspring at that age. LOL I guess the best thing you could do is to try to not let it bother you or give the child over to another adult either the other parent or grandparents if that's possible for a while. Whenever my kids started getting on my nerves at that age I would just tell my husband that I'm done for the day and decompress by myself. Sometimes you just have those days.

I've often said the reason babies are born so cute and helpless is so that we fall in love with them right away. Otherwise, when the 2-3 year old stage hits, well I see why animals in the wild eat their young. lol. Same applies for teenage years I assume. My oldest is 10 and I am starting to see glimmers of tweenagerness. I am not looking forward to it.

 

[dez1978]

Not all kids are like this. I had no issues with my daughter was a teenager. Sure, we’d have our moments, but it was the exception, not the rule.

I think your daughter was the execption lol. The teenage girl horror stories Ive heard... omg. My bestie has an 18 yr old daughter who is amazing in every other aspect, great student, honor roll, never in trouble etc. But the way she would act towards her mom..... good lord. So much eye rolling and "you just don't understand because you never...."

 

[robinb]

My girls are only 2 and 4 and this thread terrifies me....

For my DD, 3 and 13 were very similar and her “terrible twos” started late and just seemed to keep on going. She’s now 22 and starting to become human. But yeah, the teen years were tough.

 

[prairie_girl]

I think your daughter was the execption lol. The teenage girl horror stories Ive heard... omg. My bestie has an 18 yr old daughter who is amazing in every other aspect, great student, honor roll, never in trouble etc. But the way she would act towards her mom..... good lord. So much eye rolling and "you just don't understand because you never...."

I agree. I know I was lucky because I was not a great teenager lol

 

[mjkacmom]

Dd18 had a few bad weeks, dd20 never had a bad moment (has never said anything negative to us ever). Dd25 started at 10, it was a good 10 year phase. Ds23 was like his younger sister, has never once talked back or argued. Ds18 was more difficult than his brother.

I think it’s nature vs. nurture, I was not an easy teen, DH was.

 

[RogueX]

I think we've all been there at some point and it is frustrating. With my daughter, I remind her that her father and I can't do it all to keep the house running and make sure we can have fun too.

When you're that burnt out though and you feel like you'll snap or cry, take some "me" time, there's never enough time to do everything and sometimes less is more.

 

[Lilsia]

Dd18 had a few bad weeks, dd20 never had a bad moment (has never said anything negative to us ever). Dd25 started at 10, it was a good 10 year phase. Ds23 was like his younger sister, has never once talked back or argued. Ds18 was more difficult than his brother.

I think it’s nature vs. nurture, I was not an easy teen, DH was.

I really believe that hormones affect everyone differently. It's the same with woman and pregnancy, some just get baby bump while other's bodies want to hold on to any little bit that it can. Thankfully, the medical community is starting to see this.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

Moms can have timeouts too. My timeouts usually consist of a bubble bath, some candles and soft music, a good book, and a glass of wine.

As far as kids, I've raised 2 girls and 1 boy, and the preteen/teen years were brutal at times with all 3. I could literally be standing next to them with a trash bag in hand, hand it to them and say 'take it to the garbage can'...and they would STILL FORGET TO DO IT...put down the bag to put on their shoes, and then something else catches their mind and then the trash bag is sitting on the floor next to the door until I notice it. LOL

Deep breathing, turn off the router, and (as my kids say) nag nag nag until it's done.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Watching my kids grow and talking to all the other parents, raising boys, from what I've seen anyway, is they do best if you ask them directly for a thing. Yes, they see it but assume the person has "got it" unless told otherwise, it seems to be the way they order themselves in sports and such and it spills over. Girls are much less likely to observe boundaries for the little things, in stuff like this it works but in other things, like keep your hands off my mascara & clothes, it's not so great LOL.