Sam, well said!
Everyone,
Even though most of us know the difficulties in having a Destination wedding. (Which btw is NOT the same as planning a fun family vacation =)) But to add on top of this an international destination wedding I am sure adds to the difficulity 100 fold. Sam can contest to this fact. The expense alone is prohibited. That being said, Summer should have the wedding that she dreams of.
My story
I decide I wanted a Disney wedding eith my fiance. We did not want to have a wedding in the city where we live b/c of the multitudes of people (more than 300) we would have to invite and pay for. As it was we invited 78 to Disney. Way more than I wanted. To give you an idea we mainly paid for the wedding ourselves.
My dad had an adversion to me getting married in Disney. Come to find out it was b/c I was not getting married in a church. I asked him if God was with us everywhere. If he was, then why would he not be with us while we were outside in a garden. He finally agreed. I spent more time agonizing over having a Destination wedding and went through all of the options mentioned here. I can tell you that I spilled alot of tears over my decision. No one helped to make it easy. But finally decided that we would suck up the budget no matter what and would figure it out.
Finally, I had to say be there or not, that is up to you. Selfish or not, I knew that I would always regret not having a Disney wedding but I also knew that my dad would be there for me. Sometimes our parents are used to having us do what they want and they don't understand how we have grown up.
Do I think you should pay for your mother to come?
Nope. If she would like to attend, she is more than willing to pay to come.
What about her being alone?
My 87 year old grandmother came. I was really worried about her being by herself. She told me not to worry about it, that she would be fine on her own. In that spirit, have her look at the UK forums on this board and chat with some people that will be going down at the same time to see if she could hang out. There is also an adults and singles forum. She does not have to stay the 3 weeks. If she does come, plan to have a special dinner with her during that time.
Remember that you should not have to give up anything to have your dream wedding or your honeymoon. I think you figure out by yourself what you can compromise on, and what you are not willing. Make changes where you can, and always look into alternatives.
I hope that this helps! I think that all of us who have done a Disney wedding have hit these hot spots.
Everyone,
Even though most of us know the difficulties in having a Destination wedding. (Which btw is NOT the same as planning a fun family vacation =)) But to add on top of this an international destination wedding I am sure adds to the difficulity 100 fold. Sam can contest to this fact. The expense alone is prohibited. That being said, Summer should have the wedding that she dreams of.
My story
I decide I wanted a Disney wedding eith my fiance. We did not want to have a wedding in the city where we live b/c of the multitudes of people (more than 300) we would have to invite and pay for. As it was we invited 78 to Disney. Way more than I wanted. To give you an idea we mainly paid for the wedding ourselves.
My dad had an adversion to me getting married in Disney. Come to find out it was b/c I was not getting married in a church. I asked him if God was with us everywhere. If he was, then why would he not be with us while we were outside in a garden. He finally agreed. I spent more time agonizing over having a Destination wedding and went through all of the options mentioned here. I can tell you that I spilled alot of tears over my decision. No one helped to make it easy. But finally decided that we would suck up the budget no matter what and would figure it out.
Finally, I had to say be there or not, that is up to you. Selfish or not, I knew that I would always regret not having a Disney wedding but I also knew that my dad would be there for me. Sometimes our parents are used to having us do what they want and they don't understand how we have grown up.
Do I think you should pay for your mother to come?
Nope. If she would like to attend, she is more than willing to pay to come.
What about her being alone?
My 87 year old grandmother came. I was really worried about her being by herself. She told me not to worry about it, that she would be fine on her own. In that spirit, have her look at the UK forums on this board and chat with some people that will be going down at the same time to see if she could hang out. There is also an adults and singles forum. She does not have to stay the 3 weeks. If she does come, plan to have a special dinner with her during that time.
Remember that you should not have to give up anything to have your dream wedding or your honeymoon. I think you figure out by yourself what you can compromise on, and what you are not willing. Make changes where you can, and always look into alternatives.
I hope that this helps! I think that all of us who have done a Disney wedding have hit these hot spots.
