mrsscooter
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jan 1, 2000
My husband and I eloped almost 12 years ago to Fort Lauderdale. I told my mom that we were doing that and she didnt beleive me. When we got back, we called and told her and she sobbed so hard, she made me sob. She went on about how I was her only daughter, the oldest, etc. and she had been dreaming of my wedding since I was a little girl, and now she was crushed because she never got to see me in my dress or walk down the isle or go through any of the planning, etc. She was really really hurt. She gave us a reception a few months after we got married, but it wasnt the same. She made me feel horrible, and rightfully so, because now after having a daughter (she's six) I think I would react the same way if Emily did what I did. I think what I am trying to say is that you only do this once, and if there is ever one person who should be there the most, is should be your parents, unless of course, there is no ties, etc. That is the most important thing to any parent, especially a mother. Just let her know that you would like her to "help" you make the plans, etc. But be firm with what you would like. I am sure that she understands that you will have "romantic couple things" planned after. Again, just an opinion.