Bridesmaid Hell

[CheshireVal]

I didn't have bridesmaids at my wedding.

I've been a bridesmaid in about four weddings, and I've never thought it fair when I was asked to buy an unflattering $100+ dress that I would never wear again.

I just could never do that to any of my friends.

 

[emilymad]

I just wanted to share in your pain! My friends wedding is in a month and it is so stressful!! The dress is fine but does have a train so it needs a bustle. I tried to find out from the bride how she wanted it done but I got no clear answer. So I had the streamstress do whatever she wanted. I have a feeling it is going to be different then everyone else I am going to hear about it!! Don't even get me started on the shoes.... The bride's mom picked out shoes. They are 4 inch heals and are a narrow peep toe. I have wide feet!!! They are so painful to walk in. I told the brides mom when she called to get my size that I have wide feet but that didn't seem to matter. The real kicker is that the shoes don't really match the gown. They are going up on ebay the second the wedding is over! Other then that I am really excited to be a bridesmaid.

 

[emilymad]

Also.... 32 is definitely not too old for strapless!!! My mom wore a strapless dress to my wedding and she is in her 50's. She looked fabulous!

 

[DISUNC]

When I read threads like this i just have to say.....

YES....Life is EASIER if you are a MAN!

 

[Missy1961]

Oh you poor thing. I hope things get better. I think you should reward yourself the day after the wedding--eat all the yummy things you haven't been able to --you deserve it.

When I hear about this kinds of brides, I realize how lucky I am. I was a bridesmaid in my older brother's wedding & for both of my sisters. (I was Maid of Honor for one of my sisters) In each case, the bride was wonderful. We bridesmaids had input into the dresses, the shoes, the flowers, everything. In fact, the sister I was MOH for was such a laid back bride she let us pick almost everything ourselves.

 

[TiggerStac]

This is the exact reason that I let my bridal party pick out there own dresses and shoes!! I peaked at dresses when I got mine and went back w/all but 1 person from my bridal party (she lives in PA and I'm in MA) I had picked out 5 or 6 dresses I liked and let them pick from there. They liked all of them. The one in PA went and looked/tried on too. They all liked the same one!! There was one that I liked better, but that was ok. I think this one fit them all great and it was easy to be remade. My jr bridesmaids mom actually made her dress by looking at their dress. We bought the fabric, so it would be the same dye lot. You would never know that the dress was made!! I don't even think I was there when they picked out the shoes. They all wanted sandals and went and got them on their own...they were all very similar, I think 3 ended up w/the same ones.

 

[binny]

is it here?

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[mrsltg]

is it here?

http://www.uglydress.com/

HAHAHA!!! It's not there - yet!!! Unfortunately, my other cousin (also suckered, I mean 'asked') and I picked the dress. Of course, it was presented in a completely different color combo (it had to be strapless, though) that would have been attractive on virtually anyone. It is the Easter egg color combo that makes this one a treat!

 

[rie'smom]

Erin,maybe you can donate the dress to WDW after the wedding. Maybe Drizella and Anastasia need a new frock.

 

[princess pooh]

I didn't have bridesmaids at my wedding.

I've been a bridesmaid in about four weddings, and I've never thought it fair when I was asked to buy an unflattering $100+ dress that I would never wear again.

I just could never do that to any of my friends.

I had bridesmaids but I feel the same way you do. I told my friends they could wear whatever they wanted as long as it wasn't white. They might not have looked fabulous stading together in all those different coloured dresses, but at least they were comfortable with what they were wearing.

I once had to pay $400 for a lilac gown that looked terrible on me. I felt so ugly the whole night and couldn't wait to get it off. I hope my bridesmaid hell days are over!

 

[freakylick]

I didnt want to be one of those brides. I only had a maid of honor,one bridesmaid and a flowergirl. I chose the color for the dress and my maid of honor who was shopping with me for my dress chose a dress in the color i liked. She tried on two(both of which i liked) and it just so happened the one i liked the best is the one she chose. my bridemaid ( sis in law to be at the time) as far as i know also liked the dress. Sean and I did pick out the flowergirl dress which i know she loved since she's worn it again since. Shoes for the adults were to be dyed to match but my moh went shopping and couldnt find anything she liked in the dyeable styles so she bought a nice silvery colored shoe and asked my approval. At that point i told sis in law to pick whatever shoe she wanted. They were on their own for hair/makeup. http://www.geocities.com/freakybaby28/ourpage.html
I hope no one hated what they had to wear at my wedding.(comments welcome)
Renee

 

[bubie2.5]

Vent ahead -
I also must have my wrap fashioned (altered $$$) in such a way so as to match all of the other bridesmaids. Ummm - does over my forearm not match? We all must also have a bustle put on our dresses (yes, the pastel dress needs a bustle.) She'd also like me to not look "too busty". HELLO! I am a DD and you are putting me in a stapless gown - if the ladies make an appearance it's your own fault!!!

 

[kpm76]

I don't think 32 is too old for strapless! I'm going to be 33 this year and I really don't feel that old!

To each their own. I didn't mean to imply that 32 is old but I really do not like strapless at all. I don't like the way it fits or looks.

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

I picked out the dresses for my 2 bridesmaids, but DH and I bought their dresses for them and said they could do what they wanted with the dresses afterwards. One woman donated hers to a charity that provides prom dresses for low-income girls, and the other had hers altered to tea length and has worn it a few times since then.

I let them use whatever shoes they wanted since I was once in a wedding where the bride was neurotic about our shoes. She picked out the ones she wanted us to wear, which would be fine except I have tiny feet (size 4 to 5 depending on the maker) and the shoes she picked out didn't come any smaller than a size 6. When I told her the sizing issue, she about had a fit! She actually told me to find a way to get my feet to grow in time for her wedding! She then asked me to wear the size 6 shoes and "just deal with it". I tried to explain that I wouldn't be able to walk very well in shoes 2 sizes too big for me, and I certainly couldn't dance in them later, but she wasn't buying it.

So I bought the size 6 shoes, and also bought a pair of shoes in a similar style but that fit me. Sure enough, she made me wear the too big shoes during the ceremony and sure enough I stumbled a few times and could barely walk up the steps in the sanctuary, and I nearly fell coming down. I changed my shoes after the ceremony and didn't tell the bride. I don't think she really noticed...although to this day she still talks about how her wedding video is almost perfect except for the times the camera catches me stumbling, and how a few of the guests thought I must have been drunk because I was having a difficult time walking!!

 

[cybrkitn]

I can understand how you feel. I practically did the same thing to my Matron of Honor and bridesmaids with the dresses. I couldn't understand what the big deal was and in my way of thinking at the time, I was the one who was right.

Now in hindsight, I couldn't believe how I was and realized it was the pressures of putting together my wedding. What everyone was asking of me wasn't that big of a deal and I could have been more reasonable than I was.

That's probably the case with your cousin. She's most likely stressed out with planning and the actual big day itself that she isn't thinking straight.

to you.

 

[Octoberbride03]

TG I haven't been in many weddings. For my own, I chose the color. The girls chose the rest including which shade of green they wore. Both looked great and everybody was happy. I didn't say anything about the shoes, as long as they wore them I was happy. As for your shoes try Zappos, they often have a lot of hard to find items and no shipping costs. If you can find them there sign up for the newsletter and post in the Shoe Detective cloumn. Somebody always has an answer and other sites are allowed to be mentioned in the newsletter.

GL

 

[Jennifer S]

I know what you mean. I'm (and so are my two DS's) in my sister's wedding this July. Between showers, wedding attire, gifts, hotel etc. I am spending the same as you. The only difference - and it's BIG- is that I LOVE my dress.

Good luck!!

 

[Disney Doll]

I had to wear a bridesmaid dress once that was lavender, with elbow length gloves and carry a parasol. The dress also had a plastic hoop that went under the skirt to make it stand out a la Scarlett O'Hara.

It was not strapless, but was off the shoulder, and since my "girls" are rather well-endowed, I lived in constance fear of them making an appearance throughout the day.

BTW, my groomsmen in the wedding had a pick-up truck that I had to get in to, in this outfit, to get from the church to the recetion.

 

[LSchrow]

No sympathy. I had to wear a forest green cotton dress with HUGE and I mean HUGE cabbage roses on it in pink and peach. The skirt was tiered/ruffled - knee lenth in the front and tea length in the back. It was fitted with a dropped skirt so the skirt did not flare from my waist - it flared from my hips so the bodice was skin right from top to hip area it also had - OF COURSE a belted in the middle of the waist that ended in a HUGE bow right on my already huge rump.

Seriously - change the fabric to the above - lower the first tier to the hip area - add a belt/rump bow and take off all but the purple ruffle on those sleeves and this is just about what I was wearing.

Quit your complaining and consider yourself lucky

just curious, did you have fishnet stockings too?
stunning

 

[Disneyaunt4]

I was thinking the same thing. I want to see the dress. PLEASE