Boys will be boys???

[Regina]

My DS is the oldest, followed by two DD's. I never got the "boys will be boys" mentality. I didn't have a separate set of rules for DS. Good behavior was taught and expected of all three.

I can only imagine what their house looks like if she attributes ripping off doors to being a boy.

 

[ducklite]

dragging in the perfect muddy stick to be a light saber.

LOLOL!! That is so true and so "boy" and so funny!

Anne

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

Yeah, you gotta love boys! Good thing, too--I'm getting another one! Of course, to my "girlie" eyes, one muddy stick looks pretty much the same as another, but it's not worth arguing about.

 

[minkydog]

Boys and girls definitely have a different "world view"--anyone who tells you that there aren't differences has never had one of each! Boys love weapons and destruction and getting messy. Some girls do, too, but are more likely to make a mess doing crafts than they are dragging in the perfect muddy stick to be a light saber.

I think this is a fair assessment of the differences between boys & girls. I see it in my own kids. I witnessed my son, then about 6 with his girl cousin, then 7, who were playing in the yard together when a small bird flew in a started pecking around. The girl cousin whispered,"oooh look! a bird! let's watch it." DS shouted, "HEY! a BIRD! Let's GET IT!!" Boys & girls

 

[MamaLema]

I have 3 boys. Like PP stated, I think that is "lazy parenting". My boys have done their fair share of destroying things but I have never used that as an excuse.

 

[dismom9761]

WelL I have two boys and two girls.I used to use the phrase boys will be boys alot before my last daughter was born She is way more active and aggresive than they ever thought to be.But I expect my boys to behave and show the same respect as my DD does.My Dr. keeps saying that my DS8 is 110% boy He is mildly destructive but not usually on purpose.And he is held responsible when he is.It is all about what they are taught and the consequences that they receive.If a parent allows them to get away with bad behavior why should they stop?

 

[rigs32]

If you start excusing behavior as "boys beinig boys" now, then what are they going to do as teenagers when a date isn't interested in the same level of intimacy as they are?

"Boys will be boys" has been used too many times to excuse sexual assualt. If a small child hears mom and dad excusing their indulgent behavior simply because of thei gender, what's going to stop them from engaging in indulgent behavior when they hit puberty?

 

[safetymom]

My son was a lot more mellow than my daughters. My son though enjoyed looking and staring at the smallest things for a long time. Son was always into cars but never was a bully or destructive.