Boy Trouble

[disneyfav4ever]

So you think perpetuating a lie for 2 years is okay?

I think the OP said that she was probably going to break up with him.

 

[Galahad]

In the words of Kelly Clarkson, "Walk Away."

I thought Joe Walsh said that........

 

[sweet angel]

I think the OP said that she was probably going to break up with him.

She seems undecided. If he could lie about his age for 2 years, what ELSE has he lied about.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Okay, then I am placing you at 30'ish....

You should be mature enough to see this man for what he is.


1. He is a LYER!!!

2. If he hasn't got himself together by 45 years of age, ( and overcome all of these issues and problems that 'are not his fault') he NEVER will...

This has NOTHING to do with whether it is okay to 'flirt' and carry on a pseudo-relationship (have a little fun) with another man. ( it isn't )

This has everything to do with you making the right decisions for the right reasons.
You do not need to complicate things, and then end up having to end the relationship for all the wrong reasons.

You do not need to be saddled and commited to this kind of a man.
Based on what limited info you have posted, he is offering you nothing but a share of his problems and issues. I hope you are not okay with that.

Make the decision to leave... and then after taking a look at your own issues and your own needs, pursue an appropriate relationship.

You deserve better.

 

[vettechick99]

He is 45? Heck I am 42.

If someone is having as much trouble as he is at that age, my advice to you is to run like like hell.

Even at age 35 you should have some of his issues squared away.

This guy is BAD NEWS. What else is he lying about? More than likely, ALOT!

ditto! Plus, the fact that you two dated for 2 years and he's 45 is odd to me. When you get to be older you know they are right within a few months. Why drag it out 2 years and then be all roller coastery? Anyone KWIM?

Time to ride off into the sunset. Happy trails to yooooooooouuuuu...

 

[grlpwrd]

ditto! Plus, the fact that you two dated for 2 years and he's 45 is odd to me. When you get to be older you know they are right within a few months. Why drag it out 2 years and then be all roller coastery? Anyone KWIM?

Time to ride off into the sunset. Happy trails to yooooooooouuuuu...

Yes, I KWYM.... plus it all seems too "convenient" that she claims she learned a secret in such a short period of time from the time she first posted.

Please stop "playing" us... and go back to doing your homework. lol

 

[Wishing on a star]

Exactly vettechick!!!

That is why I posted in my original comments that I had been in a relationship for about 3 years before DH. If it ain't right after 2 years, and things aren't moving forward... It is time to face reality. ESPECIALLY if the man is 45 years old!!!

If he isn't stepping up to the plate now, he ain't never gonna.

If he is making comments like "I would understand if you leave." that is another huge red flag. He is showing the OP the door, definately not talking about commitment.

If the OP truly does not realize this at this point, then a huge wake-up call is in order.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Yep, I have been wondering if I smell a troll... but I am not going to make that assumption quite yet.

Most of what the OP has posted really reeks of some kid trying to play on the big-boys board. I mean... 'BOY TROUBLE'. What 30 year old uses that terminology???

 

[disneyfav4ever]

In the words of Kelly Clarkson, "Walk Away."

I thought her song was "Breakaway."

 

[KimD]

I thought her song was "Breakaway."

It is/was...but she also has another that's 'Walk Away'.

And I agree, I wouldn't just walk away I'd be runnin' away! That's a long time to lie and just ewe on the whole old enough to be you're dad deal....

 

[babymine]

Yes, I KWYM.... plus it all seems too "convenient" that she claims she learned a secret in such a short period of time from the time she first posted.

Please stop "playing" us... and go back to doing your homework. lol

I'm not a troll, and I'm not a child. I just didn't want to post under my username because my boyfriend knows I'm on these forums, and what name I post under.

 

[sweet angel]

I'm not a troll, and I'm not a child. I just didn't want to post under my username because my boyfriend knows I'm on these forums, and what name I post under.

I'm sure he won't notice email responses titled "Boy Trouble"...

Best of luck to you.

 

[PrincessTiff]

If he is making comments like "I would understand if you leave." that is another huge red flag. He is showing the OP the door, definately not talking about commitment.

That should definitely raise a red flag. It sounds to me like he's either trying to get her to end it because perhaps he's either too much of a coward to end it himself or he's seeing someone else.

 

[MELSMICE]

She seems undecided. If he could lie about his age for 2 years, what ELSE has he lied about.

She does seem undecided, but regardless of what is going on, I would imagine it's just not cut & dry to her as to whether she should end the relationship.

She obviously has feelings for the guy if they've been dating for 2 years - you don't just turn them off.

That should definitely raise a red flag. It sounds to me like he's either trying to get her to end it because perhaps he's either too much of a coward to end it himself or he's seeing someone else.

I agree that he may be saying those thing so that you (OP) do the "dirty work" of the break-up, which is fine at this point if you ask me!!!

 

[Dr.Snark]

Have you consulted Evan or Ryan or Matt?

And does your old boy or new boy walse well?

she didn't say she was pregnant with boys maybe girls, so I am not sure if it is the same poster. Although it has the same adolescent quality to it.

OP - if you are not the infamous tween that posts here regularly with different "adult" problems, then I think you need to dump the lying guy.