Bizarre, Creepy Incident w/My DD and Potential Pervert (long)

[Skywalker]

I did take exception to someone calling me "sad" because I don't force my children to accept physical affection from other people.

I called you sad, and I directly quoted the line I was talking about, and it was not because you don't force your children to accept physical affection from other people. What you said was, "I would never pick up or handle a child - not even my own child - just because I wanted to, no matter how innocent my intentions." That is what I said was sad, just for the record.

 

[Beth76]

He stopped what he was doing and came out to the reception area unasked. My daughter wasn't making a peep. She wasn't crying, wasn't fussing, wasn't touching anything. We never would have left the reception area, if this guy hadn't come out to engage my daughter in an activity..........Drop what you are doing and deliberately go out of your way to make contact? Weird.

Do you know for certain that he specifically left his office to find your daughter? I ask because you seem to think he intentionally went out of his way. That seems to be a big factor here, like he had a "kid radar" or something. Is it possible that he just happen to leave his office for something and ran into you two? I say this to help you ease your own mind as you seem to think he might have tracked down your daughter when really he was just walking by. The bold statement above implies something sinister when that may not be what happened at all.

 

[simpilotswife]

Maybe you should just tell your attorney what happened and that it made you uncomfortable. Don't use damaging language but maybe couch it in the terms of them needing to talk to the attorney about how it appeared and how future actions by this person could possibly be misinterpreted by someone looking for a reason to sue the organization.

 

[YourMajesty]

Just out of curiosity where was this copier...in the hallway? I would have felt a little "funny" seeing someone I didn't know help my DS make a copy of his hands...although in an office setting with people around I would lean toward thinking it was nothing more. I hope you feel better and of course we can always make a new mentle note on how to handle situations that catch us "off guard". I did many a time...

 

[FayeW]

I really, really think you need to stop worrying about this! It's over, nothing harmful happened to your daughter. All she know's is that some man made copies of her hands. It seems that the longer this discussion continues, more sinister characteristics are assigned to this guy! She's Ok, she wasn't harmed, and you have to stop beating yourself up.

 

[va32h]

I called you sad, and I directly quoted the line I was talking about, and it was not because you don't force your children to accept physical affection from other people. What you said was, "I would never pick up or handle a child - not even my own child - just because I wanted to, no matter how innocent my intentions." That is what I said was sad, just for the record.

Well, I still stand by that. Let's say I want to pick up my 2yo for a quick cuddle. I pick her up and she says "put me down mommy". I put her down. My intentions are innocent, I want a cuddle, but she doesn't feel like it, so I respect that.

Maybe I greet my son after school with open arms, expecting a kiss, but he had a lousy day so he stomps past me into the car. I don't demand that he come back and give me a hug and a kiss.

I really don't find that sad.

 

[va32h]

Do you know for certain that he specifically left his office to find your daughter? I ask because you seem to think he intentionally went out of his way. That seems to be a big factor here, like he had a "kid radar" or something. Is it possible that he just happen to leave his office for something and ran into you two? I say this to help you ease your own mind as you seem to think he might have tracked down your daughter when really he was just walking by. The bold statement above implies something sinister when that may not be what happened at all.

You're right, Beth, I am letting my imagination get the better of me. I think if I had used less dramatic language in my original post, I wouldn't have started such an emotionally loaded thread. Sometimes things just strike a nerve, and affect you in ways you don't expect. I think this was one of those times.

Anyway, I've decided that when I see my lawyer on Wednesday, I will mention it to her, just in passing, with the caveat that I know it mind sound silly, but it just bothered me that so-and-so (I will have to find out his name, since I don't know it) took my child out of the office without speaking to me or introducing himself to me.

 

[lillygator]

I would never pick up or handle a child - not even my own child - just because I wanted to, no matter how innocent my intentions.

umm so how did that work before they knew how to let you know it was ok to have a hug?

That is really extreme...yes, you can be really respectful of an individual's space/body but I love nothing more than scooping up my kids and giving them a great big hug and kiss....what if your kids are really needing a hug (bad day) etc - I think it kind of kills it when you ask "ok if I give you a hug?".....

I think the photocopying is innocent. If he gave off a bad vibe, that's something you'll only know. I think you may have more underlying issues here as well.