Bitter people!

[Blondie]

How do you deal with them?

I'm dreading going in to work today, because I'm training a new girl today.

She is the most bitter soul I have ever met. She has a chip on her shoulder the size of Cincinatti! (sorry to any Cincinatti DISers!)

She can't seem to find the silver lining in anything and always has the most nasty comment to make about everything! From something as simple as eating dinner in the cafeteria, to walking to her parking space!

I'm so looking forward to her little comments about the other girls--once she feels comfortable enough at the job to do so.

Ugh!!!!!!! I wish I could call in sick!

 

[Pam]

I'm embarrassed to say that I usually get snippy back at them.

You could try being extra "chipper" to her, snippy, or just ignore her (and I imagine that would be quite hard as you are training her.)

Chin up!
Pam

 

[TimeforMe]

I work with someone just like that. Her job is receptionist and every time the phone rings or someone comes in, she has a nasty comment. That's her WHOLE job, for god's sake. I have learned to tune her out and even at times, joke about it. I can't believe this girl is NEW and is acting this way! You have my sympathy.

 

[Buckalew]

Blondie,
I'm checking in while eating lunch. LOL

It is a shame life doesn't have an ignore feature.

Since I work alone, I'd have to say that if they are really just miserable and I can't help them out, that'll be the last appointment they get with me. How did I do it before I worked alone and worked with 7 other women? I don't know.
Good luck.
Just remember that bitter epople are bitter for a reason. So, then they take it out on others.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Just keep reminding yourself what a miserable life she must have if she's like that. And then ignore her negativity as much as you can.

 

[caitycaity]

i either ignore them, or if i am having the kind of day where my ignore resistance isn't built up enough, i point out to them that they are being rude.

 

[browneyes]

I usually get extremely quiet around people like that.

 

[JAP]

I am with browneyes. I usually just smile, change the subject or just get real quiet.

Good luck Blondie. Hopefully the training will be over soon.

 

[Disney Doll]

If you're training her, can you say,"You know, your negativity really doesn't bode well for future relationships here at work" or something like that?

I know when I am orienting a new nurse to our unit, if I notice any kind of attitude thing, I immediately bring it to his/her attention, not in a nasty way, but it's only fair to let them know if they are giving off really negative vibes. That way, if it continues and they get fired, they've been warned.

 

[Blondie]

Originally posted by Buckalew
Just remember that bitter epople are bitter for a reason. So, then they take it out on others.

I agree with this to an extent.

I realize there are people out there who have had a rough life. But that does not excuse being bitterly rude or making nasty comments at the fact that they have to answer the phone when it rings! That is one of the reasons they are there...to answer the phones!

I wonder how people like this get hired in the first place!

 

[JasonLyons]

avoid them like the plauge

 

[Blondie]

Hard to do Jason since I am responsible for her training! I'll be paired up with her for the entire shift!

 

[JasonLyons]

what ever you do dont become one of them, there sickness spreads

 

[kejoda]

Doesn't sound like she will be there for long. A few complaints from people on the phone and she will be gone. Want us to make a few calls this afternoon blondie?

 

[CookieGVB]

I would ignore for a short time, but there would come a point when I'd ask, "Why did you take this job if you didn't like the responsibilities that came with it?"

I've actually done that with someone, and their attitude changed - at least while I was around.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Originally posted by JasonLyons
what ever you do dont become one of them, there sickness spreads

Sad, but this comment is true.

 

[Blondie]

The problem is Kejoda, we are so desperate for help, that we are hiring anyone....even people with no medical experience!

And Jason, I couldn't agree more.

Negativitiy breeds negativity.

She has a 12 year old daughter. I hope she isn't taking lessons from her mom!

 

[Boots]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} I am so sorry for you! I work with a lady who I believe would not be happy if she wasn't complaining, criticizing, or otherwise feeling like she is being mistreated. She is her own worse enemy!

 

[kejoda]

I'm sorry blondie that is a tough situation. Just be as postive as you can and go home and let loose on us.

 

[nativetxn]

Perhaps <b>you</b> should look on the bright side How long do you have to train her? Just think, her training won't last forever and you have the DIS so you have a place to vent

My mother's mother was the most bitter, vindictive, petty, malicious person I ever knew. There were no silver linings anywhere for her and she was only truly happy when she was making other people feel bad. Don't let this woman make <b>you</b> feel bad. Bitterness and meanness can be infectious. Try to keep smiling.