Birthday BBQ, does this seem cheap?

[GinnyEmma]

I just really thought the concept sad. One shouldn't have to feed people a meal. If they can or want to that is one thing.

 

[luvmy3]

So if a family can't afford a meal they arent worth celebrating? Sad. Another good reason to live in the Midwest.

That is not what I said, you are assuming things and you know what they say about that. In my region, a wedding consists of a ceremony at a Church, and a recpetion afterwords, it includes a meal. Thats just how its done here. Maybe before you jump to conclusions, you should educate yourself on the regional differences of how Weddings are celebrated.

 

[disykat]

Just an FYI, not serving a meal at a wedding is regional. I live in NY and there would never be a wedding here without a meal served at the reception.
I honestly don't know if that pp is young, or a troll but just wanted to point out that in some areas a meal is always served to wedding guests

And in many areas it is NOT expected and, yes, people happily attend weddings anyway!

 

[luvmy3]

And in many areas it is NOT expected and, yes, people happily attend weddings anyway!

And thats fine, but because someone thinks a meal has to be served (because THAT is what is ALWAYS done in many areas) doesn't make them "young" and inexperienced at attending weddings, or "a troll".

 

[disfan07]

I don't think that is what she meant... We are in the south. VERY few weddings have meals, but most do have more that cake and punch. AT least in our area, an after rehersal meal is common just for the wedding party and close family and a reception for all follows the wedding. Most weddings do heavy finger foods but that is somewhat a newer trend. Twenty-five years ago, cake and punch was served the night before the wedding and nothing after the wedding. That sorta evolved to cake and punch after the wedding and more food slowly added.

Most weddings are church focused with the whole church, thus a lot of people, invited so this a big difference in what people may be able to afford to do.

It definitely sounds like it is very regional. I have only ever been to weddings in the Northeast (including northern virginia....I don't consider NoVa to be the south) and in California (both LA and San Francisco). And I have never heard of a wedding without a meal.

And that's the other difference from what I have experienced. Many things like this in the South seem to be very focused around the Church. I have only been to Jewish and non-denominational weddings. So the wedding ceremony is a focus but it's not the same way like it is with church weddings. I mean, Jewish weddings are a huge deal but as I said before, there is no such thing as a Jewish holiday, ceremony or celebration WITHOUT a lot of food. It's just what we do.

 

[aprilgail2]

You must either be a troll or very, very young. I've probably been to 50-75 weddings with no food besides cake, nuts and mints. Never made me unhappy.

Good point.

I am neither a troll nor young and yet I have only been to ONE wedding out of at least 50 that didn't include a full sit down meal for the reception- and that one wedding was in Virginia. Around here to invite a bunch of people to your wedding and not serve them food you would be considered a young rude troll!

 

[clarabelle]

The wedding thing is definitely cultural. Growing up in the south cake and punch receptions were perfectly acceptable.
The up side is that twenty five dollar wedding gifts were acceptable too.

 

[Belle5]

The wedding thing is definitely cultural. Growing up in the south cake and punch receptions were perfectly acceptable.
The up side is that twenty five dollar wedding gifts were acceptable too.

How true it is!

I grew up in a very "old world" part of the northeast. Even if you were poor your family was expected to feed everyone at a wedding reception.

It was such a refreshing eye-opener to move to Texas where a cake and punch reception is still acceptable. No young couples putting off marriage indefinitely because they can't "afford" a big reception. No expensive gifts expected, either! No pressure for families to go into debt to host an event they can't afford!

 

[C.Ann]

Although it is very rarely done now, there was a time when the wealthiest of the wealthiest did not serve a "meal" (sit-down or otherwise) for weddings.. The food offering consisted soley of champagne and wedding cake - nothing more..

Although I don't drink alcoholic beverages, that would suit me fine..

 

[pigletto]

16 pages about hot dogs. Only on the budget board. I could see maybe if she was cooking them out of a coffee pot at Pop Century where it might inspire this type of response. Otherwise.. who cares???!!!!!

OP.. I would have happily enjoyed your hotdog bar, and I would have happily enjoyed your pasta bar too. And if there was nothing I felt like eating I would have happily enjoyed the party for your child.

Life is too short people.