Bikini waxing....for an 8 year old!?!?!?

[Disneyglobegirl]

Yikes!! 8 years old is way too young!!

Unfortunately my DD is very hairy - she just started middle school and I'm sure she will be asking about getting her eyebrows and upperlip done soon. She started asking about what she could do last year in 5th and I explained waxing and she said she wasn't ready for that yet so I bought some bleach and I help her bleach her upperlip and she uses one of those little trimmers for her eyebrows. When she is ready we will take her to get her brows and lip waxed and I will even look into laser hair removal when the time comes. Kids are so mean that I will help her take care of things but only when she is ready.

 

[Magic Mom]

Tht's so offensive in so many ways.

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

This may be TMI but I am 42 and had my first bikini wax last year!
8????!

This may also be TMI but I am 40 and I have never had anything waxed! And I don't plan on it either!!!!

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

OMG! Ridiculous.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

I wouldn't let an 8 year old have a bikini wax (that mom sounds nutty to me) but I'm otherwise totally fine with the idea of girls being able to remove hair as soon as they are socially bothered by it. I don't see it as sexual behavior, just a new norm for body hair that is easily achieved with a razor and a can of shaving cream in the shower. I do think it should be totally girl-led, though - no mom should introduce the idea to her daughter before the daughter has come to that conclusion on her own.

I agree.

I'm sympathetic to girls with a lot of hair, having been one myself and was pretty traumatized as a kid. My DD had a really hairy back when she was little, but was too young to realize it, and it went away, thankfully. The only hairy person in the family now is my DS (15) (legs, not back/chest) and the only one who ever commented on that is my best friend, and she went on and on about it. But then, she's English/Irish and her DH is Chinese, so her kids are pretty hairless.

 

[Par8hed]

I see no point whatsoever in bikini waxing for an 8 year old.


But to be clear, I am a big proponent of bikini waxing a little further down the line. I'm glad the 1960's have passed.

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

Reason #998 why I'm glad my DS is a DS and NOT a DD.

Now, eyebrow shaping or mustache/facial hair waxing in upper elem (say 4th or 5th grade) I can understand. Especially if I had a DD like myself who had very dark hair and tended to be rather on the hairy side. I know for myself, I wax my arms and my upperlip and any chinhairs I see growing out because it's totally gross to me.

I used to just wax my upper lip and chin until one day when I was working and a guy reached over, PETTED AND STROKED my arm and told me he liked "natural' girls. When I got off work that night, I drove home and RAN to the bathroom to shave all my arm hair off. I've been doing it ever since.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

I was working and a guy reached over, PETTED AND STROKED my arm and told me he liked "natural' girls.

That's and all at the same time.

I liked a guy from Costa Rica who liked "natural" girls too. Only I still think there's a limit, and I had surpassed it. No "natural" for me, TY very much.

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

It was so freaking WEIRD the way he leaned WAY over the register (I was ringing up his purchase) to touch me. I was totally skeeved out.

I think the most 'natural' I ever get is in winter when I can usually convince myself to go a couple days without shaving because I'm wearing long pants or sweatpants anyway. More than 3 days though and I start to look like this:

 

[Minnie824]

The above is what struck me in the article...they're saying they can permanently stop the hair growth??

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

See, I am not a hair expert, but I don't think that you can do that unless you have laser hair removal done. Now, I've been told that if you repeatedly wax the hair will get thinner and easier to wax, but it won't go away entirely.

 

[luvmy3]

I wouldn't let an 8 year old have a bikini wax (that mom sounds nutty to me) but I'm otherwise totally fine with the idea of girls being able to remove hair as soon as they are socially bothered by it. I don't see it as sexual behavior, just a new norm for body hair that is easily achieved with a razor and a can of shaving cream in the shower. I do think it should be totally girl-led, though - no mom should introduce the idea to her daughter before the daughter has come to that conclusion on her own.

ITA

My dd is 10 and this was the first summer she was a little self conscious of her legs, they are hairy but its blond. I told her if she wanted to I could teach her to shave, but she said maybe next year. If she had issues with her bikini line, I would let her take care of it if she wanted to. She doesn't have any need to yet.
I don't know why an 8 year old would need a bikini wax, there can't possibly be any hair there

 

[nkjzmom]

Can I ask a question that may be TMI? How do you teach your daughters to shave their bikini area? My mother was no help at all. And I don't mean at 8 y.o. When they're old enough to need it.

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

I have no idea.
My mom didn't teach me either..I had to learn through trial and error.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

That story reminds me of the SNL "fake" commercial for Huggies thong diapers, "to get they ready for the other kind!"

how about letting the kids BE kids.

 

[minnieandme]

An 8 year old having a bikini wax?!! I know girls are developing earlier than me and my friends did, but I doubt they have hair already. Let little girls stay little for as long as possible so grown men can stop looking at them like they're women.

 

[angiedora]

I don't see the need for an 8 year old to have a bikini wax. There is nothing to wax. It seems to me this would be a quick way to make your daughter hate you!

I do speak from experience when I say there is nothing wrong with a gentle nudge in the direction of taking care of a unibrow issue. I am Unibrow, or I once was, till I discovered DIY wax kits. I remember the first time I was made fun of about my unibrow, I was in 6th grade. I went straight home and locked myself in the bathroom with a pair of tweezers. An agonizing 10 minutes later I emerged from the bathroom to hear my mother actually GASP. I had nearly tweexed all of my brows.

My next month at school, I wore a drawn on eyebrow, Thanks Mom.

It seems to me that at this point it would have been a good idea to teach me about eyebrow care, but my mother had never been waxed, maybe she didn't know what to say.


I do recall at my 12th birthday party receiving a tweezer, brow brush kit from one of the girls I invited. I was mortified.

So, for my own daughter, who inherited my hairiness, (DH is pretty hairy too lol) I actually did ask her if she wanted to have her brows waxed (between them only) as soon as I saw that she had taken an interest in her appearance 11ish. I just didn't want her to face the ridicule that I did because of a clueless parent.

She said she did! The person at the salon did go on and on about her being so young. HTH
Edited to add, I have noticed a decrease in the growth of my own unibrow. I now only get the stray hait between brows. Maybe there is something to them not coming back with repeated waxing.

 

[golfgal]

I don't see the need for an 8 year old to have a bikini wax. There is nothing to wax. It seems to me this would be a quick way to make your daughter hate you!

I do speak from experience when I say there is nothing wrong with a gentle nudge in the direction of taking care of a unibrow issue. I am Unibrow, or I once was, till I discovered DIY wax kits. I remember the first time I was made fun of about my unibrow, I was in 6th grade. I went straight home and locked myself in the bathroom with a pair of tweezers. An agonizing 10 minutes later I emerged from the bathroom to hear my mother actually GASP. I had nearly tweexed all of my brows.

My next month at school, I wore a drawn on eyebrow, Thanks Mom.

It seems to me that at this point it would have been a good idea to teach me about eyebrow care, but my mother had never been waxed, maybe she didn't know what to say.


I do recall at my 12th birthday party receiving a tweezer, brow brush kit from one of the girls I invited. I was mortified.

So, for my own daughter, who inherited my hairiness, (DH is pretty hairy too lol) I actually did ask her if she wanted to have her brows waxed (between them only) as soon as I saw that she had taken an interest in her appearance 11ish. I just didn't want her to face the ridicule that I did because of a clueless parent.

She said she did! The person at the salon did go on and on about her being so young. HTH
Edited to add, I have noticed a decrease in the growth of my own unibrow. I now only get the stray hait between brows. Maybe there is something to them not coming back with repeated waxing.

My boys have serious unibrow issues, DS13 gets his waxed and DS16 is GOING to get his done according to DD13 . Heck, DS13 has his eyebrow done before DD13 had anything done to hers. . I used to have to pluck, before there was such a thing as wax, my unibrow but I haven't had to in years. I don't know if it was the repeated plucking or old age kicking in .

 

[JR6ooo4]

What qualifies a professional license to be able to do things like that to a minor? I would think you would need to be a doctor or nurse before doing anything to private areas.

And what makes it not a crime for the parent to take the child to that sort of situation?

Mikeeee

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I have never understood the appeal of having a complete stranger wax your private areas, but then, I am pretty uptight about my body. To me, stuff like that should be taken care of in the comfort of your own home.

Now, shaving and things like eyebrow/facial hair waxing are different beasts entirely. I will admit to shaving my legs when I was in 5th grade (after much begging and pleading). I am a dancer and I hated the feel of tights on hairy legs, especially in the cold weather. Jeans or tights on freshly shaved legs is a great feeling, and for me it was about being comfortable, not about looks.

If a child is uncomfortable with an easily changeable aspect (such as a unibrown or hairy legs) than they should be given age appropriate tools. While I would love my child to love him/herself just the way they are, childhood and adolescence can be a difficult time. As another poster pointed out, children will just go ahead and do what they think they need to to remedy the problem. That seems a bit dangerous to me. From tweezing off your entire eyebrow to cutting yourself time and time again with a razor, it seems like the best option is to equip your child with the appropriate tools.

BTW: That salon owner who said that girls need to start waxing at six needs to get her head examined. I frankly have strong reservations about anybody who seeks out frequent contact with a child's private areas.