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[JoeThaNo1Stunna]

Huhhhhhhh, what is everyone talking about???

 

[EROS]

Every good thread on the DIS deserves a THEME SONG .............



Onward, Christian soldiers,
Marching as to war,
With the cross of Jesus
Going on before.
Christ, the royal Master,
Leads against the foe;
Forward into battle,
See His banners go.

Onward, Christian soldiers,
Marching as to war,
With the cross of Jesus
Going on before.

At the sign of triumph
Satan's host doth flee;
On then, Christian soldiers,
On to victory!
Hell's foundations quiver
At the shout of praise;
Brothers, lift your voices,
Loud your anthems raise!

 

[Blondie]

Why is it when these threads come up, I never have a clue? I must be pretty oblivious to something around here

I'm either oblivious, or just too involved with other things in RL to take notice.

Sorry you are upset Kristy.

 

[WDWHound]

You have to understand, some people see freedom of speech as freedom to be insensitive and rude in the name of making their point. I have no problem with people who disagree with me, but I have a big problem with people taking advantage of a sad and tragic situation just to try and make a point they have made a 1000 times before.

Its sad that some people feel its necessary to take advantage of other's sorrow to push their own personal agenda. A thread offering comfort for those who are grieving is not considered a forum for debate by most people. Its funny how many people demand respect for their points of view, but then behave disrespectfully towards others if they sense it will promote their cause.

One has to wonder the value of an opinion if the only way to promote it is to use such insensitive tactics.

 

[TigrLvsPooh]

This board kinda reminds me of Thanksgiving dinner. The WHOLE family is thrown together, grandma and grandpa, aunts and uncles, cousins, brother and sisters, etc. They drive in from all over the country to spend the holiday together, and each person arrives with a big smile and a hug for everyone.

Some family members you can't stand, maybe it's your bible beating first cousin who's trying to save your soul, or your gay brother who brought is "life partner", or your close minded grandpa who hates your nose ring, or your Dad walking in with another new girlfriend, but you put up with ALL of them every year so the family can be together for the holiday. Other family members you really can relate to and feel connected with. As the day continues you know there's bound to be some fighting, it wouldn't be Thanksgiving without it, but at the end of the meal everyone is laughing.

That's how I see this board. Sometimes people really pi$$ me off, but then I get over it. This is probably the only board on the internet with this much diversity. Old/young, men/women, rich/poor, educated/ignorant, it's really amazing we all have things in common.

The questionable posts don't bother me. I actually enjoy reading all the opinions on this board. I think some people just tend to be overly sensitive, and they take everything as a personal attack. Other people probably spend way too much time here and need to get a life. LOL

 

[bumcat]

Great post, tigrlvspooh. Here's what I don't understand. There will be a thread started about the death yet of another child. A certain person will post that God or/and the angels must have been on vacation, etc, etc. So many hate his response but continue to read everything he posts. Why if it keeps upsetting you do you continue to read everything this person post? Have any of you ever questioned the death of someone and wondered where was God? I know I have. Have any of you ever wondered why some children are killed so horribly but others escape? Is it not ok to express those opinions? I know I know he does it over and over and over and it's usually in bold letters. If this person believed in God and questioned such I sense that that would be ok for him to post and everyone would be telling him it's ok to doubt God but I strongly believe that he is disliked by so many because he is an atheist first. If he was a christian and spoke his doubts a million times on here I bet that would be ok, too.

 

[newmousecateer]

Just know that I will not post a thread that could be offending to people. I love it here on the DIS and do not want anyone not have me here.

I am a very compasionate person, but I guess my views on certain issues might not seem compasionate to others.



If I feel strongly about a certain issue I will just discuss it with DH so the rest of you wonderful people don't have to get "caught up" in any controversy I might originate.

Love "freedom of speach", but not at the expense of others.

Love you guys here on the DIS

 

[Disney Doll]

The secret to the "Ignore" feature, Momma, is to actually get to the point where you can truly ignore the people you have put on Ignore.

When I first put people on Ignore, I still tended to look at their posts, and,like you, would still get aggravated. Then one day I came to the conclusion that it was silly to let people I don't even know on an internet discussion board upset me, as they are probably not people whose lives would ever in any way ever affect mine. With Freedom of Speech comes Freedom of Choice, and that is the freedom I choose to exercise.

The DIS has become far more enjoyable for me since I adopted my new attitude.If some folks choose to be nasty,negative, and miserable all the time, they now have my sympathy, and prayers, rather than my anger. Thye anger is counterproductive, the symapathy and prayers may someday help them . But I still choose not to read their posts.

 

[Saffron]

Very well said WDWHound.

 

[Kama89]

There was a time when I let certain posters annoy me and rile me up. I finally let go of those emotions though, thankfully. I just figured life was way too short to allow someone's opinion bother me. After all, its only an opinion. I really started to examine why I was allowing it to anger me, and after alot of consideration, I finally let it go.

Three cheers for Snoopy!


I've adopted this philosophy here as well. I decided a long time ago not to expend my emotional energy on the people that upset me. Life is too short and too precious.

 

[Leota]

Wow! This ignore thing is great! Why didn't I try it sooner? Totally changes the whole thread.....

 

[bfeller]

Been around the boards long enough to know that once a thread is started that the replies can go in any direction. I also was once offended by the direction that a thread was taken by a DIS member and PM'd that member about their post. The member responded and then I let it go. Of course for a while that member was on my Ignore list, but then I found that the majority of the time that poster challenged me and my beliefs and often enlightened me about other issues. And at times(not many) I found that that the member and I agreed on some issues. I eventually took that person off my Ignore list and now read any replies from that person with a grain of salt and say to myself, "Isn't that just like ???"

So the lesson that I have learned is this:

Do not respond to the post. I believe that some of the posts are done to get a response from me(us) I will not play the game. And if I choose to play(respond to controversal post) then I know that things can get a little uncomfortable but only if I allow myself to be uncomfortable.

It is my choice to respond and keep the difference of opinions going.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Originally posted by NHAnn
My DH says "don't get in a pissing contest with a skunk". DH's advice is usually good. But DARN I wish those skunks would stay out of my yard. I know they usually don't bother you if you don't bother them, but then there they are, right in front of the garage, or someone has splattered one right in the middle of the street ...ya know?

Originally posted by MaryAnnDVC
....The nice thing about the skunk in the middle of the street, tho, is that eventually the stench goes away and that's the end of THAT one. ....

Originally posted by Goofyposter


Now THAT is a sad commentary on the state of mind of "that" 'person' to whom none of us are mentioning by name isn't!.....yer have ter wonder what's wrong with the head of that poster...

Yup...it's a real accomplishment ter get good folks 'upset' ain't it.

Originally posted by Judy from Boise
Yes, we have a right to freedom of speech
but, we have the priveledge of being kind.

Originally posted by Planogirl
I THINK that I know what you're talking about and if I'm right it puzzles me too sometimes. Why make the same point over and over again? It's like "OK, I know how you feel now give it a rest PLEASE!" However I suspect that it won't stop any time soon and that's really the way it should be as far as freedom to post goes.

Maybe the ignore feature would help at least for a while?

Originally posted by Leota
It's beyond me as well - it really seems to be some sort of sad, sick obsession with getting a rise out of people, almost in a control freak kind of way - the term sociopath comes to mind....
I try to ignore the rude comments & callousness - actually most of the time, I just cruise right over those posts - I'm not gonna bother reading them, because they are the same thing, over and over and over and over ad naseum........

Originally posted by DVCajun
I'm not even a regular on the CB, though I like to visit you guys occasionally. But even *I* get the drift of this thread. I agree too. It has inspired me to use my "ignore" feature! I hear it works quite well.

There's no accounting for a lack of class.

Originally posted by WDWHound
You have to understand, some people see freedom of speech as freedom to be insensitive and rude in the name of making their point. I have no problem with people who disagree with me, but I have a big problem with people taking advantage of a sad and tragic situation just to try and make a point they have made a 1000 times before.

Its sad that some people feel its necessary to take advantage of other's sorrow to push their own personal agenda. A thread offering comfort for those who are grieving is not considered a forum for debate by most people. Its funny how many people demand respect for their points of view, but then behave disrespectfully towards others if they sense it will promote their cause.

One has to wonder the value of an opinion if the only way to promote it is to use such insensitive tactics.

Originally posted by Leota
Wow! This ignore thing is great! Why didn't I try it sooner? Totally changes the whole thread.....

As it is fairly easy for me to get my post whacked on a thread like this, I thought it best to just quote others who express my thoughts quite well.

Additionally, (hope this is okay to say) as I have said several times in the past, as a moderator, I did not use the ignore feature, (rather counter productive to one of the the 'duties' of a moderator). However, several days after no longer a moderator, I started to use the ignore feature, and I must say, it works well. Certainly not a total solution, because the callousness still remains when the hurtful or demeaning drivel of some is quoted and displayed. Likewise, it is limited when whole threads are brought down, destroyed and sometimes closed or deleted by the moderators, (who only are trying to do their job of keeping a modicum of decorum on the board), after threads have been turned into an agenda promulgating personal stage for some.

But, as Leota said,

Wow! This ignore thing is great! Why didn't I try it sooner? Totally changes the whole thread.....

It does help, some. For the many folks who have expessed here on this thread, as well as many times in the past on similar threads, the displeasure of the hurtful, hateful nature of some, I would simply suggest trying the ignore feature. And as Disney Doll said,

The secret to the "Ignore" feature, Momma, is to actually get to the point where you can truly ignore the people you have put on Ignore.

Good luck, Momma, and {{hugs}}.

 

[JohnTBap]

Originally posted by TigrLvsPooh
This board kinda reminds me of Thanksgiving dinner. The WHOLE family is thrown together, grandma and grandpa, aunts and uncles, cousins, brother and sisters, etc. They drive in from all over the country to spend the holiday together, and each person arrives with a big smile and a hug for everyone.

Some family members you can't stand, maybe it's your bible beating first cousin who's trying to save your soul, or your gay brother who brought is "life partner", or your close minded grandpa who hates your nose ring, or your Dad walking in with another new girlfriend, but you put up with ALL of them every year so the family can be together for the holiday. Other family members you really can relate to and feel connected with. As the day continues you know there's bound to be some fighting, it wouldn't be Thanksgiving without it, but at the end of the meal everyone is laughing.

EXCELLENT ANALOGY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!





I myself am partial to that cousin no one ever mentions by name but everyone poorly alludes to.....

 

[Planogirl]

I myself am partial to that cousin no one ever mentions by name but everyone poorly alludes to.....

I actually like that cousin myself but I had to let a few things go at first too because I wanted to have fun here and not worry too much about what others thought. Once I relaxed I found that I could appreciate everyone else's viewpoint even if the cousin was a bit annoying at times. I still don't see the point but I guess that I don't have to.

I still think that the ignore feature is a good one to use if it really gets to you.

 

[minniepumpernickel]

I have no idea who we are talking about, because I have detatched myself from the personal dramas that seem to erupt on occasion. I think that it's good to use the internet as an informative tool, and for entertaining, and debating but when it comes to 'true' communication nothing beats real life. JMHO.

That being said, perhaps you are dealing with a child, or a child like mind? From what people are saying, it almost sounds like when a little kid always says "me", "me", "me". An immature psyche only sees the world as how it affects "him" as opposed to how others see it. Who knows, life is too short to try to psychoanalyze people on the net....

(The post is not meant to offend!!)

 

[Lucky4me]

Great analogy tigrlvspooh! Now if we only had an ignore feature we could use at Thanksgiving dinner. lol

It truly amazes me that threads like these will get 2000 views in a day. I'm not passing judgement because well, I've been here twice already today, lol. It's just amazing how we humans tick.

Look at the poor vacation threads on this board. There are 1675 less views on those than this one, when those are really what this site is supposed to be all about. Just one of things that makes me go hmmmm.

 

[TigrLvsPooh]

JTB liked my post???? I must be dreaming!!



Now see, if 2 people fighting over the same man can see eye to eye then shouldn't we all just get along???

 

[Disneymomma]

just scroll down and ignore them. That's what I do. Lifes too short to spend time getting upset. Sometimes it is good to hear an opposite belief. (Not to the point where it is inflicting pain upon another however.) Lately, that is what I have done-just cut out the parts (Or people in my life.) that cause problems/inflict pain. Sorry you are aggravated.

 

[6_Time_Momma]

As I said, I do use the Ignore feature. However, it has gotten to the point where all I have to do is see the individual's name and I know what it says.

As stated earlier, freedom of speech is one thing, but it should not be at the expense of the feelings of others, which it unfortunatley is in these cases.

So, I guess I will just have to skip over many of the threads that i want to read in order to save myself the aggravation.