Best Friend's Dad is dying!

[Lezah]

Just got a phone call from my best friend from high school. We've gotten back in contact over the last 3 years since she found me again through the internet. Her Dad has been suffering from lung cancer and basically has been palliative for the last year. She just called and has been summoned home (she lives 6 hours away) to be there. Her Dad fell asleep yesterday at 10am and had been sleeping since (at least at 2:30 when she called he was). He is on morphine and oxygen (which he didn't want as he wanted to die with dignity), but we are glad he has accepted it as it will make the end easier for him and everyone around him. I am so heartbroken for her as I know how difficult it will be for her and her family. I've been praying for them since I found out and figured where else to get more support and prayer for her than to post here for my friends at the DIS. I just want to surround them all with love and hope that his transition will be as easy as it can be. Thanks for listening.

 

[Dan Murphy]

How very caring of you, Lezah. Always sad, always. My prayers are he will pass on in comfort and his family, your friend included, are able to accept and find comfort also in his passing, sad though it be. My very best for everyone.

 

[preshi]

I just wanted to give you a

I am going through the same thing with my best friends father, who has been more of a father to me than my own Dad.

You are all in my thoughts.

 

[Lezah]

Thanks for the good thoughts Dan (I knew I could count on you!) and Preshi (Hugs and good thoughts to you and your friend as you go through the same thing). I didn't know where else to go to cause DH wasn't home yet and DS doesn't quite understand why I'm upset about it. I just keep praying and putting my arms around her in spirit as she travels the highway back to Canada. It may sound selfish, but I'm hoping he waits until she gets there. I just know that she will be heartbroken if he doesn't (even though she says she has said all she needs to him). It will make it a little easier to know that she was there holding his hand and being there for her Mom and sister. Thanks again for listening.

 

[AuroraluvsPhillip]

Prayers being said for this gentleman and his family, especially your girlfriend. At least he accepted the minor treatments so that he can be a little more comfortable. Very sad indeed...

 

[Robinrs]

It took me awhile to answer this thread.... the words hit me like a brick...

Be there for her. She will need you now. Just listen to her and let her cry. Just be there.

God bless,

Robinrs

 

[chell]

Prayers on the way.

 

[mommytotwo]

Prayers are going out to him and his family .

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Originally posted by Robinrs
It took me awhile to answer this thread.... the words hit me like a brick...

Be there for her. She will need you now. Just listen to her and let her cry. Just be there.

God bless,

Robinrs

Ditto Robin, me too......

My prayers go out to you all.
Please know that while I didn't answer the moment I saw this, I did send out a quick prayer....you weren't alone.

 

[Lewski709]

Just went through this yesterday. My best friend from high schools dad died Monday from Cancer. He was 58. It was tough, but all you can do is show your support to her. Frankly, it was a blessing that the suffering ended. It had been 9 long months and her dad and step-mom lost their house and everything.

 

[Lezah]

Thanks again to all of you for your prayers and good thoughts. I just added the family to our church prayer chain too. Not as many as the DIS, but every one helps. I will let you know when I hear anything more, but please know that I appreciate my DIS friends so much.

 

[Disney Doll]

Be there in support of your friend through the coming difficult days. I always tell people who are going through this that the final act of love you can do for someone who has fought a long battle with illness is to let them pass on without trying all kinds of invasive things to keep them alive for another day. The Morphine and the oxygen are really for comfort more than anything else.

I will pray for your friend.

 

[skuttle]

Four years ago my friend's dad also died of cancer. It was really tough on everyone. Just be sure to be there for your friend...sometimes you don't even have to say anything at all. And don't be afraid to make jokes and laugh...I know sometimes it doesn't seem right to joke and laugh at such a time, but I know my friend appreciated some lighthearted conversation during that time.

 

[Lezah]

Just wanted to let everyone that replied know. My best friend's Dad passed away last night . The visitation is tomorrow and the funeral is on Sunday. My family and I are leaving tomorrow for a weeks vacation at a cottage up north (I had a feeling this was when it would happen). So we are leaving later than we thought so we can go to the visitation on the way up. There is no way that I could go to the cottage without being there for her. I would stay for the funeral too, but we are going with my folks and we are only taking the one car up. My DH has offered to bring me back on Sunday for the funeral, but it is a 2-3 hour drive each way and I don't know if I could ask him to do that. My friend has already told me not to worry and go up to the cottage as planned. She told me I have already been there for her and have always been (as she has been for me too!) and she understands completely that we are now on holiday. There is no way that I could live with myself if I didn't go tomorrow to the funeral home. Anyway, I just wanted to let you all know. Thanks for listening.

 

[onecoolmama]

 

[chell]

s and prayers to you, your friend and her family

 

[Pooh93]

Prayers for your friend's family and you.

 

[meeshi]

My thoughts and prayers will be with your friend and her family.