Bereavement leave?

[maslex]

Just curious what your company's policy is on bereavement leave. I guess not so much their "policy" but how long do you get off of work for the death of:

parent-
spouse-
child-
grandparent-

etc-

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Grandparent, probably just part of the day of the funeral.

Parent, spouse, or child, up to 3 days.

 

[sam_gordon]

Just curious what your companies policy is on bereavement leave. I guess not so much their "policy" but how long do you get off of work for the death of:

parent-
spouse-
child-
grandparent-

etc-

We get three days off with pay for immediate family (spouse, children, parents, siblings, and corresponding in-laws).

 

[eliza61]

We get three days off with pay for immediate family (spouse, children, parents, siblings, and corresponding in-laws).

SWEET LORD Sam. Your spouse dies abd you only get 3 days. I swear I can never leave my company.
My dh died in 2012 and I got 30 days pay leave and stayed out 5 months without worry.

 

[maslex]

Oh wow, seems to be normal to get 3 days for immediate family then.

When my father passed away 2 years ago, I got 5 days off with pay. I still work in the same place but our company was bought out by another company and the new company's policy is 3 days off with pay for parent, child, spouse.

So I got to talking with a co-worker about my mom (she's been given 2-3 months to live) Anyhow, I told her that it seemed ridiculous to only get 3 days off when losing an immediate family member and she said that it's pretty much standard everywhere. So I'm just on here asking to see if it is standard. To me, it just doesn't seem like enough time to get everything done. I know with my father it was a cremation and a memorial get together. He didn't want the wake, the cemetery, the church, etc. He just wanted to be cremated and have a memorial. But even with that and getting things done at the house, with my mom, going to the lawyer's, etc it just seemed like we needed more time. Then, after getting everything said & done, you need time to actually grieve, ya know?

 

[STLDisney_Freak]

Just curious what your company's policy is on bereavement leave. I guess not so much their "policy" but how long do you get off of work for the death of:

parent-
spouse-
child-
grandparent-

etc-

Parent Spouse or Children - 3 Days
Grandparent - 1 day

 

[maslex]

SWEET LORD Sam. Your spouse dies abd you only get 3 days. I swear I can never leave my company.
My dh died in 2012 and I got 30 days pay leave and stayed out 5 months without worry.

See? This is what I'm talking about. People need more than 3 damn days to grieve a loved one (especially immediate family). I think 3 days is ridiculous. Like I mentioned in my post above, when my dad died in 2012, I got 5 days and it still wasn't enough time to get everything done that we needed to. And when I went to work the following week, it's like I didn't even get a day to even grieve.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

See? This is what I'm talking about. People need more than 3 damn days to grieve a loved one (especially immediate family). I think 3 days is ridiculous. Like I mentioned in my post above, when my dad died in 2012, I got 5 days and it still wasn't enough time to get everything done that we needed to. And when I went to work the following week, it's like I didn't even get a day to even grieve.

You could always use sick days or vacation days to extend it.



In my professional life, I've always been one of 1-4 people who do what I do - even when I worked for the big machine (2,500+ employees). It's tough to cover people in a small department

 

[jetskigrl]

Immediate Family (parents, spouse, child, grandparents, inlaws) - used to be 3 days (with extensions given if travel was involved). Now it has been reworded as "up to 5 days." This is the company paying you your regular salary.

They also allow the employee longer time using either paid time off, leave of absence or a combination of the two. So they have the employee covered for extended time off (in terms of being allowed to take the time), but they will only pay up to 5 days.

 

[eliza61]

You could always use sick days or vacation days to extend it.

In my professional life, I've always been one of 1-4 people who do what I do - even when I worked for the big machine (2,500+ employees). It's tough to cover people in a small department

It is gumbo but I can't imagine asking you to come back to work in 3 days if you lost your wife. I know for a small company it can be costly. I can't imagine WANTING a person at their desk. I can't even begin to tell you how utterly useless I was for days after the funeral. I didn't eat or asleep for days afterward, how productive do you think you would be. My boss saw me at the funeral and told his supervisor not you expect me any time soon

I have to edit that my salary was cut to 50%

 

[Hrhpd]

SWEET LORD Sam. Your spouse dies abd you only get 3 days. I swear I can never leave my company.
My dh died in 2012 and I got 30 days pay leave and stayed out 5 months without worry.

Was this part of your vacation/sick package or was it a separate bereavement allowance?

I have never heard of any company giving a full month off, paid no less, just for bereavement. Especially during a recession.

If yes, you are right. Never, ever leave.

My company doesn't have specific bereavement days. We have annual leave and you can use what you want out of that.

 

[maslex]

You could always use sick days or vacation days to extend it.



In my professional life, I've always been one of 1-4 people who do what I do - even when I worked for the big machine (2,500+ employees). It's tough to cover people in a small department

I probably could use sick or vacation IF we got that kind of benefit.

Like I mentioned, this is a new company for us and instead of sick time or vacation days, we get "paid time off" and we earn one hour for every 40 we work. It's kind of hard to accumulate any time off when you don't even work 40 hours a week. But when the time does come that my mom passes, I will take my paid 3 days off and then some. As the PP said, I will be completely useless at work within days of her passing. I drive a school bus and that's all the parents need is for me driving around all day with their kids blubbering like an idiot. I won't be able to concentrate on what I need to.

 

[RitaE]

Since I'm self-employed, as much as I want. Several of my accounts I'd have to either farm out the work or do the work. I have a couple of colleagues and we will back each other up on files for vacations and other times and I'm sure I can rely on them for an emergency situation.

My husband, I think it's divided by immediate and then extended family and immediate relatives are a longer leave period. Like maybe 5 paid days for immediate and then 3 for extended? Then he could use a ton of accrued vacation and I'm sure they'd offer some sort of extended leave if needed.

 

[wilkeliza]

I'm not sure of my companies official policy. I know every where else was 3 days. One company it even was 1 day for the funeral unless you could prove travel needs then you got 3. Didn't matter if it was your child, parent, grandparent etc.

I was so lucky when my grandpa passed that my manager loved me because I only got 3 paid days but she gave me a week total to go home since I was in NYC but my family is all in Texas. Also my grandfather was like my father after my mom passed and dad had been long gone do it hit me harder than it does most 20 something's.

I checked my new companies policy and there is no 100% answer. We get unlimited PTO with manager approval (my department manager set us at 25 days) and for bereavement pay it was a broad we understand the need to plan and attend a funeral please speak with your management team. Based on the fact PTO is unlimited to a point a manager could say hey take off what you need just check in with us in a month etc.

 

[ronandannette]

Parent Spouse or Children - 3 Days
Grandparent - 1 day

Who on God's green earth could "process" the death of their child in 3 days? The mind boggles.

Our company doesn't have a stated policy on bereavement leave. We get as much time as we need, which may differ from person to person. If an extended leave (beyond 2 weeks or so, which would be absolutely EXPECTED if one lost a spouse or child) was required it would be worked out with HR as a leave of absence. If a medical doctor recommended leave due to the stress/distress caused by the loss our short-term disability insurance would kick in.

Personally I just took a day and a half last week to bury a dear old aunt as I had to travel for the funeral. When my MIL died last winter I took the day of her death, a day to plan the funeral, the day of the funeral and the next day to deal with visiting relatives.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

We get 5 days, but the company typically covers more for those who ask.

 

[bcla]

Don't know my current employer's policy, but a previous employer gave five days, and it was the same for all categories covered. I used maybe 3 days to attend my grandfather's funeral, which was quite a bit away from home.

If you need more, it's not as if you can't apply a vacation day. And if there's no specific bereavement leave, vacation days or unpaid leave are probably the only option.

 

[Poohforyou]

Just curious what your company's policy is on bereavement leave. I guess not so much their "policy" but how long do you get off of work for the death of:

parent-
spouse-
child-
grandparent-

etc-

I get up to 5 days paid leave for any of your examples. My office is really understanding and gives extra days for extenuating circumstances like long travel for a funeral.

 

[WDWBarb]

Three days here as well for parent, child, grandparent. It has to be an "up or down" relative (meaning that siblings, cousins, etc. don't qualify).

But if I lost a child, I think I'd be missing a heck of a lot more than three days. I can't even imagine. Spouse, also.

And yes, you can use vacation days where I work, but you can't take more than 5 consecutive days off without a medical reason.

 

[wilkeliza]

Three days here as well for parent, child, grandparent. It has to be an "up or down" relative (meaning that siblings, cousins, etc. don't qualify). But if I lost a child, I think I'd be missing a heck of a lot more than three days. I can't even imagine. Spouse, also. And yes, you can use vacation days where I work, but you can't take more than 5 consecutive days off without a medical reason.

Wait none for a sibling!

I think some issues is the idea of bereavement pay and just a leave. FMLA may come into play for a deceased significant other or parents. Also if you got a diagnoses of anxiety or depression most places would have to provide short term disability.