I think they will let her pick whichever hairstyle she wants. All you have to do is ask. They did the courtyard hairstyle on DD when she had a different package because she wanted to try it with no problems. It is the one that has twists on the front. As far as whether a kid with a tender head would do okay with it, DD absolutely hated it after a few hours. She started complaining it hurt. She has had the bun, diva and courtyard hairstyle. The bun was when she was 4 and it was the absolute worst. After about an hour, she was begging me to take it down and complaining that her head really hurt. I wound up pulling that one out in the middle of the park because she couldn't take it anymore. Amazingly, with all the goop they put in it, her hair brushed out and didn't look horrible. The diva was fine the whole day, it did not bother her at all. That was the only one that she would do again.