Bathroom question.....

[DizBelle]

My DH goes to a tanning salon. The restroom at the tanning salon is unisex. On the door is one sign that has the universal images for "Men" and "Women" (stick figure and stick figure with skirt). However, inside the restroom are two separate stalls - the usual kind.

Does either sex have any responsibility for ensuring only someone of the same sex is in the restroom before they enter?

DH says that the outer door has a lock on it. I suppose what I would do (since I'm a bit self-conscious) is wait until I was the only one going in and then lock the outer door.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Do the stalls have doors on them? If so I would not think twice about who else may or may not be in there. I actually think it would be a bit rude to lock the outer door (meaning no one could get to the second stall, right? or the sink?).

 

[DizBelle]

Yes the stalls have doors on them. But they are the typical kinds of stalls. The walls do not go all the way to the floor or ceiling.

 

[GreatDaneMom]

EWW! Unisex public restrooms are bad enough. But sharing stalls next to each other is past my freakout limit. Yes, I would make sure no one else was in there before I used it and I'd lock the door.

...and yes, I'm an old prude....

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I would lock the door. I would not be comfortable with a guy in there with me alone that I don't know.

 

[disneyfans95]

As a guy, I would not luck the door but would understand if someone else did.

I could understand why a woman would not be comfortable being in there alone and would not have a problem waiting .

 

[NHdisneylover]

I am not trying to be snarky--truly curious and I have two questions:

1. Why does the stall door being normal matter? Are you concerned about someone of the opposite sex seeing your toes while you do your business

2. Those of you women who would not feel safe alone in a restroom (behind your own locked stall door) with a man also in there--will you get in an elevator alone with a man? Or a taxi cab with a male driver? Or pretty much any other situation that puts you alone in a confined space with a strange man?

 

[NeverlandClub23]

2. Those of you women who would not feel safe alone in a restroom (behind your own locked stall door) with a man also in there--will you get in an elevator alone with a man? Or a taxi cab with a male driver? Or pretty much any other situation that puts you alone in a confined space with a strange man?

No, I wouldn't. But I've been attacked by a guy in a situation like that so it may just be my fear of it happening again. If I'm in an elevator and everyone gets out and leaves me alone with just a guy, I get out too and wait for another elevator but that hardly ever happens.

 

[kwelch10377]

I am not trying to be snarky--truly curious and I have two questions:

1. Why does the stall door being normal matter? Are you concerned about someone of the opposite sex seeing your toes while you do your business

2. Those of you women who would not feel safe alone in a restroom (behind your own locked stall door) with a man also in there--will you get in an elevator alone with a man? Or a taxi cab with a male driver? Or pretty much any other situation that puts you alone in a confined space with a strange man?

I was kind of wondering the same thing. I am a female and it would in no way bother me going to the bathroom with a male in the stall next to me. To me it is no different than going to the bathroom with a woman in stall next to me.

 

[Stitchfans]

Suppose I am odd "woman" out. I would not care and it would not bother me. If I have to go I have to go and I will use the toilet. At my age,size so on, I do not care. Now, I can understand a younger woman being uncomfortable.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I'd lock the outer door. I hardly take a minute, they can wait.

 

[NHdisneylover]

No, I wouldn't. But I've been attacked by a guy in a situation like that so it may just be my fear of it happening again. If I'm in an elevator and everyone gets out and leaves me alone with just a guy, I get out too and wait for another elevator but that hardly ever happens.

Thank you for answering and I am very sorry you have been the victim of such an attack

 

[NeverlandClub23]

Thank you for answering and I am very sorry you have been the victim of such an attack

You're welcome . Thank you, it could've been much worse. I was lucky to be able to get out.

 

[MichelleinMaine]

We have a similarly wierd bathroom at work- there is the outside door (lockable), then a sink, then a stall door (with lock). I am not sure if the intention was to leave the outer door unlocked in case someone wanted to use the sink or ???

I lock the room door. As a PP said, I'm pretty quick and if someone REALLY wants to use a sink in the meantime , the kitchen is just up the hall.

 

[jazzielady]

It wouldn't bother me, it's that way in Europe (well, France at least, I can speak of from personal experience).

 

[DizBelle]

I am not trying to be snarky--truly curious and I have two questions:

1. Why does the stall door being normal matter? Are you concerned about someone of the opposite sex seeing your toes while you do your business

2. Those of you women who would not feel safe alone in a restroom (behind your own locked stall door) with a man also in there--will you get in an elevator alone with a man? Or a taxi cab with a male driver? Or pretty much any other situation that puts you alone in a confined space with a strange man?

1. I was just trying to paint the picture of the bathroom arrangement.

2. I feel safer in an elevator with a strange man with my clothes on than in a bathroom when my pants are around my ankles.

Also, given that the stall is "normal" (about a foot between the bottom of the stall and the floor) it provides the opportunity for someone to reach under the stall, grab you by the ankles and drag you out... after they locked the outer door of course.

 

[NHdisneylover]

It wouldn't bother me, it's that way in Europe (well, France at least, I can speak of from personal experience).

Not that way often in Germany--but totally common to have an opposite gender person cleaning while you are in there (yes even in the men's room with open urinals). It is common also that parents accompany their young children into the restroom the child would use--so a mother will bring her young boy into the men's room, or a father brings his girl into the women's room.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

2. I feel safer in an elevator with a strange man with my clothes on than in a bathroom when my pants are around my ankles.

Also, given that the stall is "normal" (about a foot between the bottom of the stall and the floor) it provides the opportunity for someone to reach under the stall, grab you by the ankles and drag you out... after they locked the outer door of course.

Yes. This is the way I feel too. Maybe, if the outer door didn't have a lock on it, then I might feel better about it, but definitely not with the lock on it.

But, then, I have my own bathroom issues even with other women.

 

[cheermom1]

I think what the deal is is that it is not the norm so we can't see past that. So the norm we have is that women and men have separate bathrooms so when we don;t have that we don;t like it. Change is hard.

But it wouldn't bother me.

 

[SandrA9810]

wouldn't bother me, if i need to go, i'm going.

there's also several places that is just the one room, one for men, one for women. If the womens is occupied, you bet my butt is sitting on the toilet in the mens room. There's soom men's room with a urinal, but i don't why we signafy each restroom when they're both a toilet and a sink in a locked room. Does it really matter?

I've also gotten strange looks from guys when i walk out of "thier" bathroom.