How can a 1st time trip ever be magical with all there is to know? How can anyone who has never been there understand all the planning that it takes? WDW is promising *Magic* but they haven't a clue on how to deliver without a personal tour guide and planner!
Which you could have had, for the money. From Disney's website: "With the help of your own VIP Tour Guide, enjoy maximum fun with minimal fussand the Disney vacation of a lifetime." Granted, there's a max of 10 people per tour guide, so you'd have to purchase the services of two of them, but it's certainly something that you could have done.
I don't think anyone here is saying that it's *all* your fault that you had a 'bad trip' only that it's not Disney's, either. You've been encouraged multiple times on this thread to contact Disney with your concerns. Please do so and perhaps that will help you recover your equanimity.