Bachelor parties and Adult Entertainment...

[CJK]

Dh went to a bachelor party last weekend. It was an all day event with sports during the day, a nice dinner followed by a bunch of adult entertainment venues aka strip clubs. Dh had a great time. He said that no touching was involved at the clubs and most of the attention went to the groom anyway.

How do you feel about this wedding tradition? Would it bother you if your significant other went to these clubs with his buddies? I confess it does bother me (making me feel inadequate), but I'm trying not to turn it into a big deal. He doesn't go very often (just for bachelor parties). I'm just curious to hear what my fellow dis friends have to say on the subject!!!

 

[stinkerbelle]

I found out the day after our wedding that DH went to a strip club the night before we got married.

Honestly - I fell off my seat laughing.

 

[caitycaity]

I confess it does bother me (making me feel inadequate), but I'm trying not to turn it into a big deal. He doesn't go very often (just for bachelor parties).

honestly, i am not a fan either. however, i don't feel comfortable forbidding dh to go. i know he's not going to do anything bad. my dh also only goes for bachelor parties.

 

[daddydisneyworld]

Harmless fun. The safest place in the world for a guy to be is in a strip club.

 

[Minnesota!]

Doesn't bother me in the least. DH and I used to go together. We would shoot pool, or play air hockey. They have a stage in the game room. No biggie. He has gone his fair share of times without me, too. I trust him. I trust his judgment. He comes home to me at the end of the night.

 

[cats7494]

I think it is disrespectful to the marriage... I would not think of doing it and my dh feels the same way....

 

[vettechick99]

I'd rather spend $200 on a new purse!

 

[BunsenH]

I'm told that my bachelor party (16 years ago) was one worth of story and song. Unfortunately, I only remember the first (sedate) half.

 

[mickeyboat]

I might feel a little uncomfortable. But not enough to forbid it. It seems like harmless fun to me.

Denae

 

[RadioNate]

Not at all. My dh doesn't go to strip clubs often but has been on occasion. For the record "on occasion" means maybe 2x a year and usually just not to hang out.

I really don't care much. My cousin was a stripper and the girl who lived above me in college was too. Believe me these girls don't want your DH. They just want his money! In a lot of cases they would likely be more interested in you!

I've been to several "men's clubs" and IMO it's kinda gross and a big waste of money.

Of couse I'll actually be at an event at a place tomorrow so I'll let you know if my opinion changes.

 

[Kim&Chris]

When my DH was given a bachelor party, I begged him not to touch ANYTHING!! Ewww. He is pretty good about that stuff and agreed that he would not touch anyone or anything. I didn't really care about anything else - - I was aware that they'd be drinking & that he'd be drunk as a skunk, which didn't really bother me (they had a designated driver).

The day after, I called him to see how it went (and to see how bad his hangover was!). He said that the best man had arranged for two girls to put on a "show" for all the guys. Ugh. My DH said he was grossed out and left (this was confirmed by some of the other people there ).

I wasn't really bothered by the whole bachelor party tradition, but I was afraid of what the best man had planned, and my fears were obviously legit.

I think bachelor parties are just fine if they don't get out of hand, as DH's did. All in all, he was a little disappointed in what the best man had arranged - - he always says he would have rather gone out and simply had a few beers & some laughs and that would have been just fine with him!

 

[solotraveler]

I think it's harmless fun also.

Solotraveler

 

[dcgrumpy]

DH has been to a few bachelor parties since we've been married, doesn't bother me at all.

 

[RadioNate]

I just prefer not to waste my money...I'd rather spend $200 on a new purse!

isn't that the truth!

 

[vacanut]

It doesn't bother me. I trust him completely.
I personally think its a waste of $$.

 

[greenyskp]

Its a strip club. Not a prostitute. Men like visual stuff.

It has nothing to do with you being inadequate.

Ive been with exes, the places I went were respectable and the girls were beautiful. Ive also been with friends.

I dont see it as a big deal. Your not allowed to touch the girls in those places. Its men, out being men.

Instead of freaking out, or getting upset. Ask him to show you what the fuss is all about and offer to go with him. Its not that bad. You can laugh about it later. And your SURE to get some great attention when you get home.

 

[Planogirl]

I see nothing wrong with them. I've been to a few spicy Bachelorette parties myself and while there's nothing wrong with them, it's not something that interests me all that much.

 

[Auggietina]

If dh goes to bachelor parties, it really doesn't bother me.

 

[Cantw8]

I had posted about this subject a long time ago in a far away place called the Debate Board and boy, did I get blasted.
I do not feel that it is appropriate for married men to visit strip clubs. The man is engaging in a sexual situation (nakedness, arousal, gyration ect.) with someone that is not his spouse. To me, that is cheating and disrespecting the wife. (for the record, I feel the same way about male strip clubs).

I am always puzzled by the response some wives have about their husbands participating in this ritual...."Oh, he's so horned up when he comes home, that I benefit " Are you kidding? You find it flattering that your husband wants to have relations with you because Bubbles the Skank was just slidding up and down a pole in front of him or gyrating in his lap? I don't get it.

I am far from a prude, and I do not suffer from any insecurity issues (well, not many LOL), I just do not understand how this behavior became socially acceptable. Sorry for the rant...flame away.

 

[Crankyshank]

It doesn't bother me at all.