Baby shower opinions

[Karel]

My brother's wife is having a baby in the spring and her mother and sister are throwing her a baby shower President's weekend. (Personally, I think that's really early and the shower is in RI, so it's very likely it could snow a great deal that weekend, making travel difficult.)

I received an invitation and would like to go but it would involve traveling about 5 hours. I emailed my mother to see if she was going - ie we could go together (not a thrilling prospect for me, but that's another story) My father sent a note saying THEY were not going because -gasp! - it would require a two night stay and it wasn't worth it for such a short amount of time.

So here are my questions:

Was I invited just aa a protocol thing - nobody really expects me to come?

Should the whole family go? I would like to call the mother and see if my 9 year old daughter could come to the shower too and the 'boys' could swim and hang out at the hotel.

My kids have a five day weekend and I thought it would be a nice getaway. Plus I don't really know my sister in laws family very well and I live in that romantic world where everyone should be one big happy family. I can't believe my parents aren't going and feel that SOMEONE from the father's side should attend. But maybe that's not really important?

 

[Cindy B]

IN my first baby shower, my family lived where you are (Hi Neighbor!), and I lived in Cleveland Ohio.. probably about a 6-8 hour drive.


They didn't come, but they mailed things to me to open. I wasn't insulted, and understood. We videotaped the shower and showed it to them later.

 

[bananiem]

I participated in a mailing shower for my SIL but she was 22 hours away.
I think you have the right attitude for WHY to go. It's a great opportunity for a little get-away and you could get to know her family a little better. If you can swing it I'd go for a long weekend and enjoy!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I think you were invited because if you were not that wouldn't be nice. I like to think it was nice to be thinking of you guys.
If you are up for the travel and time then go for it if you wish.
Oh and congratulations!

 

[disykat]

They probably don't expect you to come, given the distance, but will be glad you can. It's always nice to know people are going out of their way for your special day. Go!