Avery is going to be a flower girl!

[Jenn Lynn]

My SIL got engaged 3 weeks ago to her high school sweetheart. They came to visit this weekend and asked if Avery could be the flower girl! Of course we said yes. DH is in the wedding party also.
They are getting married next year at either the end of August or in September so Avery will have just turned 3.

Has anyone had a 3 year old in a wedding? Hopefully she will not be scared and will understand what to do!

Just wanted to share our happy news!

 

[Breezy_Carol]

That will be fun for you all.

Just so you and the bride remember, if your DD decides not to walk down the aisle, they can still be married. That is the attitude I had with our flower girl, and it made for a lot less stress.

 

[snoopy]

Awww, I bet she will be adorable!

My flower girl was a little older, she was 5 at the time (hard to believe she is now 21! ) She was very shy, and we worried about her actually making it down the aisle without her Mommy, but she did just fine.

My son was a ring bearer for my sister's wedding at 6.

The only child I have seen that young at a wedding was my nephew, who was in the wedding of my brother (his uncle) and his wife. First let me say that Jeremy is a little banshee, such a hyperactive and wild child. Plus he is a boy, I think that boys mature a little slower than girls. Anyway, he ended up throwing the pillow with the fake (thank goodness!) ring halfway across the church at his brother, because he said his brother was making faces at him. It really was quite a scene, and my brother's wife said if she could do it all over again, she would never pick a child so young again. But remember, he's all boy, and there is absolutely NOTHING calm, cool and collected about this child. Avery should probably be fine, just practice with her before the big day.

 

[Cthia]

Congratulations to the happy couple. And to your daughter Avery on being a flower girl. That will be very exciting time for her.

I would probably suggest having someone she knows like mom or dad waiting at the end for her to come down the aisle so she doesn't get nervous seeing alot of people she may know. She may surprise you and have no problems. Maybe if she is really nervous she could walk down with the ring bearer. Who know she may run down the aisle.

 

[CamColt]

Congratulations!!!! That is so exciting and Im sure Avery will be absolutely beautiful!

I had my nieces who were then 5 and just turned 2 as my flower girls. The 5 yo understood and did exactly as she was supposed to. The 2 yo did it at the rehersal and was all psyched up to walk with her sister to go sit with Grandma, but then when the time came, she didnt. She wanted to wait for her mother(my Sister and MOH). So, I had 1 flower girl walk alone and then the MOH with 1 flower girl go down the aisle. I didnt care though. It was actually very cute.
Good luck to Avery!

 

[Baboo]

My nephew was 3 at the time of our wedding and he was our ring bearer. He did just fine walking down the aisle by himself. When he got there my Mother took him to sit with her and he promptly fell asleep!

 

[RUDisney]

Congrats on this big event in your SIL's and DD's lives!

My sister was 3 when I got married. (I was 27.) She started screaming when she couldn't walk in with our mother. She was usually very even tempered and, try as we might, she wouldn't walk in with the other 2 flower girls. I thought she was going to walk in with my sister (MOH,) but at the last minute she decided to walk in right before my MOH. She cried the whole way down the aisle. The video is too funny and I've promised her that I'll walk down the aisle when she gets married, crying, too.

When she got to the front of the church, she sat with our Mom and my SIL has her on video picking apart the flowers in her basket while she was lying on the pew with her head on Mom's lap, knees up in the air so you could see up her dress. Again, this is priceless.

When we were having our first dance at the reception, she also cut in. She was just a typical little girl doing typical little girl things.

My advice is just to be prepared for anything and roll with the punches.

I was in a wedding when I was 4. My uncle's sister was 6. Everyone expected me to misbehave and for her to behave. She became affectionately known as "Crybaby, Chatterbox Christine" after the ceremony. I was a perfect angel. But, because no one expected her to not behave, no one discussed what their expectations of her were. I think this is important. Get your daughter excited, but also discuss what is good behavior during the wedding and what is not. It also helps, if the wedding is in church, that you take your DD to Mass or Services so she knows what to expect. My brother's kids don't go to church ever and when they are forced to go to a ceremonial service, they don't know how to act... they are bored... they make alot of noise.

 

[MinnieGi]

I had 5 flower girls in our wedding ranging in age from 2 - 6 and they all did great. I'm sure your 3yo will have no problem!

My DD (2yo) also just got asked to be a flower girl for her Uncle's wedding (my brother). They are getting married next June so she will be 3 1/2. I think she'll be just fine since she loves to wear dresses and likes to "perform" in front of a crowd!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Thanks everyone!

Snoopy-LOL!

Avery is not a shy girl, but who knows how she will be in a year and a half. It will help to have her Dad and Uncle up there also. I think my SIL wants the Ringbearer and flower girl to walk down together so that might help!

When the time gets closer we will definitely start talking to her about it. And about good behavior.

My SIL is not the fussy type and she will just go with whatever happens. Should be a fun time!

 

[Boots]

Ah I bet she will be such a cutie in it! Hope you will post a picture of her in her flower girl dress!

 

[Piper]

My granddaughter was just 3 when my son got married. After the rehearsal, she helped her mom pick up the petals and put them back in the basket.

She walked down the aisle beautifully, stood quietly during the ceremony, and picked up every flower petal on her walk back down the aisle! She was adorable!

 

[Fire14]

My 3 yo niece was my flower girl this past Oct. she did great. My parents and I had talked to her about what she was to do. NO problems from her. I did it more out of I figured if I didn't let her be in wedding she would be joining me at alter anyway just because that's Katie's style. I expected issues with her brother/ring bearer and got none so Had a wonderful wedding.