Asking daughter's friends parent to pay for their child's ticket

[Kaybearsmom]

Not sure if this is socially correct or not. My daughter is wanting to go to Universal for her birthday and take a friend along. We generally pay for her friends when inviting them to come along on outings with us. This tickets are so high for Universal $136.oo. Would it be wrong for us to ask the other parent to pay for the ticket for their child and then we would pay for everything else?

 

[Cynner]

Nope, though there's a chance the friend won't be able to go then - so keep that in mind.

 

[Kaybearsmom]

Nope, though there's a chance the friend won't be able to go then - so keep that in mind.

Just not sure how to approach even asking since it's something we have never done before. We are close to the parents just seems strange to me asking their child to attend something with us, but in return asking them to pay for a portion of it.

 

[Ensusieasm]

Not sure if this is socially correct or not. My daughter is wanting to go to Universal for her birthday and take a friend along. We generally pay for her friends when inviting them to come along on outings with us. This tickets are so high for Universal $136.oo. Would it be wrong for us to ask the other parent to pay for the ticket for their child and then we would pay for everything else?

Since the friend is being invited to a birthday celebration, I think it is customary for the host to pay for everything including that ticket. If you were throwing a birthday party with multiple guests you would have expenses too.

 

[Disneylover99]

Not sure if this is socially correct or not. My daughter is wanting to go to Universal for her birthday and take a friend along. We generally pay for her friends when inviting them to come along on outings with us. This tickets are so high for Universal $136.oo. Would it be wrong for us to ask the other parent to pay for the ticket for their child and then we would pay for everything else?

I think it’s tacky to invite your child’s friend to a birthday outing and ask their parents to pay admission. It’s just one friend. Don’t invite them unless you’re prepared to pay.

Since you’re close friends with them, they may insist they pay half anyways or give their daughter extra money to spend at the parks. Then it’s up to your discretion how to handle that.

 

[damo]

I think for a birthday, you should pay.

 

[FoxC63]

I also agree you should pay.

 

[mom2rtk]

If you can't buy the friend's ticket, your daughter needs to choose a different birthday celebration.

 

[davper]

Given that you set precedent of paying in the past and already inviting the child, you should pay.

But in the future, I would talk with the parents before making the plans. Tell them you would like their daughter to join but you would need help in procuring the ticket. If they say no, then you can choose to do something else, not take the friend, or pay on your own.

 

[Pooh's World]

Not sure if this is socially correct or not. My daughter is wanting to go to Universal for her birthday and take a friend along. We generally pay for her friends when inviting them to come along on outings with us. This tickets are so high for Universal $136.oo. Would it be wrong for us to ask the other parent to pay for the ticket for their child and then we would pay for everything else?

Why aren't you getting at least one Annual Pass? If you get the top two tiers you also get discounts on restaurants/shops and free parking and you can parlay that into savings for your birthday party.

 

[OhDannyBoy]

It's $136 and you are heading to a theme park. you'll spend that on 2 sodas and a hotdog. pay for the friend.

 

[FoxC63]

Just not sure how to approach even asking since it's something we have never done before. We are close to the parents just seems strange to me asking their child to attend something with us, but in return asking them to pay for a portion of it.

I don't get that. You're close to the parents, obviously DD is close to their daughter, why is it strange for you and your family to do something with her?

 

[leeniewdw]

Don't invite the friend unless you are paying for them.

 

[leeniewdw]

I don't get that. You're close to the parents, obviously DD is close to their daughter, why is it strange for you and your family to do something with her?

I think you have to read the rest of the sentence. I think they are acknowledging that they are close and it seems strange to invite AND ask them to pay. It seems strange because it is strange to ask them to pay.

 

[we"reofftoneverland]

If it feels awkward that is your subconscious telling you not to do it.
"What is a conscience! I'll tell ya! A conscience is that still small voice people won't listen to. That's just the trouble with the world today." -Jiminy Cricket

 

[FoxC63]

It's kinda of funny how many times this topic comes up on the DIS. Years and years of it.

 

[GoingSince1990]

Yes, it would be wrong. If you are unwilling to pay for the friend, do something cheaper instead.

 

[bookgirl]

Yeah if you're inviting her then you need to pay.

At least Ticket and Food.

Spending money is where it could be tricky if you are going to let your daughter buy souvenirs then will friend have money to buy stuff, are you going to let daughter outspend friend in that department?

 

[bchbetha]

Yep, you pay. A birthday party would likely cost close to (or more than that).

 

[oakleycat]

Agreed you need to pay. If you're not comfortable doing so, do something cheaper for her birthday and then (as a separate non-birthday outing) express your child has been interested in going to Universal and ask if her child would be interested in going at their cost.