Aw, Pas sorry DD (HRH) was upset, I know about MIL / Mother issues too

I tolerate MIL.....I do care for her, it's just sometimes she's too nosy for her own good, and I have to take her in smaller doses. Unless you are doing things her way, always cooking and cleaning for the family, and never spending frivolously, well, then you are good......if you aren't doting like she always did for her family (she was the last if the hardworking generation-- British immigrated to Canada when DH was little) then you are not prioritizing! , our generation is just too lazy for her liking!
She always has something to say, and throughout the years we've had our ups and downs, but I really try to get along -- more for peace and DH's sake....she just gets more "all knowing" in her old age......
It's sad because her meddling has even damaged her relationship with DS16, as he used to struggle with behavior issues/focusing/ I truly think he had some ADHD when he was younger...
...MIL used to get so frustrated with him and say he'll never make something out of his life......words that sit with my DS today.....he finds it hard to take her too, and holds onto the hurt from those words. I don't blame him, he's a sensitive kid, and her always having an opinion has made him not really want to spend much time with her. They are coming down for a visit over DHs bday week (June 22-July 1) I hope I can stay sane while she is here! Thank goodness DH knows what she can be like and he is off work while they are here
Candace: I totally understand the constant questioning whether the right choice was made.....

you'll have a great time no matter where you lay your head because you'll be there with your favourite people ( your family!) they will deliver the magic and make your memories, you will find in the end it all worked out for the best because you shared the time together!

I do remember a fellow disser telling me to be careful with my changes, because I could just change myself out of availability! I think as you are getting closer, that's what you are seeing happen now! I think thats why I've given up on driving myself crazy with changes, and am sticking with the POLY...I just want to find out once and for all for myself.......if I don't experience it, I will always wonder and regret giving up my opportunity to try it