ARGH! Scared-y-cat DH is making DD nervous about rides!

[bandmhmommy]

I'm glad your hubby has seen the error in how he was talking to your DD. I will tell you from personal experience, we talked my children into going on TOT last summer... they were 8 and 4. DD, the 4 year old, is my daredevil and not scared of anything. She shook so bad throughout the whole thing on TOT, and of course, we had 6 or 7 drops when it was time for that. She was scared out of her mind and didn't want to ride anything else after that. I felt terrible. We let them build lightsabers afterward (for their bravery) and they seemed to be okay. But, as we're planning for our trip this summer, my DD says... There is NO WAY you are taking me on TOT this year. My hubby is so sad. It's one of his favorites.

 

[chrissyb2411]

OMG! Please help settle an argument between DH and myself...

I like thrill rides... I particularly enjoy them, I'm not a person who gets motion-sick, etc.

My DH is the opposite, he's afraid of some rides and he's motion-sick (over everything), he rode Mission Space once, got super sick and won't ride most other rides.

Whatever...he's content to sit and wait for me.

The problem is he is pretty much now talking DD(5 will be 6 while we're there) out of some of the great rides!

We checked and believe she has the height requirement, and if so, I'd like her to try some of them, ToT, EE, BTMR, Splash...it's not like she's on a ride alone, she'll be with me. He's telling her "you don't really know if you'll like it ToT can be pretty spooky and Splash has a HUGE drop"... DUDE! That's not fair right?

While I'd never force her onto a ride, I will "encourage" her to ride with me. I think it would be good for her not to be afraid of the rides.

Who would be "more correct"?

My dd is 6, we just came back. Dh is the thrill rider, I havnt been on a roller coaster in more than 15 years. I really wanted to do sdmt. Dd had gone on a local coaster that was pretty extreme this past summer, and was terrified of trying them at Disney. So we watched several videos on YouTube and she said she would do sdmt. We all absolutely loved it. Then we went on big thunder mountain and she loved that too. She wasn't tall enough for any other disney coasters but would have gone if she could! She caught the bug pretty quick. She loved test track, and was disappointed with goofy'so barnstormer lol.

Then we went on TOT. She hated it, cried hysterically, I felt bad. I wouldn't push that one if she's hesitant.

Watch some YouTube videos with her. That might help. Book your fastpases. I would try getting her on sdmt, it's pretty mellow. If she likes it move on, if she hates it ride the rest alone.

As to mission space, that stupid ride ruined an entire day for us. Dh gets motion sick, but had done fine on everything else, so we didn't pay too much attention to the warnings. Bad idea. Dh had his head in a bag 30 seconds into the ride. Ds, dd, and I all walked off the ride feeling miserable. Half an hour later we all still felt so lousy we just left. Yuck. If your DH is basing all disney rides off that one, he's missing out!

 

[finedice]

My daughter rode everything at WDW at 4yo EXCEPT: ToT & RnRC. She was tall enough, but not brave enough. When we returned at 6yo, she rode everything and was addicted to it. I have always been a thrill ride person, but now am backing off of spinning things and insane 6 flags coasters as I get older. However, aside from the teacups, Disney is tame, and more magically themed compared to most places. Our daughter is now 12 and rides EVERYTHING at every park we visit, even if I won't.

Everyone that posted above that says DH is wrong to say these things, is right. Coddling kids is far too prevalent these days! Never force a child, but those rides are somewhat tame and VERY FUN! She should be encouraged to try rather than not. (When our DD tried ToT at 6yo, we rode 5 times in a row with walk on waits. The CMs were totally playing on our repeats with some great "in character" comments, like when we got off the third ride... "See you next fall!".

 

[ConnieB]

First off, thank you for all the advice!

DH and I actually had a long talk (about this after DD went to bed)...and (he actually read most of your posts!).

I told him that was he was doing was really bothering me, (the same thing I've been saying all along), but somehow last night he understood, (probably because I did it without DD present, he took me more serious).

He said that he didn't realize it was that bad (how he was behaving), and that it's better to do pretty much what everyone had suggested, which is watch some of the bigger rides on YouTube. We've already watched most and DD has decided that ToT is def. out! Though I must admit it has been a while for me because I really forgot about the Twilight Zone movie feature was that long and it is a little creepy for DD!)...

We also watched Splash and BTMRR and she's super stoked about those, and she still really wants to ride Goofy's Barnstormer, so DH relented and said he'd go on it with her "if she held his hand"!!!

So I think that we all really won out... I think she will enjoy *some* of the bigger rides with me, but she's also choosing what she wants on her own terms, which is really all that I wanted in the end.

I think this shows what a great dad he is! Willing to listen to you and realize that maybe he went a bit too far with casting his fears to his daughter....but the part that made me call him "great"......"if she held his hand". Yup, that's a great daddy.

 

[BellsFam]

but the part that made me call him "great"......"if she held his hand". Yup, that's a great daddy.

Oh he played it up too! She's so excited that she can "protect" daddy!

He has his moments, but I know how lucky I am!!!