PipesofLirael
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- Dec 2, 2006
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Well, considering that my FMIL's reasons for hating me are pretty racist, DF and I are hoping to cut her out as much as possible. Sooo...
1) Engagement Ring
Honestly, I can do without one entirely. I'm only getting it because my DF wants to impress my dad. My dad DID say that he wanted DF to save the money and spend it on a vacation with me but **hint, hint** isn't successful.
2) Wedding Location/Amenities (like flowers, linens, photography, music)
Some of this I can cut without a problem. Linens, still photography music, and transportation are not a problem to cut. Not sure about flowers though.
3) # of wedding guests
Can't do. Too big of a family here. My side alone is looking at around 100...and the wedding is in two years!!!! As a plus, though, there's a family member giving me her $10,000 wedding dress that's invited, so maybe upping the # of guests won't turn out too awful.
4) Honeymoon
Let me be honest...if I have a honeymoon, it will be a miracle. We move up to NYC 6 months before the wedding, so we're starting out jobs with only a little bit of vacation time left over for the wedding. We want it to be on a Monday (January 26th is when my father first went "steady" with my mother so we HOPE to surprise them with that dat alllll the way in 2009). Honeymoons are doable later. We've actually talked about talking a vacation when we graduate to make for the chance that there's no honeymoon.
5) Other events (dessert parties, rehearsal dinner, welcome dinner, etc.)
Definetly not. The rehearsal dinner would have been covered by DF's family, but his family hates mine, so nope. Everything else I can do without.
1) Engagement Ring
Honestly, I can do without one entirely. I'm only getting it because my DF wants to impress my dad. My dad DID say that he wanted DF to save the money and spend it on a vacation with me but **hint, hint** isn't successful.

2) Wedding Location/Amenities (like flowers, linens, photography, music)
Some of this I can cut without a problem. Linens, still photography music, and transportation are not a problem to cut. Not sure about flowers though.
3) # of wedding guests
Can't do. Too big of a family here. My side alone is looking at around 100...and the wedding is in two years!!!! As a plus, though, there's a family member giving me her $10,000 wedding dress that's invited, so maybe upping the # of guests won't turn out too awful.
4) Honeymoon
Let me be honest...if I have a honeymoon, it will be a miracle. We move up to NYC 6 months before the wedding, so we're starting out jobs with only a little bit of vacation time left over for the wedding. We want it to be on a Monday (January 26th is when my father first went "steady" with my mother so we HOPE to surprise them with that dat alllll the way in 2009). Honeymoons are doable later. We've actually talked about talking a vacation when we graduate to make for the chance that there's no honeymoon.
5) Other events (dessert parties, rehearsal dinner, welcome dinner, etc.)
Definetly not. The rehearsal dinner would have been covered by DF's family, but his family hates mine, so nope. Everything else I can do without.