Are your SO's political views different from yours?

[Bichon Barb]

It's 8:30 in the morning, and I had to leave our coffee and morning paper session in the kitchen. I couldn't listen to my DH complain about the "(insert expletive here) liberals" anymore. Okay, okay, so I may have started it when I read that an ex-boss of mine (whose conservative social views I don't agree with) is thinking about running for senate. I voiced my opinion on how his time could be better spent. DH said I was "venomous". Yeah, whatever.

Sorry, I'm rambling. DH calls himself an Independent (he's registered Republican). I call myself an Independent (I'm quite socially liberal). We REALLY should avoid all political conversation.

Does anyone else have this problem? My misery would love some company.

 

[snoopy]

I've arrived to keep you company.

And the sad thing is DH started out with good intentions. Somewhere down the road he decided to take a right, still scratching my head trying to figure out how that happened.

 

[Bichon Barb]

Hi Snoopy. Thanks for joining in my misery. DH just came upstairs, kissed me on the head, told me he was feeling better now, and that he forgives me for being a (insert expletive again) liberal. Then he actually giggled. Why do conservatives have to be so darned condescending? And geeky too!

I used to lean more to the right, but then I had kids, and I became a more compassionate person.

 

[llebrekniT]

I'm here!

Ready to join you in the misery that is being a wife of a DH whose views are not only different than yours, but also NEVER wrong.

There a few issues that are hot buttons here, we cannot talk about them. <a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_29_119.gif' border=0></a>

Glad to hear that at least your DH apologized, kind of. If he's like mine, that apology was just humoring you. He still knows that he is right.

 

[snoopy]

Yeah, I think having kids makes us females more compassionate, our husbands a tad bit more.......hmmmm, how can I say this?.......stodgy and cantankerous.

 

[llebrekniT]

I think you're right Snoopy. Having kids made me look at just about everything with a new perspective. I think it's supposed to.

 

[Bichon Barb]

I told him I started a thread looking for people to share in my misery. He said HE was the one who feels like the underdog and that there are liberals everywhere. This is Upstate NY folks--not NYC. I told him to hang out with his family--they are more conservative than him. (We'll be doing that on Sunday. If his sister starts one of her radical political/religious discussions, I'm walking away. I swear it. I am. )

 

[sharbear]

Oh boy, you're singing to the choir here. I hate it when my DH's family talks about politics, I grit my teeth and try to think about something else!

I'm sure my DH does the same when we visit my parents. They are so mad at GWB and rail on him. It's kind of funny.

 

[Bichon Barb]

Originally posted by llebrekniT
I think you're right Snoopy. Having kids made me look at just about everything with a new perspective. I think it's supposed to.

Nice pic LLEBREKNIT! Your pugs smile.

 

[Bichon Barb]

Originally posted by sharbear
Oh boy, you're singing to the choir here. I hate it when my DH's family talks about politics, I grit my teeth and try to think about something else!

I'm sure my DH does the same when we visit my parents. They are so mad at GWB and rail on him. It's kind of funny.

My parents are really disgusted with GWB too. They are coming to the party on Sunday also. I'm going to have to give them a lecture beforehand to avoid all political discussions.

I'm thinking about going to see Michael Moore's movie just tick the DH off.

 

[Dan Murphy]

We're both pretty similar.

 

[BedKnobbery2]

My now ex-husband and I used to share the same political views, but after we had kids I gradually became more and more liberal in my views. He'd consider me a "radical liberal" now, but really I sit more in the moderate area. He's just a radical conservative. His entire family is, too, which I can understand--they've got a lot of money, and generally speaking, those with the bucks lean to the right.

Barb, I not only think you should see F9/11, but so should your DH! It can be a real eye-opener for everyone. Yes, the commentary is most definitely biased liberally, but even so, you can't argue with the footage. And I think everyone should see the effects of war on BOTH sides of it--babies being blown up, soldiers losing all their limbs.....it's gut-wrenching and heart-wrenching, but something we need to keep in mind when we send our young men and women to war. Our so-called "liberal media" sanitizes it to the point where even a bomb exploding seems so clean and tidy, we may hear about the number of people killed, but we never, ever hear about those maimed or the loved ones left behind. (Sorry for the mini-rant....I saw it less than a week ago and it is still in my mind.)

So, yeah, feel your pain.....LOL.....funny thing is, my ex is now married to a woman who shares my political views. Maybe he likes that kind of fire in the house? LOL

 

[wdwdvcdad]

My wife is an incredibly intelligent woman. She agrees with me.

 

[Galahad]

We're pretty similar. DW is a bit more conservative than I am.

 

[CEDmom]

Surprisingly even though my DH and I come from very different backgrounds (ethnic, religious and financial) we have very similar political views. Now my brothers on the other hand .

 

[jrydberg]

Originally posted by snoopy
Yeah, I think having kids makes us females more compassionate, our husbands a tad bit more.......hmmmm, how can I say this?.......stodgy and cantankerous.

Not to turn this into a debate (really that's not my intention), but I don't think it's fair to say that liberal = more compassionate. By and large it's just about taking different approaches to solving the same problems.

I also think part of the reason men tend to be more conservative economincally is that men have historically been the ones to bring home the paycheck (certainly that's changed somewhat recently, but still more of a male role). When you work extremely hard for a large portion of the week, then when the paycheck comes Mr. Fica takes all your money, that gets frustrating Tends to give the worker more of a negative impression of government. Just my 2 cents worth.

BTW, my parents have opposing political views and talk politics all the time. But never to the point where it's mean-spirited.

 

[Bichon Barb]

I'm not just talking about economic aspects (I'm actually quite fiscally conservative). I'm talking about social aspects as well. I.e. gay marriage, abortion, the environment, etc.

I think for many of us, having children opens our eyes to how important it is to take care of our planet. We think about how we would like our children to be treated by society if they were homosexual. Things of that nature.

 

[beattyfamily]

My DH I have pretty much the same views/opinions thankfully!

 

[jrydberg]

I guess my question is how would that open your eyes but not the eyes of the kid's father? Doesn't make sense to me.

Not trying to be argumentative, just an honest question and would appreciate a perspective on it that makes more sense to me

 

[The Mystery Machine]

We agree with things in general but how to carry them out is where we get tangled!