Are You The Bad, Good or Both Parent?

[Wish Upon A Star]

Between me and DH, I am the parent who gives out the discipline. The reason being I suppose is once I'm done ranting and raving I guess DH feels he doesn't have to say anything else. I always feel like I should have back up . . .

How about you?

 

[grinningghost]

This subject hits home!!!

DH and DD butt heads all the time. I am what you might call the "mediator" and I like it less and less all the time.

He simply can't understand teenage girls. He thinks ALL teenage girls are like the girls he hung out with as a kid (think about the trashiest girls you went to school with ).

I've finally learned to step back and just let them kill each other.

 

[Pooh's Pal]

Well, I was always the laid back one and he would offer the discipline in the house...but after he passed (8yrs.ago) Dd started to act up and I told her...."Just cause Daddy died, the discipline in this house didn't! "
With no help from my mother either-she used to laugh and tell DD what a rotten child her mom was and dd thought she'd get away with most anything, but...I told her a few famous lines: Do as I say....not as I did! and "Don't even think about it..I've been there and done that before!" Good luck...the teen years can be trying!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Both! Just call me Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde! I keep telling DS he'll be going to military camp!!

 

[Serena]

It's a long story, but I'm both. My ex would disagree though and say I was too lenient.

 

[mommytotwo]

I am the one that discplines and such. But when my daughter cries, she usually comes to me even though she did something wrong and I scolded her for it.

 

[Betsyt82]

I am the one that doles out most of the disciplin (forget the correct spelling) in our home............mostly because I am the SAHM. DD has the ability at 5 to melt DH into submission!!!

 

[Nutsy]

I've always been the one to discipline as DH was always on night shift & sleeping during the day so I was both Mum & Dad for so many years, as he never was awake long enough to do antyhing with the boys.

Now he has retired he has trouble fitting in with the routine the boys & I have had over the years & he tries to discipline but achieves nothing as it's just too late to start.

 

[tw1nsmom]

I'm the disciplinarian most of the time. Mainly due to proximity (I'm a stay at home mom). When DH gets home there isn't much time before the kids go to bed...not much time for bad behavior/punishments. However, on the weekends, or on vacations, DH and I are pretty equal in keeping the little ones in line (albeit a very crooked one )

 

[onecoolmama]

Both on the weekdays. DH on the weekends.

 

[CamColt]

Im the bad one...but Im also alone with the kids for 11 hours/day so Im the one they act up for most. On the other hand I have seen DH getting pretty mad at them lately. I think they think they can get away with stuff with him so they act up more for him lately. Theyre afraid of me, LOL!

 

[dizneenut]

I'm a SAHM and with the kids all day, so I'm both.

 

[Kitty 34]

I'm both during the week as my DH works 2nd shift and during the school year that allows him to see the boys only on weekends. But even on the weekends my DH is a softy, tho!

 

[EdiePA]

I'm sorry, but I think for divorced parents, co-parenting a child is a crock. My sons see their Dad one night a week, just for dinner -- where's the parenting in that? Oh, and he's the "Disney" Dad. Just throw a car, a bike, whatever, at them and they'll still love him.

So, all of the discipline and real parenting falls on my shoulders. Only DS#2 (age 19) is home now, so it has gotten easier. But I know that if he screws up on my watch, my ex will crucify me for being a bad parent.

The joy of being caught between a rock and a hard place.

Edie