Are you married to a workaholic?

[katerkat]

Depends on when his flights are and when he's deployed. My kids will be lucky to see him home 1/2 of the year while we live here, and even then there will be times he's on alert or flying all day or all night.

I grew up with a banker father and don't remember seeing him much from January-April. Just the nature of his work.

 

[leahannpen]

I'm not sure how some of you do it. I don't envy you in that respect. My DH does work some long hours, and he has to travel, but nothing like some of you.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by julia & nicks mom
So here is my question to you all - what time does your DH generally get home from work?

During busy season, DW will get home around 10-11pm and is back at the client by 8am or so the next day. On a busy month, she'll work 80-90 hours a week.

 

[jel0511]

Originally posted by Bob Slydell
During busy season, DW will get home around 10-11pm and is back at the client by 8am or so the next day. On a busy month, she'll work 80-90 hours a week.

That sounds so familiar..... I remember those type of hours when I used to work at Deloitte and Touche..... The 24 hour shifts, yes 24 hours straight, used to kill both DH and I (that's where we met). Since I've retired (ha ha), and Dh switched jobs, it's definately a more even keal, but I miss those leisurely CPA summers.......

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by jel0511
That sounds so familiar..... I remember those type of hours when I used to work at Deloitte and Touche..... The 24 hour shifts, yes 24 hours straight, used to kill both DH and I (that's where we met). Since I've retired (ha ha), and Dh switched jobs, it's definately a more even keal, but I miss those leisurely CPA summers.......

DW's with KPMG (we met in accounting class in college )

 

[Crankyshank]

DH can be home anywhere from 6- 9pm depending on where he's sent and what's involved.

He's a transmissions tech for a phone company and is always busy and never home "on time". In addition, he puts in another 2hrs of work at home.
Tonight he expects to be home around 7 and will have to leave again at 10pm because of a hot cut tonight in Newton

 

[mountaineer]

So far I'm the oddball here, I guess. My husband works for the state and leaves at 6:30 (drops son off at school on the way). He gets home at 4:40. He hardly ever has to travel overnight. He grew up with a dad in the banking profession and doesn't remember seeing him much in the evenings. He is home with our son much more than his dad was able to be home with him.

He does play softball and football though so he's one night a week during different seasons.

The plus side of being a state employee is he can pretty much get vacation days when he wants and carries 6 weeks of vacation over each year.

We love having him home so early in the evening compared to other families.

 

[EeyoreJMH]

DH gets home about 8:30 pm, unless he's working overtime, then it's 11:30 pm. That just happens to be how his schedule goes (we're on the east coast and he has to work with people on the west coast). But he starts later in the day, between 10:30 and 11:00 am.

I work funny hours, too, so sometimes we have to communicate by post-it notes

 

[Tink&SquirtsMom]

I don't know how some of you do it. My dh's dad was an "out the door before the kids woke up, home after they are in bed" kinda guy and dh swore he would never be like him... and he isn't. He's actually just the opposite. He's always been very upfront to his employees that family comes first and he's made alot of difficult career choices to facilitate his family-friendly work hours, but it must be working for him because he's been recruited to his last 3 jobs (which is really saying something considering his industry has been down for awhile now, and his current company gets over 20,000 applications a month even though it only has 5,000 US employees). He works from home 3 days a week, and spends 2 days in the office. Because we moved to be closer to family (about 3 hours away from his job), that now means he spends one night at work. So 3 days we have him home all day (starts work at 9, takes an hour lunch break with us, ends work at 5... though on a slow day much earlier). The other days he'll leave for work around 9 (getting in at noon, work till whenever he feels like it... sometimes 8 sometimes midnight, then back to work early the next morning, and he'll be home by 5. That way even when hes out of town at the office my kids still see him every day either for breakfast (the day he leaves) or dinner (the following day when he comes home). Before we moved here he would get into work around 10, leave at 5 and could work from home when he chose.I know we are pretty lucky. He works for an awesome internet company that treats families really well and doesn't care what hours you pull as long as you provide results.

 

[Rajah]

My DH doesn't typically get home until 8pm at the earliest, and 11 isn't unusual. 8:30-9 is most common.

And yes, I consider him a workaholic, especially since when he *does* get home, he's almost always directly back on his computer doing *more* work.

 

[ahutton]

Yes, my DH is a workaholic too. I'm lucky that he knows it bothers me, and he "allows" me to manipulate it. I know that doesn't sound good, really, we love each other and are very happy. Our kids school/day care is on his way to work. Me taking them there almost doubles my commute, so I "insist" he do the drop and pick ups. He can't leave them there any earlier than 6:30, and he must pick them up by 6:00, so that means he "can't" work any more than from 7-5:30 in the office. He is home for dinner most nights, except when track season starts, then I do the pick ups and we don't see him until 7:30 or later Monday through Thursday. He is the IT Director for the school, but coaches too, and is on call for computer problems always. We're lucky that since it is a school and people know he has kids too they really try not to call unless it is an emergency.

 

[patsvette]

Well i used to be a workaholic but since im now on my second marriage ive changed my ways and am home by 500 and dont hardly go out in the garage to work on cars anymore.I owned a repair shop and gas station and would work from 7am-2 am 7 days a week well that put a test to our marriage and i closed the shop but that didnt stop me,i started working on a few race teams building motors and cars and that was a 7 day job also. I guess she wanted to be around someone that would show her more attention so she left me for my best friend.Now with my new wife of 8 years in october i make sure im there for her when she needs me.And with a kid on the way i want to be able to spend time with both of them.NOw sometimes i do have to work long nights or maybe be at work for 2-3 days at a time since i work for a local municipality and if theres a storm or snow we have to be there till its over,but she understands it and never complains.