Are you close with your siblings?

[luvmyfam444]

I am not in the least bit - 2 older bros -4.5 & 8yrs roughly. We have never been close - I see one bro & fam maybe twice a year (they live 10hrs away) - we call & say happy b'day but that's it. the other bro lives 1hr away so I see him all the time (we get together holidays with our parents & we make it to his kids sports activities sometimes). I don't know when the last time was that I actually had a conversation with him. I have talked at him - hey - how are ya - kid looked good @ sport - that kinda stuff but that's it.
The wives I talk to when I see them -the one that lives nearby will talk to me when its convenient - (like noone else to talk to @ holiday dinner or when she needs something).

My dh isn't close to his sister either (they are 2yrs apart) so it makes me think it's not necessarily an age thing - though they do talk about 1 time a month (or more if they are complaining about his mom - lol)

Why I'm asking is I want to do everything that I can to keep my girls close. Of course there are going to be fights & times when they can't stand each other but I want them to be best friends - IF I can encourage that in anyway as a mom

 

[AustinTink]

If they are close growing up, they are likely to stay that way as adults. And, vice versa.

 

[superme80]

It also depends on personalities. My sister and I were homeschooled and my parents did tons of trips. Yeah can't stand her!

 

[Tink888]

We're not especially close but we do get along if that makes sense.

My brother & sister are closer with each other. They are closer in age.

We see each other a few times a year and I've been hanging out with my brother more lately. They both can count on me and I know that I could count on my brother. Not so sure anymore about my sister. I used to be closer to my sister but her husband is an arrogant jerk and that has sort of deteriorated our relationship over the years. It would be nice to be closer with her, don't know if that will ever happen.

My boys are two years apart and get along with each other. I hope that they'll be close as adults.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

I am very close to my sister and I am so thankful for that. We have always been close though. We are three years apart, and I am the oldest. I couldn't tell you why we are so close, we just grew up that way. My mother and my grandmother were very close and we saw this. My sister & I are also very close to my mom too so we all have a special bond I would say.

It's funny because my two girls are 5 years apart yet they are pretty darn close too. I just hope & pray that they always stay that way. Now who knows what it will be like with my son. Right now he is on their nerves daily so I don't know what the future holds there.

Now my DH is not very close to his two brothers. We hardly ever see them and they only call for his birthday or when we have a family get together, which is rare on that side. I find that sad myself.

 

[quasar4legs]

I love my sister and we are very close, we are always there for each other no matter what happens. We married brothers and we all get on really well.

My sister and I have totally different personalities and have very different interests but we understand and appreciate the differences and there is only 12 months between us so perhaps being close in age helps.
My sister lives in the same suburb as me and our children have grown up together and we all see each other several times a week.

I cannot imagine my life without my sister and her family, they are a very important part of my life. I have been very blessed.
I wish everyone could have what we have.

 

[2disneyboys]

I am VERY close to 5 of my 8 siblings. The oldest 2 I didn't meet until we were all.teenagers and I don't really have a relationship with them. (Dads first marriage) then there is the 4 of "us" and while we get on the nerves at times, we. Are each others best friends.. then there are 2 more kids from my.dads 3rd marriage...I am close to them but as they are so young (seriously,.they are the ages of my kids) it is a different kind of close.

Dh is one of four. He is not really close with any of them, but I am very.close to his sister.

I also hope my boys are tight for life.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I am close with my sister, we talk every morning right now. With my 2 brothers, we are not "close" but then again we are not distant either.

 

[Carly_Roach]

VERY close. I speak to my sister daily and my brother weekly.

 

[J3nn78]

I am close with both my brother and sister.
I speak with my sister almost daily and see her several times a week. We fought like cats and dogs growing up and still have our fair share of disagreements as adults, but she is my sister and I lover her. And just as when we were kids, we can have an all out screaming match one minute and be fine the next.
My brother I don't talk to or see quite as often. He is very busy, but we are still close.

We all live in the same town.

 

[cepmom]

I have one brother that I am not close to at all...in fact I don't even speak to him anymore. He has made some decisions in his life that I can not agree with and hold a lot of resentment towards him for

I also have 2 stepsisters that I am not close with either, but they became my stepsisters when I was an adult so it's not like we grew up together. I see them once in a while.

 

[KimR]

My sister and I did not get along at all when we were kids, but we are very close now. I see her every week and I consider her my best friend.

 

[scrapquitler]

I have two younger brothers. We get along really well and have a great time together when we hang out or get together for holidays, etc. But we aren't particularly close: I don't talk to them on the phone or go to their house to hang out unless there is some occasion, but I don't live that close to them (like 45 minutes away), they both live in the same town we grew up in. They do hang out together all the time.

 

[NMAmy]

My older sister and I are very close. She's 10 years older than I. I'm not very close with my younger sister. She's 3 years younger. So, I really think that personality makes more of a difference than age gap, in my case.

 

[NaLisa]

Closer than most, not as close as others. One sis is my best friend (other than DH), even though we now live hundreds of miles apart. We don't see each other or talk as much as we once did, but we always pick up right where we left off. We've just shared so many life experiences and understand one another. There's nothing we can't share with the other.

My other sis is somewhat of a mess and never can get her act completely together; nothing too bad, but she always has some drama going on in her life. We're also idealogical opposites. I love her and see her as often as I can, but she's hard to really have a conversation with.

DH is relatively close to his sister, but he resent her a bit because he thinks she takes advantage of their mother. He often says he wishes he could be as close to her as I am with my first sister, but he realizes that's never going to happen. We see them two-three times a year when they visit here or we visit there.

My DDs worship their cousins and miss them dearly. As my girls are less than two years apart, they're close and hopefully always will be. They have very different personalities but a lot of the same interests. They fight pretty regularly, but it always warms my heart when one sticks up for the other.

 

[jackemail]

No. My brother and I (he is one year younger) were very close as kids. He changed, though. Now my parents hear from him a couple of times a year, my Mom has Alzheimer's and he never bothers to call or visit or offer his help....and he lives 5 minutes away.

 

[mom2rb]

My older brother and I are very close. We talk at least once a week. We are two years apart. My little brothers are 16 and 17 years younger than me. I am more like an aunt than a sister to them. I still talk to them about once a month, but they are in college and are busy. They do call whenever they have girl problems and want my advice.

 

[The Pink Cupcake]

Yes. Very close with all of them. I am a twin, so I am attached to my one sister probably in an abnormal way We talk daily (sometimes several times a day). I talk to my other siblings very often.


I couldn't imagine life without my siblings.

 

[Hoodie]

If they are close growing up, they are likely to stay that way as adults. And, vice versa.

I have actually had the opposite experience. My sister and I were close growing up and now I see her maybe once a year (or if she wants something). THe little girls down the street were AWFUL to each other. Now they are inseperable.

My brother and I weren't really close, mainly because of the age difference, but now we are.

Basically, can't judge the adult relationship by the child relationship.

 

[pyrxtc]

I am not close with my sibs but we see each other often enough. we would all do anything for each other but I don't call just to talk and I have no idea's of what goes on in their lives and they don't know my life either. I am 2nd in the age line and the rest of them are all pretty close. My oldest was their favorite since she didn't live with us growing up and the younger ones are closer in age (two are 13 months apart) and they were close growing up. I was already moved out and married with a kid before the youngest was even out of 8th grade. I now have been married twice and have 4 kids and only one of them has a kid and he is only 1. we are in completely different times in our lives. I talk more with my Aunts and cousins I have than them.

We do know how to work together even though we don't ever agree on anything except what the end result needs to be. I had a different life than them growing up despite being the same household and they don't understand that. They saw/see me as spoiled and in reality my parents were reported to DSS for child abuse when I was in high school, against me after I went to school with visible bruise. usually they were hidden. None of my sibs remember that part.

But, My Sis asked me to be her surrogate if need be and I have no probs with that. She will be a good mother someday. I just stay apart unless we need to be together. We don't have a lot in common, they drink to have fun and I don't touch the stuff. I get along much better with an older generation and am comfortable living far away from them and don't relish the idea of living down the street from any of my family. I love them, but I choose to love them from a distance.

I am currently in discussion with my dad to live with him for the summer to help with my mother. he does not want it happening. I don't either but it's something that needs to be done to get her the help she needs. I can't drive 2 hours every day to help and living close can allow me to grab her and take her out for the day with me and the kids and live a more normal summer.

I love my sibs because they are family but I would never say we are close or even consider most of them my friends. The youngest one is the only one I talk to more and even that is not much. He is more like me in personality.