Are you a hugger?

[sunlver]

I know a strange question? Are you a hugger? Do you hug everybody you meet. I dont mean strangers , friends who come to your house, or if you see a friend out in public.
How about family memebers? When they come to your house, do you hug and or kiss them?

I hug and kiss my kids all the time, no thinkking about that.
We have no family here, so dont have to worry about them walking through the door When we visit my parents and first see them there is always a hug and kiss involved.
I only hug some of my friends LOL...I dont know why I am just not a hugger by nature(Unless my kids). I have to feel extremely comfortable before I hug anybody.
I guess I am just a "selective" hugger.

 

[John VN]

Selective here also.

 

[coolbeans]

Hug-a-holic!! I hug everybody (that I can get my hands on!!)

 

[Pop Daddy]

if your a female, I will hug

 

[slo]

I'm a HUGE hugger!!!!

I know when to do it, and not to do it, because if you overdo it, then it becomes annoying

 

[ducklite]

I'm a selective hugger.

A few weeks ago I spent a few hours with an old friend who I have stayed in touch with but haven't physically seen in 23 years. I got to the place we were meeting a little before him, and when he got there he practically ran up to me. Now THAT was a hug!

Anne

 

[freckles and boo]

I work in theatre. Hugging must happen, whether you like it or not (and sometimes there are people you just don't want to hug!!!). With my extended family hugs are very natural. It is part of the greeting and part of the good-bye. At home I hug my husband and kids all the time!

 

[Jeanny]

I'm a wicked HUGE hugger!!! When my kids come back to school, there's a whole lotta hugging going on!!!

 

[ADisneygirl]

I'm a hugger too!

 

[Minniespal]

I'm not really a hugger.

 

[TheGoofster]

Hug-a-holic!! I hug everybody (that I can get my hands on!!)

Hey CB, you'd do well here in Mexico. Here you hug EVERYBODY - including strangers when you meet them. Plus, it is very normal for a guy to give a girl (lady) a kiss on the cheek when you meet, or for a girl to give another girl a kiss on the cheek. When a guy meets another guy, normally it's a handshake, followed by a hug, then, while you're hugging them, it's three pats on the back, followed by another handshake.
Before we came here, I was already a pretty affecionate person, so I had no trouble adopting. But for some people (like my bro.), who prefer the 2 feet rule, getting used to being here can be somewhat challenging, what with all the hugging and kissing going on.

 

[DisMN]

NO! I don't do that! Why would anyone do that on purpose! How RUDE!!



oh wait.


I thought you said "mugger"......


I'm a selective hugger. (and I NEVER mug anyone!)

 

[Cool-Beans]

I hug my children (and my niece) all the time and will happily hug other kids if they come for it or get hurt. I hug my husband - we once did a little more than hugging.

I'll hug an old friend if their parent died or they are crying or come in from out of town.

But that's about it. I don't need complete bodily contact with someone I happen to see at the movies, you know? Kind of creeps me out.

I think hugging is a personal thing and don't like it when people hug me to say, "Merry Christmas" or whatever. Thanks, but no thanks. Too much casual hugging these days, IMO. And I really hate it when I tell people, "I'm really not a hugger" and they do it anyway. Hug rape!!!

But I love online hugs.

 

[Kitty 34]

Hugger here!

 

[Evil Genius]

I'm a hugger. But there are people in my life that just don't want to be hugged and I know who they are.

 

[hniki234]

I'm not a hugger. Not even much of a selective hugger. I rarely hug family or friends. My family was just never affectionate when I was growing up. I abide by the 2 feet rule. Thankfully, my friends (who are big huggers) realize that's just the way I am. I show my love in other ways. I do have one friend who if she hasn't seen me in a while demands that I hug her. Then she laughs because I apparently do the awful one-hand,pat on the back hug. Oh, well. She gets what she gets. Its not that I am opposed to hugging. I just don't feel comfortable with it. It doesn't feel natural for me.

 

[2bemarried]

I'm a hugger and kisser. Everyone in my family and dh's family hugs and gives kisses on the cheek.

 

[sugarpie]

I was not raised to be a hugger. There wasn't a lot of that in our household.

DH's family is full of huggers and kissers, I think they hug mailman. When I met the extended family I think I got more hugs than I'd had in a whole lifetime.

So, now I hug. It doesn't always come naturally.

I've made a huge effort to hug and kiss and tell my kids I love them - I don't want them ending up like me.

 

[HugsForEeyore]

I come from a family of complete non-touchers. Growing up, my parents never touched me. I never got hugs or anything, not even a pat on the back! I don't think they even held me much as a baby - every photo of me back then, I am in the playpen! Even to this day, I would never hug my parents, though I do hug my nieces and nephews, trying to break the family cycle a bit!

I must say, growing up in a no-touch-ever family did it's damage. I went through some times as a teen when I was getting pretty desperate for some human contact .... and teens will do what they can!

But nowadays as a adult, I do hugs some friends, if I can tell they are receptive to that kind of thing.

 

[DLBDS]

No. Other people doing it to me weirds me out.