Are people from Seattle really this snobby?? (longgg)

[ceiligh1]

I think she's homesick. Nothing is ever quite as good as it is "back home".

I agree with the above poster. As with any city there are always some people who are snobs. I think it may also depend on what part of the region she grew up in. I might get flamed for this but I know from working in Bellevue that it seemed, at times, the worst snobs were the spouses, mostly the wives, of Microsoft people. Keep in mind that my DH works there so I am talking about myself as well. They were always the one's who expected to be seen first by the doctor regardless of who had an appointment or was having a heart attack. When I first moved up here it seemed like everyone bent over backwards for them and then they started to expect it. I am not sure if it is geting better, or if I am just used to it, or if I have become one of them. But then again most of our patients were from Microsoft so the sample was a bit off. Snobishness is not a reflection of everyone in the area nor of microsoft it all depends on your values and how you were raised. There are a lot of wonderful people, microsoft or otherwise who do a lot for others and do not expect any favors or special treatment. I thnik seattle is a wonderful place but like most people my first true love is the city I grew up in.

 

[RadioNate]

I'm sure I'll get flamed. As I've said a zillion times I've lived in 8 states. And frankly I've never felt so unwelcome to a new area as I did in the pacific northwest. Yes I felt people were snobby. They weren't necessarly stuck up but there is a general 'this is the best place in the world' attitude.

If I made a comment about being sick of rain (after 125 straight days of rain) I got the standard 'well it wouldn't be so green and beautiful here with out it. Oh yes, it is so green and beautiful. I just can't see the green or the beauty through the fog, dreary skies and misty rain.

Now is everyone a snob, probablly not. My DH is from Oregon and most of his family lives near Seattle. His parents are very snobby but his aunts and grandparents are not. For example his parents will only drink Starbucks or 'gourmet' coffee. They have a $700 coffee maker and will not drink the grind and drip kind we make at home, even if the beans come from Starbucks.

I think there is definately some regional snobbery. Everyone thinks where they grew up is the best. Everyone likes what they are used to the best. You should hear how my cousin talks about where she is from in Indiana.

I do however notice it more when I lived in the pacific northwest. I just don't think they are welcome to 'outsiders.' As you can tell I did not have a good experience living there.

 

[hentob]

When some of my DH's family moved down here from up north, I can remember spending the whole Holiday eating terrible, northern cooked food... (His aunt had just completely ruined a wonderful Virginia Baked Ham by boiling it!!!!)

Um, that is not how the "north" cooks ham Your DH's aunt is just an awful and lazy cook

Wow, though, I never knew us Yanks had "terrible, northen cooked food" up here

Please give me more examples and enlighten me

 

[punkin]

I feel for the GF. She sounds lonely and homesick. I also hate living where I do. In my opinion it is suburban hell with pretensions to gentility. Whenever someone asks me how I like the area, I tell them the truth: I'd move back home in a minute if my DH could get a good job there. Unfortunately for me DH loves his life here, so I guess I better get used to it.

 

[chobie]

I'm sure I'll get flamed. As I've said a zillion times I've lived in 8 states. And frankly I've never felt so unwelcome to a new area as I did in the pacific northwest. Yes I felt people were snobby. They weren't necessarly stuck up but there is a general 'this is the best place in the world' attitude.

If I made a comment about being sick of rain (after 125 straight days of rain) I got the standard 'well it wouldn't be so green and beautiful here with out it. Oh yes, it is so green and beautiful. I just can't see the green or the beauty through the fog, dreary skies and misty rain.

Now is everyone a snob, probablly not. My DH is from Oregon and most of his family lives near Seattle. His parents are very snobby but his aunts and grandparents are not. For example his parents will only drink Starbucks or 'gourmet' coffee. They have a $700 coffee maker and will not drink the grind and drip kind we make at home, even if the beans come from Starbucks.

I think there is definately some regional snobbery. Everyone thinks where they grew up is the best. Everyone likes what they are used to the best. You should hear how my cousin talks about where she is from in Indiana.

I do however notice it more when I lived in the pacific northwest. I just don't think they are welcome to 'outsiders.' As you can tell I did not have a good experience living there.

People can flame me too. I moved there from the east coast at the age of 11 and lived there many years. I have recently moved back east and I never wish to live out there again.

I had a thick east coast accent when I moved there and I was told over and over agin how rude east coast people where and how they were so friendly. Well, they are polite, but I found it to be superficial.

I did find the people "fake nice". In Seattle, I found people to be snobs. Most of the friends I had out there were not from there originally.

Like you said, when Seattle has beautiful weather it is one of the most gorgoeus places on earth, however it is not worth living through all the grey and wet to get to those beatiful days.

 

[EthansMom]

Sounds like the girl is a jerk and doesn't like living in Virginia and/or isn't willing to give it a chance. The guy needs to dump her before she sucks more money and time out of him.

I've lived in Seattle -- as with any other place, people are who they are, some are nice and others are stuck up snobs. Personally, I've found Seattle to be pretty laid back. I've always thought that people were more interested in appearances in CT/NJ/NY than in Seattle.

 

[noodles]

I have to say Im really surprised at some of these responses. There are plenty of very nice people in the Seattle area. There are also some snobs, just like any other area. My uncle made pleanty of money working for Microsoft. It was not until recently that I even knew how well he had done there. He and his family are the most down to earth loving people. I dont think you can judge and entire region on how this girl is acting. Im sure there are some snobs and Bellevue seems to have a few more than other areas, but that does not mean we are all that way or that we have more than any other part of the country.

There are lots of Pacific Northwesterns on this board and every one I have come in contact with have been very nice people as well. To say that all people from Seattle are "fake nice" or snobby insults lots of us here on the boards!

 

[KarenAylwood]

There are lots of Pacific Northwesterns on this board and every one I have come in contact with have been very nice people as well. To say that all people from Seattle are "fake nice" or snobby insults lots of us here on the boards!

That's why I posted! To get the views of those who lived there and those who have visited/used to live there.

This is a girl, born and raised in Seattle spouting about how snobby people from Seattle are- I didn't know if those I knew and liked from there were actually the exception rather than the rule. The "fake nice" and "snobby" came right from the horse's mouth! Her brother's GF visiting also attested to this snobbery while the boyfriends just sat by and watched

I did get a lot of different views though! It's interesting to read the different opinions.

And it's not my place- but I really want him to dump her (supposedly his last girlfriend was a controlling-you-know-what as well ). Maybe I can convince DBF to plant the seed...


Shugardrawers!

 

[figment52]

My questions is when is your DBF's friend gonna grow a set and tell this broad where to get off?

Sounds like she's an a#1 PIA. Tell him I said "lose her".

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I hope he wises up before he marries this girl !!!!

 

[UrsulasShadow]

Um, that is not how the "north" cooks ham Your DH's aunt is just an awful and lazy cook

Wow, though, I never knew us Yanks had "terrible, northen cooked food" up here

Please give me more examples and enlighten me

I think that poster's aunt must be my MIL...she's likely to boil a Virginia ham, and wreak various carnage on all sorts of food...but I can't say it's a Northern trait per se, just a MIL trait.

Maybe this poster was contrasting our "terrible, northern cooked food" with her "wonderful, southern raw food"? Although that doesn't make too much sense, either, as I've had wonderful sushi up north and not too much steak tartare down south. I'm not sure WHAT that poster meant..

 

[Planogirl]

I've met some really nice people that grew up in the northwest and my husband spent some time there for business and had no problems with the people. I think that some people might be overly proud of where they came from and maybe that doesn't always come across so well.

As a matter of fact, there are Texans who think that anywhere else is basically useless and refuse to ever leave the state except maybe to run to Louisiana. I think that their attitudes are a bit much at times!

 

[disykat]

In general, I do think PNW people are pretty laid back - not snobby. However, to those that came here and made comments about our weather - that will bring out the teeth. That's called self defense, not snobbery.

I'm pretty sure the snob ratio is pretty much the same all over the country. I'm also pretty sure the teeth ratio is pretty much the same when people start making comments about how they hate the area that someone lives in.

I don't consider myself in the least bit snobby, but yes, my standard response to those who complain about rain is that it keeps everything green. It's the truth, not something I say to sound superior. It's called looking on the bright side.

The girl in the OP sounds like a snob - and that has nothing to do with where she comes from, it's more about who she is.

 

[FreshTressa]

I'Seattle is the best city in the world. Best.Food.Anywhere. Best.Music.Anywhere. And, of course, Best.Coffee.Anywhere.

Yup..it's true.....best stuff ever...but no H&M.

 

[FreshTressa]

I also do agree with the 'fake nice'

It is not that people aren't 'nice' it is just hard to get to know people. The tend to be pretty cliquish. And the women here tend to demand better treatment than in other areas.

It is like with racism here. It is not overt....no one would ever say anything mean to your face, they just don't invite you over, make sense?

The will be nice, friendly, agreeable....but are difficult to get to know or to open up. I'm guilty of this too.

I do think it is a regional thing.

It does not sound like the OP's friend though...she just sounds obnoxious.

BTW-trader joes and nordstrom ARE great places, lol.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I don't do well around people like her. It would grate on my nerves and I wouldn't be able to hide it. It's hard to be friendly with someone who has a poor attitude and thinks only of herself.

She needs a dose of reality. Don't lend her an ear when she starts up. I'd say, "You aren't going to tell us how bad it is here AGAIN are you?" And laugh it off. Make it a joke. Cause that's what it is at this point. If you don't try it isn't going to be any better.

I've found snobs lose their snobby disposition when they don't get attention.

ETA- I don't think her problem has anything to do with Seattle.

 

[DixieDreamer]

I am from the Pacific Northwest. Those who know me think I am quick to hug, love to laugh, and show proper respect and courtesy to those I meet.

However, I guess based on some of the posts here I must be operating under some delusion (as are my friends and acquaintences). Apparently we are all snobby and "fake nice".



Honestly, I think declaring 'whole regional areas' as being "something or other" is very insulting.

 

[Dan Murphy]

......Those who know me think I am quick to hug, love to laugh, and show proper respect and courtesy to those I meet......

 

[wilderness01]

I have always found the people I met from the Pacific Northwest to be very friendly and inclusive. It sounds like this girl is very homesick and sad. Maybe try to shower her with kindness, even if it is difficult. She sounds like she is unhappy and maybe acts defensive because she doesn't feel like she fits in. Give her a chance. She may surprise you.

 

[chobie]

I also do agree with the 'fake nice'

It is not that people aren't 'nice' it is just hard to get to know people. The tend to be pretty cliquish. And the women here tend to demand better treatment than in other areas.

It is like with racism here. It is not overt....no one would ever say anything mean to your face, they just don't invite you over, make sense?

The will be nice, friendly, agreeable....but are difficult to get to know or to open up. I'm guilty of this too.

I do think it is a regional thing.

It does not sound like the OP's friend though...she just sounds obnoxious.

BTW-trader joes and nordstrom ARE great places, lol.

Yes, that is what I meant to say and a better way of saying it. I lived there for a long time, I'm married to a born/raised northwesterner, my kids were born there. Between dealing with his family, trying to make friends as a child when I first moved there, working in customer service for many years there and being involved in community service in a smaller town outside of Seattle; I came to the conclusions that people tended to be snobby, clicquish, and not welcoming of new comers.

Those are my impressions and my opinions. That does not include everyone in that lives there, I did meets some very nice people there who were born and raised there and married one. Overall, I prefer east coast people. JMHO

Oh, my DH after living here on the east coast for the first time in his life, now agrees with me. He thinks that people here say what they mean and mean what they say and can trust that if they come off as nice they really are and if they come off as jerks the really are. But at least you know up front what you are dealing with.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

This thread is making me think of the recent "SouthPark" episode...."Smug Alert" (about Hybrid cars)....

If you need a good laugh to get you through this "girl", I highly recommend it!!!!