Are men always wrong?

[boomhauer]

Maybe it's just because I'm still new at marriage (6 months), but all of this stuff really shocks the heck out of me.

I was on my way back to work from a meeting. My wife called me on my cellphone just to say hi. When I got back to work, I checked my voicemail, and my wife had called. She was yelling at me for not picking up the phone. Apparently, she had left me 2 voicemails after we talked, on my cellphone. I was in the car, and had my phone on vibrate, since I had been in a meeting. Her messages were her yelling at me "WHAT IF I WAS IN AN ACCIDENT?", followed up with some expletives. She was mad because she got her car inspected, and now she couldn't get her hood open. I call her back and apologize for not hearing my phone ring. I asked her "What exactly would you like me to do?" She wanted me to drive to her work (30 minutes away), leave my car with her, and take her car back to the station and have them fix it. When I told her I couldn't do this, she just hung the phone up on me.

Are all my friends right? Is this going to somehow be my fault and am I completely in the wrong no matter what?

 

[L107ANGEL]

Yes

 

[Beth76]

Not your fault. Your wife is being unreasonable. Good luck!!

 

[nowellsl]

Absolutely!

 

[pearlieq]

Different thread, same answer.

From what you post, it sounds like there are issues your marriage. She sounds like she has issues. I would suggest you guys get some help...

 

[rnd4life]

My mom always used to say that the only time my dad was right was when he admitted he was wrong!

 

[Quackmore]

sounds like your wife is a real woman with attitude!!! Good luck to you.

 

[FergieTCat]

Accept it now -- you are a man. Men are never right. Even if you think you are right, you're wrong.

Women are always right. That's just the way it is. We don't care if we sound completely unreasonable -- we are never wrong. That's one of the advantages of being born female.

Don't worry, you'll get used to it.

 

[mtblujeans]

There seem to be 2 questions here:

Yes, men are always wrong!

How is the thingy with her car hood your fault? She's been single all this time...who took care of her car hood thingy before you!? SHEESH!! She should work it out....good luck, Sweetie!!

 

[sleepyone]

When there was trouble with my Jeep (black smoke coming out of it before it died)at the beginning of my marriage, I called dh to help call a tow truck or something. I was about 50 minutes away and he dropped everything and came to pick me up. He had a tow truck not far behind. He was a farmer at the time and could drop everything with the only consequence being harvesting through the night. To this day, if I were to call him at work, he'd come running even though there would be consequences at his current job. If I did have some kind of problem, I'd call his dad or my step-dad if they were off and dh was working. If it were a real emergency, I'd call dh for help. I would not yell at my dh, though for not answering my call and certainly not about a stupid hood. I'd just get dh to take my car when he was off one day since he always takes care of all my car issues anyway.

It sounds like you two are just trying to learn about each other. The first year of a marriage can be the most difficult because you're trying to learn who does what, and who's is who's...etc. I always hear the line, a marriage is fifty-fifty. I think that's bull, I think sometimes one partner just has to give 100% when the other isn't able...feeling down, hurt, etc. I'm guessing you feel like you're not respected and she's not feeling loved or cared for enough. You should have a talk about responsiblities, roles, etc. I'd like to say more but, I have to go make lunch for my bunch.

 

[Fanci]

poor boomhauer


Yes and Yes

for you when you see your wife later

 

[Christine]

I agree that your wife is being unreasonable. Not all women are like this and I don't understand the ones who are like that.

My boss' wife is like this. She'll be driving somewhere and get lost. She will call my boss while she's on her cell phone, screaming at him that she's lost, and for him to do something. It's the most incredible thing I've ever heard. I can honestly see her calling her about the car inspection and the hood. She would do this.

I am a woman and I have NEVER acted this way. As I said, I don't understand that behavior.

 

[boomhauer]

My boss' wife is like this. She'll be driving somewhere and get lost. She will call my boss while she's on her cell phone, screaming at him that she's lost, and for him to do something. It's the most incredible thing I've ever heard.

Oh no - My wife has done that to me before too.

 

[tmt martins]

That why I gave up trying
Now I just say CALL SEARS

 

[mtblujeans]

Years ago....I heard the first year of marriage was the hardest, I was told the first five years of marriage are the hardest, but I actually learned that sometimes a marriage doesn't get comfortable until after the first ten years! Life is a series of learning to adapt.... Some just adapt better than others!

 

[MICKEY88]

why did she want to open her hood...??

 

[Christine]

Oh no - My wife has done that to me before too.

My boss has been married to this woman for 20 years and she has never stopped the yelling at him. It has totally driven him over the edge. I suggest you have a SERIOUS talk with her tonight and nip this in the bud before it gets to be a habit.

I know you didn't ask for marital advice, but no one, no one, should yell at their spouse unreasonably like a spoiled child. You need to tell her to stop.

 

[rnd4life]

I agree that your wife is being unreasonable. Not all women are like this and I don't understand the ones who are like that.

I am a woman and I have NEVER acted this way. As I said, I don't
understand that behavior.

I posted on this thread jokingly before,but I have to agree with Christine, your wife is being very unreasonable and VERY childish!

 

[boomhauer]

why did she want to open her hood...??

She had to put windshield washer fluid in her car.

 

[boomhauer]

I suggest you have a SERIOUS talk with her tonight and nip this in the bud before it gets to be a habit.

Oh no - I've learned that lesson already. She'll just

A.Ignore me
B.Say she had a bad day, headache, and stay all pissy.
C.Assume I want a divorce