Appropriate attire for teen daughter

[Missingmypooh]

We went to epcot and AK on Friday. I was very surprised to see so much bathing suit top like material (talking like Miami Beach attire/gym attire, full cleavage, full stomach showing, no bra/pasties etc). This was for teens/adults and both men and women.

it’s not something I’m comfortable with between the walking, rides, sweating and sunburns, family pictures (or strangers getting pics) but interesting that it’s a trend on TikTok.

no one said anything to anyone, just like no one said anything to women in full religious garb. It is a personal choice in the eyes of Disney.

 

[harleyquinn]

^^^
I’m not worry about DGD’s confidence. So far she seems fine on that end.
My concern is quite simply how she will be judged.

You are never going to see anyone judging her at Disney World again. Women are judged all the time for a whole range of bs. As long as it doesn’t violate Disney‘s vague dress code (which I’m not sure almost anything does) I wouldn’t worry about it. I’m too busy trying to find some air conditioning. I don’t really care what anyone is wearing.

 

[myrandoranda]

I’m surprised nobody has been concerned about an exposed belly button ring being ripped off during a ride!!! That would be my concern!!!! I also think she will be fine with the crop top as far as Disney is concerned. BUT if YOU are uncomfortable with it, say no. Just because other girls do it doesn’t mean you have to let her. If you are ok with it, as others suggested, take a spare shirt just in case. 15 is a tough age.( 3 years ago a preteen and in 3 years will be an adult) They think they’re grown up and in all reality they are very naive. Honestly, I feel it’s your decision to make.

I don't know how her belly ring doesn't get ripped out by her jeans every single day! I'll chalk it up to a halo of youthful invincibility. Absolutely holding my breath at WDW, lol.

 

[NYCgrrl]

You are never going to see anyone judging her at Disney World again. Women are judged all the time for a whole range of bs. As long as it doesn’t violate Disney‘s vague dress code (which I’m not sure almost anything does) I wouldn’t worry about it. I’m too busy trying to find some air conditioning. I don’t really care what anyone is wearing.

Does this mean you are a clairvoyant and predicting I’ll lose my eyesight?
Ive been on this Earth a nice amount of time and believe humankind will always judge; just the nature of the beast.

 

[tinkerhon]

Our 15-year-old DD is in the phase where every person she encounters *must* know that she has her belly button pierced.

Going out to dinner?

Crop top.

Target run?

Crop top.

Disney World?

TBD.

She has her outfits picked out for our trip in early August and, unsurprisingly, not one of them covers her midriff. She's too old for Mickey Mouse ears and princess costumes. And I don't expect her to dress like a mom, lol. Do teens dress like they're at the mall? It's been a while since our last visit.

The website says "clothing that may be viewed as inappropriate in a family environment" is prohibited, which seems vague and left open to interpretation.

Parents with young ones: Would you be uncomfortable with the example set for your daughter by a girl wearing a belly button ring?

OMG !!! I could have written this !! Here now, and DD15 had her belly button pierced a few months before our trip--- now everything is crop, but not that short, and she has received many compliments !! (mainly from moms !!!)
She doesnt wear any crops to TS restaurants -
As a dad with many tattoes--- was hard for me to tell her not to get the piercing !!!

 

[DL1WDW2]

If you will travel via airplane …rubbing alcohol is flammable.
I have found small size rubbing alcohol and hydrogen peroxide at the gas stations . I’m not certain maybe 7-11s or Quick Trip. They are small 4 fl.oz and I keep them handy all the time since the medicine cabinet is small . I guess Target sells hydrogen peroxide and rubbing alcohol in container of wipes too.
Disney has recently announced a change for castmembers with tattoos and piercings & hair , etc. I doubt security is looking for this. They are more concerned with glass or metal objects.
Have fun and post an update.

 

[sponica]

I don't like crop tops personally, but whatevs. Honestly, my almost 5 year old wears shirts from Osh Kosh that barely cover her belly button...

Pack some appropriately sized full length t-shirts if you're concerned about it being "inappropriate" by the mouse's standards.

I'm too busy dealing with 2 kids under 5 to notice what other people are doing/wearing

 

[harleyquinn]

Does this mean you are a clairvoyant and predicting I’ll lose my eyesight?
Ive been on this Earth a nice amount of time and believe humankind will always judge; just the nature of the beast.

No, I just mean that you don't know any of the people at Disney. Why does it matter if anyone is judging? At least when we are constantly judged by the people around us that we actually know there maybe could be an argument for being concerned with their judgement, but who cares about a bunch of strangers and what they think?

 

[NYCgrrl]

No, I just mean that you don't know any of the people at Disney. Why does it matter if anyone is judging? At least when we are constantly judged by the people around us that we actually know there maybe could be an argument for being concerned with their judgement, but who cares about a bunch of strangers and what they think?

Ahh, now I get you. Well my concerns go past one random place but I hear you.

 

[katyjeka]

It isn't my families business what someone else wears whether its an adult or child. We don't and have never cared what someone says about us. Although I'd look quite scary in a crop top!!! As my oldest daughter often reminds me, "it's none of my business what people say about me".

 

[TheSouthernBelle]

Our 15-year-old DD is in the phase where every person she encounters *must* know that she has her belly button pierced.

Going out to dinner?

Crop top.

Target run?

Crop top.

Disney World?

TBD.

She has her outfits picked out for our trip in early August and, unsurprisingly, not one of them covers her midriff. She's too old for Mickey Mouse ears and princess costumes. And I don't expect her to dress like a mom, lol. Do teens dress like they're at the mall? It's been a while since our last visit.

The website says "clothing that may be viewed as inappropriate in a family environment" is prohibited, which seems vague and left open to interpretation.

Parents with young ones: Would you be uncomfortable with the example set for your daughter by a girl wearing a belly button ring?

We have seen many ladies/girls sporting crop tops at WDW. My 14 yo wears them too at Disney and never has had any issues. I think Disney has scaled back what they consider to be inappropriate and more focused on vulgar attire like shirts with profanity/hate speech, etc.

I have seen women wearing what looked like something Meghan Thee Stallion or Cardi B would wear at WDW and I've said to myself, how in the world did they get in to Disney?? Even my daughters noticed it, under boob was visible, butt cheeks just hanging out all while wearing what looked like to be made of see through white towel material. IDK, it was awful and meant for the club, not a day at WDW. We saw a man walk into a wall while he stared. My older daughter said that she probably wouldn't be on any rides since she'd be butt naked by the time she boarded and got off LOL. It was like a loose towel tube top and booty shorts.... not something you'd see at Disney normally.

So WDW has clearly loosened what they consider inappropriate. I don't know what most people think but I wouldn't sweat it. You're her parent so only what you think really matters. If you think she will be flagged, then you may have to buy her a shirt. Not the worst thing in the world.

 

[MrsPete]

Parents with young ones: Would you be uncomfortable with the example set for your daughter by a girl wearing a belly button ring?

Comfortable with the belly button ring? Sure, no problem.
On the other hand, IF the crop tops in question are very short and/or tight so that they "show too much" while she's climbing in and out of rides -- yes -- I'd be uncomfortable with that. I think you're saying it's the shirts, not the belly button ring that's causing your concern.

what "example" would she be setting other than that she has a preferred style and has good self esteem/body image. good for her.

I'm not sure good self-esteem is what makes teens want to show lots of skin; in fact, I think pretty often it's the opposite -- a fear that no one will notice them if they aren't showing skin.

First I would like to say that you are never too old for mouse ears. And my suggestion is to let her wear what she likes but maybe bring along a t-shirt just in case there is a problem.

Agree that you're never too old for mouse ears, but some teens are a temporary exception to this rule. They're "too cool" for Disney characters and mouse ears. It's tied into that self-esteem thing; at 13-15 girls are so worried about meeting other people's expectations. They want to be edgy /trendy at that age, and they mistakenly think that the more skin they show, the older /more mature /more stylish they look.

I’m surprised nobody has been concerned about an exposed belly button ring being ripped off during a ride!!!

I do think that's a valid concern!

OMG !!! I could have written this !! Here now, and DD15 had her belly button pierced a few months before our trip--- now everything is crop, but not that short, and she has received many compliments !! (mainly from moms !!!)She doesnt wear any crops to TS restaurants -
As a dad with many tattoes--- was hard for me to tell her not to get the piercing !!!

Several notes:
- You say "crop, but not that short"; this is an important distinction -- all crop tops aren't created equal. A crop top that touches the shorts /is near touching the shorts until she raises her arms is one thing ... a very short and/or very tight crop that shows under-boob is quite another thing. One is cute, the other is just not decent for a public place. We don't know just "how cropped" the OP's daughter's shirts are.
- You mention TS restaurants. It's fine for you -- the parent -- to say, "For this and this and this activity, I expect you to wear _____. You choose everything else." And I'll add this note about restaurants: she may be COLD in a restaurant if she's wearing something tiny. Natural consequences.
- Dad with tattoos vs. kid wanting a piercing: Children don't get to do everything adults do.