Anyone's baby every cry so hard he puked?

[Linnie The Pooh]

My son did that (barfed) too and was later diagnosed with acid reflux as well. It only happened when he'd cry really hard and was almost inconsolable. Very challenging situation, to say the least. I totally understand the bedtime issue. DS had a hard time sleeping through the night and didn't until he was about a year old. Looking back, I think it was the acid reflux that kept him up-that and he was somewhat colicky (but I've been told that was actually the reflux and not true colic-who know)

And please don't listen if people tell you holding him to go to sleep will spoil him. Everytime DS would cry, and I'd go to pick him up, my dad would tell me I was going to spoil him. Used to make me so mad. I cuddle my kids every chance I get b/c I know that day will come when they will pretend they don't even know me. I take advantage while I can. I try to look at those challenging times with an attitude like, "It's not like he'll be 16 and crying b/c he doesn't want to go to sleep." It's a big deal today, but it's not going to be like that forever. Good luck.

 

[FreshTressa]

Crying it out works for some kids...

And does not work for others.

Just like every parenting method out there, I do not think there is a one size fits all. Heck, in my family my two kids were both treated very differently when it came to bedtime.

I could not let an 11 month old get that upset in the name of going to sleep. They are babies for such a short time, try to find a way that works for both of you.

My sister had kids that cried it out successfully at 4 months. We did it at about 12 months with my daughter and never with my son. He always got too upset. I am happy to report that at about 3, he was able to go to sleep on his own, and has been for the past 5 years.

My daughter would cry and we would go in every 5 minutes or so, and it took about a week. She never got overly upset though. (but boy did she over other issues!!!)

I guess all kids have their issues and areas where they are more difficult and need more understanding. Like my son was hard to get to sleep, but easy to potty train an wean. My daughter was easy to get to sleep but had a harder time with tantrums. Sometimes you just have to put in a little extra time in certain areas for certain kids.

All just my opinion though. Most parents have different parenting styles and most of us grow up okay anyway.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

"It's not like he'll be 16 and crying b/c he doesn't want to go to sleep." It's a big deal today, but it's not going to be like that forever. Good luck.

I had to at that comment. I can't get my 15yo to go to sleep at a decent time at night (no, he's not up crying ), but then I can't get him to wake up in the morning. My DH is out of town and I've been doing the mornings with him and after me waking him up the first morning 3 minutes before he had to leave for school I let it be known that we're not doing that this week and what he had to do to be ready for school each day (his dad just lets him do whatever he wants so there's no hassle in the morning). Things have gone very well the last couple days. Typical teenager!

 

[FreshTressa]

I had to at that comment. I can't get my 15yo to go to sleep at a decent time at night (no, he's not up crying ), but then I can't get him to wake up in the morning. My DH is out of town and I've been doing the mornings with him and after me waking him up the first morning 3 minutes before he had to leave for school I let it be known that we're not doing that this week and what he had to do to be ready for school each day (his dad just lets him do whatever he wants so there's no hassle in the morning). Things have gone very well the last couple days. Typical teenager!

Hehe, I can just see you locking him in his bedroom to cry it out.

 

[dcgrumpy]

Mickey88--so true. DS knows that while Daddy may put up with a certain amount of crap from him, I will not. If he starts fussing too much, I tell him to knock it off because Mommy doesn't like to see crying babies. After a few minutes, it stops. He's learned that if he wants snuggles/kisses/songs/whatever, crying isn't the way to get it with me. I won't put up with it.

TOV

you never cease to amaze me

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Mickey88--so true. DS knows that while Daddy may put up with a certain amount of crap from him, I will not. If he starts fussing too much, I tell him to knock it off because Mommy doesn't like to see crying babies. After a few minutes, it stops. He's learned that if he wants snuggles/kisses/songs/whatever, crying isn't the way to get it with me. I won't put up with it.

TOV

I'll have to say that I didn't exactly have the perfect upbringing (who does, really?), but my fondest early childhood memory is knowing that even if I was sad, upset, in trouble, etc that I could crawl into my mom's lap and get loving. That kind of unconditional love can't be expressed with words, but sure can be demonstrated by the loving arms of a parent.

Of course that doesn't mean that you have to let your son manipulate you, but isn't he a toddler still? It's so important that he not feel that you will only love and comfort him if hes behaving just as you want him to behave.

 

[FreshTressa]

Unconditional love is overrated

 

[Microcell]

My DS almost 4 still does if he gets upset enough.

 

[FreshTressa]

I dated a guy when I was younger that got so upset when we broke up he puked, lol.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Unconditional love is overrated

 

[blowinbubbles]

I haven't read the whole thread, but I had to respond! When my first son was 10 months old, I decided to let him cry it out. The first night he threw up after about 15 minutes of crying, and being the softie I am I cleaned him up and brought him to my bed. Stoooopid! The second night, I put him in his crib, he cried for about 1 minute and barfed. I swear, he did it on purpose!

Since then, he has been a barfer, sometimes several times a week. That boy graced every restaurant we visited in Pensacola, and once even pegged a waitress on the back of her legs. The school used to call me and ask me to come get him because he threw up. LOL, it got to the point I told them that if he didn't look sick or have a fever, he was staying in school!

Fortunately, he has *finally* grown out of it! I was so tired of cleaning up barf!