Colleen27
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And another thing... Lol I can't help myself. That stupid conversation at the seafood restaurant with the Carrie and Miranda freaking out about Charlotte and Harry and doing the thing. She's married, not dead! And that's all I'm going to say about that.
I couldn't help thinking that maybe if the idea of married intimacy wasn't so shocking to Miranda, she wouldn't be looking outside her marriage for fulfillment/satisfaction. Charlotte is many things that make her my least favorite main character, but she's always been the one who is best at relationships. She puts the effort in to keep things in a good place.
I felt for Steve. He was never enough in Mirandas eyes. I think she convinced herself to marry him because she was pregnant with Brady and once she decided to have the baby her fate was sealed and now she is facing the consequences . I think she wishes she had a "do-over". She never wanted the life Steve offered, simple life, work hard, have a child, live in the suburbs, come home and watch tv etc. That was never what she wanted IMO. Miranda always wanted to work, make partner at her firm and prove herself and live in the city. I don't think she really wanted motherhood or the suburban life. It broke my heart when Steve was shocked and said he was happy with their life.
I think I'm in a minority here because this was the first episode where I saw where Miranda was coming from. Steve's whole reaction was sad, but also very reflective of how broken their marriage really is - he doesn't see a problem, so he's not going to meet her halfway to fix it, and being married to someone who acts like life is over at 55 would be very frustrating. I couldn't understand her cheating with Che, but I can understand her not wanting to sit on that couch, eating dessert and watching TV and talking about Brady (awkwardly, at that, because Steve doesn't even want to make the effort of wearing his hearing aids to make conversation easier), for the rest of her life. And his attitude of "that's marriage", "we are old", all of that makes it sound like he sees the problem as her expectations rather than his acting like a geezer, which doesn't exactly suggest he's open to trying to change their dynamic to work better for her. Even his whole sad speech about her not seeing him as enough makes it clear that he sees it as all or nothing - either the zero-effort status quo is enough or he isn't enough, because that's all he is and all he's interested in being.
Her chasing Che is immature and is going to blow up in her face, but I feel like last night's episode was the first time we got to see exactly how lonely things had gotten for her at home to send her out chasing that connection in the first place. I wouldn't want to be 55 and married to a guy who feels like work, watching TV and talking about the kids are all there is to life either.