Anyone other women not like their DH's choice of "best man"?

[Rock'n Robin]

We got married 18 years ago. DH's "best man" was a friend from HS. His other groomsmen were another friend, his brother, and my BIL.
This guy never knew the meaning of the word tact. If I told you what I heard him tell a girl when she turned him down for a date once I'd be banned from the boards. While waiting for the wedding to start he was giving DH sips from a little bottle of Jim Beam and saying "you know, you don't have to do this" . His wedding toast was laughably bad. I really wanted the other friend (who we are still very close to) to be the best man.
The "best man" got married a couple years after we did to a girl with 2 kids. Then they had 3 kids and she got her tubes tied. Then they found their kind of religion (don't know if it has a name, but they told the kids from toddlerhood about Santa) and she had her tubes untied--after an ectopic pregnancy she had 2 more kids and is pregnant again, with her 8th child.
This guy also did some side work with DH's remodeling company years ago--did really bad work on one job and left DH hanging, also DH/company loaned him $3000 and we never saw it again.
So after a few years of hearing nothing, the "best man" just calls our house. Guess what? I have caller ID and I didn't pick up the phone! He left DH a message but I don't want to talk to him.
Any other women dislike the choice of "best man"?
Robin M.

 

[Microcell]

I like my DH's choice, of course he is our mortgage guy so I have to say that! No, I can tell that he really cares about my DH so that is all that matters! I wish He and the other groomsman were not so tall, they tower over DH who is average! They are literally 6'4!

 

[leighe]

Really don't care for DH's best man who is also DH's best friend. I just think he's a jerk - one of those guys who wants to make fun of anything and everything ALL THE TIME. I personally think that "I'm to cool for everything" attitude is a big cover up for an insecure personality! He is so uncomfortable with anything unfamiliar. (DH can be a little that way too - he hates change of any kind - kind of gets on my nerves sometimes - I mean, eat something you don't recognize - it's not like if you do you'll be banned from cheeseburgers the rest of your life!)

Anyway, best man/best friend (who is 31) is not just dating but LIVING WITH a 19 year old. She has started calling me and bemoaning all the problems in their relationship. I just listen and don't give advice but what I want to say is, "Well, you are 19 and he's an a**. Let's start from there."

 

[WDWLVR]

DH's best man was his only brother. He was only 18 at the time, but did a great job. Great choice and still a very big part of our lives.

 

[katerkat]

I love our best man. In fact, we made a deal that if something happens to DH, I'll marry him. He's really the sweetest guy - they were roommates for two years in college. He's coming up to see us in two months!

 

[ducklite]

My husband had his dad stand up for him. He has always been really close to his dad, so it made sense.

Anne

 

[Growin'upDisney]

At first I didn't think my DH's choice was the most appropriate. He had been sort of like a big brother type to a young man named Mike. DH was only 18 when he met Mike who was 13 - but the young kids really looked up to my DH. He was the "father figure" none of these young boys had. They all came from single mom homes, much like DH, and he really took the time to teach these boys about the appreciation of things in life.

Fast forward a few years to our wedding and DH wanted Mike to be his best man. I thought Mike should be in the wedding but another frined of DH's should have been the best man. Mike was 19 at the time and I wasn't sure if he took the responsiblity seriously. Also my maid of honor was only 5' and Mike was 6'7". I thought it would look weird (my one and only bridezilla moment - I would later regret) But DH really wanted him and we agreed.

He was a good best man and gave a lovely toast and I never thought much more about DH's choice until about 2 1/2 years later. At the tender age of 22 Mike passed away due in part to a seizure he had in his sleep. I look at our wedding pictures and see Mike smile and take pride in standing up for DH and I and I realize that he was meant to be the best man. And even though there is sadness associated with the pictures I think about how happy he was and feel like he gave us a gift that could never be repaid.

So while you might not like the choice, the person standing up for you should have meaning and if the choice has meaning to your DH then that's all that should matter. It is after all his choice.

 

[skuttle]

I liked BOTH of my DH's choices. His first choice was his friend from college. At the time of our wedding, he was in another state doing Officer Training for the Navy. Well, the monday before our Friday wedding he called and told us that the Navy wasn't letting him leave for our wedding. So, DH then asked his cousin, who happened to be home from Japan (he's in the marines) to be bestman. Luckily we were able to get a tux that fast!

 

[Shugardrawers]

DH's boss/best friend at the time was tapped as his best man and to walk me down the aisle. Up until the day before the wedding we had no idea there was a problem. We were at lunch when his wife called to say Kevin wouldn't be there for the wedding because he didn't have anything appropriate to wear. Ummm....he'd known for 5 months he needed a suit! Anyway, DH's father offered to step in and do the honors. We never found out what exactly his beef was with me but he told DH he was making the biggest mistake of his life and that by the way I was a cow ( I weighed 200# at the time but DH didnt care so why should he???). The day he returned to work he went straight to personnel and transferred out of Kevin's crew and hasn't spoken to him since. On our wedding day we danced to When A Man Loves A Woman. One line says "turn his back on his best friend if he puts her down". I found that quite appropriate.

 

[Strawberry Lemonade]

I don't like who my DH chose as his best man. I did before the wedding, but shortly before the day, I had a falling out with his girlfriend. The best (and I use THAT term loosely) man chose to distance himself from us but stayed in the wedding party. I don't care if he never talked to me again, but he was supposedly DH's best friend and the two of them treated him unfairly. He and DH don't even talk anymore. I can't stand that he's in our wedding pictures for all eternity.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

DH's bestman was his Brother and yes I like him.

My SIL got married this past weekend. Her Fiancee chose his Best Friend to be the Bestman. What a great guy! He did this whole slide show presentation for the speech/toast showing them growing up together. It was quite funny and then when he got the the end he started crying when he was talking about the groom. I don't think there was a dry eye in the house including the groom. It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it!

 

[snoopy]

Loved all of the guys and girls in our wedding party, and still associate with all of them today. DH's brother was his best man, and one of the nicest guys I've ever known.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I hope DW doesn't -- we made him our DS' godfather. He was my best friend from college and my roommate for three years before I got married.