ducklite said:By the same token, I don't feel that anyone should ever feel "obligated" to give up their seat. Particularly on flights from Orlando where the planes are full of families, sometimes that strategy doesn't work because you'd be breaking up other families to accomodate someone. I'm claustrophobic and suffer from anxiety attacks when I'm feeling "suffocated" and because of this I don't give up my aisle seat which makes me feel much less closed in.
You never know the reason behind someone's refusal to change seats. And frankly even if it's out of simple selfishness, that's their perogative.
Anne
I too suffer from raging claustrophobia, and therefore fly United as my status almost guarantees me extra space in Economy Plus, if not an upgrade. I won't fly SW or buy an Air Canada 'Tango' ticket because I need to be able to have some control over seating (I know that even my United seat can change)
But as Anne says, there are many reasons for not changning. Once at MCO the gate agent asked me to change; my automatic response was 'of course' but then I told her 'no'. I had a broken shoulder and a sling and had picked my seat based on how I would be most comfortable. In that instance, call me selfish, but my comfort came first.
I have also been asked by an FA to change many many times. Sometimes the request is something like 'these two women speak Swedish and want to sit together'. In that case, if it's as good of a seat or better, I'll change. Sometimes it's 'a family wants to sit together'. Occassionaly that 'family' is actually husband and wife, and no kids. It could be that one of them has some kind of issue that they need to sit together, but who decides what is more important - their comfort or mine?
Getting on a plane every other week takes great preparation and strength of nerves for me, and there have actually been times when I have chosen to deplane and NOT fly because my stress level was so high.
While I have every empathy for families who are seperated, please don't expect me to move just because you ahve kids. If they are small etc, go ahead and ask. Just please don't expect me to explain my reasons in detail if I say 'no, I'm sorry, I can't today'