Anyone have an SO who doesn't like vacations?

[DisneyAddict_M]

Unfortunately, I do.

My dbf and I have been together for about 5 months. I really want to take a trip with him this summer. Nothing big...maybe just a long weekend away. He told me he'll have to think about it, because he doesn't really like vacations and he's useless if he can't work. He basically said that he doesn't need a vacation, so there's no point in taking one. I guess that's true. He's self-employed and works at home in low stress job (gets paid solely on commission, so he really does need to work every day), lives with his brother and really doesn't have many responsibilities.

On the other hand, I'm a single parent, my daughter and I live on our own and I have a very stressful job including an extremely long commute. I NEED A VACATION!!!!

I told dbf that I'll take a trip with a friend of mine of instead (my friend and I were actually talking about this earlier today, which is why I brought the whole vacation issue up again). After making sure I was talking about a female friend , his response was, "Have fun."

I'm making progress though, because not too long ago, his answer was no. Now it's maybe. lol. Am I wrong for wanting to spend a nice weekend away with the man I love?

Oh, well, I'm sure he'll come around.

 

[CJK]

Has he ever gone on a real trip before? Maybe it's sort of fear of the unknown (as well as the concern of not getting paid). Maybe if you go with your friend this year, come home and tell him how great it was. Maybe he'll go with you next time!!

Dh actually likes to travel, BUT, he chokes everytime he has to fork out thousands of dollars. It's a tricky situation. I didn't think we'd be going to WDW this year, BUT, then free dining came out and suddenly he wants to go. No complaints from me!!

Good luck with db!

 

[sweet angel]

Sometimes you can't teach an old dog new tricks.

Ex-BF didn't see the point of any vacation except Florida -- it was the ONLY place he had ever been. I got him on 2 cruises, but other than that, it was only long weekend shore "vacations".

He didn't and doesn't see the point of vacationing every year and flat out refuses to go anywhere that involves a long (more than a couple hours) flight. Doesn't like to fly, doesn't want to leave the country, etc.

It really can put a lot of strain on a relationship -- of course, there were other issues as well -- but that was a contributor.

As long as you don't have a problem vacationing with friends instead of him, and neither of you grows to resent it, it shouldn't be an issue.

 

[grinningghost]

My mom! My dad hates vacations of any kind. He used to like them - heck - he even took us to WDW when I was young.

But now, forget it. He goes to the grocery store and he's happy. I hope that never happens to me.

 

[outstandinfarmer]

I dated one for 2 and a half years. My dream is to travel the world and I couldn't get him to go away with me for an afternoon. This was just one of the many things I didn't like about him because he never wanted to do anything. EVER!! I couldn't stand it!!

 

[disykat]

My dh had never been on a vacation and didn't see any need for one. I insisted on a Honeymoon and specifically chose WDW (and the Big Red Boat - before DCL exisited) because I knew he'd love it. He did.

He thought I was going to drag him to giftshops and make him sunbathe. He truly had no idea that he would actually have fun. Ever since he figured out it wasn't going to be tortue, he enjoys vacationing.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Thanks, everyone.

Yeah, my dbf never really wants to do anything either. He's traveled a bit, but always locally. He wants to take a trip to CA someday, but wants to drive there. I wouldn't mind that if I didn't have a job and a child. I can't just pick up and take off for 2 or 3 weeks. He's never flown and is afraid to (actually, he's afraid of being stuck in a plane with no escape...maybe he's claustrophobic).

I don't mind vacationing with friends for now. I always have fun. Oh, well, I'm still working on him.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

Good luck, Mel.

I think that would actually be a deal-breaker for me.

My dad remarried, and his wife did not like to travel, and when they did go someplace she was critical because it was different than home. So, he went from travelling to Europe, long fishing trips - to trips to visit us (from Texas - California) and a trip to San Antone, once, because he wouldn't just take off without her. I, personally, wouldn't want to live like that.

 

[Buckalew11]

DH had never really done much vacationing bfore we met. And since then, I have done many trips to the beach w/o him and he has gone mountain biking and pheasant hunting out west w/o me. However, once I went to WDW, we found our happy medium and we both like vacationing there. He just didn't know "how" to vacation. It wasn't that he was a workaholic.
I would probably not get involved with a workaholic who could not enjoy the fruits of his labor.