Anyone have a great relationship with parent UNTIL adulthood?

[Disneymoon04]

Instead of rebelling or ignoring my mother like other teenagers, I was quite close to her growing up... probably because I was an only child and she was a single mother. When I moved out after high school, I was actually sad and quite honestly, we couldn't go more than 5 days with out talking.

Now as an adult, we are starting to have so many fights and problems. I've purposely avoided her calls and emails and we only talk maybe once a month now. She's always on my case about something and has to find something to pick on me about my life.

Maybe she just feels she didn't do a good enough job of parenting and is trying to make up for it or something?

Sorry... just had to vent.

Bobbi

 

[The Mystery Machine]

No my relationship with my mom was the opposite. However I would say that my relationships with my sibs are kinda like that. I was the "oldest" and that carries over into adulthood.

I don't think she doesn't think she did a good job, it just sounds like she misses you. With my parents I listen to their advice but really don't take their advice. Never did.

 

[OhMari]

Maybe as an adult you can understand things more and your mom sees this.

 

[TigerBear]

I can definitely relate to this. I have always been quite close to my mom. Since my divorce I am a completely independent person for the first time in my life which has changed the relationship I have with my mom. I love as much as always; I am just not as dependent on her. This has been hard on her I think.

(((Hugs)))

 

[crs7568]

I can absolutely relate. My mother and I were very close growing up and into the end of my 20's. I actually moved from a town that I loved and gave up a job where I was really happy because I got tired of driving to see her three times a week. About one month after I move back to my home town, my mother begins a mid-life crisis and starts picking up guys on the internet. Suddenly she is way to busy to see me or her grandchildren because she is on dates with truly pathetic losers. She is no one that I ever knew and she would have killed me if I had behaved that way growing up. It is a very sad thing to deal with...it is like mourning the loss of her before she is even dead.

 

[Disneymoon04]

thanks everyone... feels better knowing someone can relate, but at the same time I'm sorry to hear of your stories.


TigerBear I think you hit it right on the head.... with me talking about moving to a different city and a wedding coming up I think it must have just hit her that I'm not her 'little girl' anymore and she's having trouble dealing.

 

[Disney845]

I can relate to this somewhat as well. I grew up in a single parent household for my entire childhood. I considered our relationship fairly good until about 6 months after I moved out. I moved away to start my own life, and my mother falls for this total loser. We have a VERY strained relationship now to say the least, all of which I feel stems from her "relationship." She is the one acting like a kid and doing stupid things and I am the one being the parent to her and trying to explain why her behavior is reprehensible.