Anyone else have a workaholic husband?

[RUDisney]

If you're reading this standing up. Please sit down.

My DH took today off from work. He actually is going to the car show in NY with some of his friends. This is HUGE! He hasn't been out with any of his friends in so long. I know he'll do a lot of business over the phone while he's gone, but at least he took the day... It was supposed to be yesterday, but customers needed him, so he postponed.

Would that it would become a trend!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Dh is not a workaholic but he is at work a lot. I know he feels the pressure to provide for us as I am a SAHM. I wish DH was home more but don't we all. On the upside, he is an engineer in a classified environment so he is prohibited from bringing any work home!

It's nice that there is an upside to classified status.


My hubby is about like your hubby.

 

[mookie]

If you're reading this standing up. Please sit down.

My DH took today off from work. He actually is going to the car show in NY with some of his friends. This is HUGE! He hasn't been out with any of his friends in so long. I know he'll do a lot of business over the phone while he's gone, but at least he took the day... It was supposed to be yesterday, but customers needed him, so he postponed.

Would that it would become a trend!

YEAHHHH!!!!!!

Congrats on your Hubby!! Maybe he'll see that a day off now and then isn't so bad after all!

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Yes my dh is a real workaholic. He usually doesnt come home until at least 8 pm at night every night. He works on the week ends too at home. They bought him a laptop for that one. He gets 5 weeks vacation a year and last year had to get special dispensation not to take his vacation and carry it over till this year. He never takes a sick day off etc. We did go to disney in nov/dec, but most of the time he was at a conference there. He did spend part of 3 days with us I think. We also just got back from a week at disney. He didnt even use the laptop. I know he tried really hard not to do any work and he didnt even call the office. My aunt died the day before our trip and he said he wanted to spend as much time with us as possible also since this was the one ds last trip with us before college. My dh has the philosophy that he must "save the world" and the place will fall apart without him. In all honesty he does work much harder than anyone else in the place. He finally just got the raise and promotion he has deserved for such a long time. His rotten boss always goes against him. He has also been named a mentor of the year, employee of the year and he has invented one of the top 100 inventions in america once, he is working on something else now and might get that award again. I wish he would spend more time with the family. I have talked to him about this to no avail. I told him unfortunately you wont get this time back etc.

 

[mookie]

Alright, my support sisters! Time to vent!

So, Dh is once again on a business trip. I swear when he's out he feels like he's "home free." He's always out to client dinners, which I understand, but he always makes sure he's the last one to leave. I swear it's like he's out at the bar every single night!

Take last night....they are having a big internal meeting to celebrate a merger, so they flew in all the offices from around the country. The big "drunken fest" (as he puts it) is tonight. Which makes me REALLY happy, considering this means he's not home until tomorrow, and spends a Friday night away from his family for a "drunk fest."

Considering this is an internal meeting/party/excuse to celebrate, there will be no clients there. However, it seems the fun started LAST night. About 8pm, when I hadn't heard from him, I called him. Of course, he was out with everyone from his office (you know, the one he sees everyday?) so the conversation was short. He said he'd have a bad day and call me later. Fine.

So, about 11:30pm, I was still up, and hadn't heard from him. So, I called again (don't want to look like the psycho wife, but I do have a tendancy to get worried...). He was out at a bar playing pool. I said to him "I was just wondering if I should wait up for you to call or go to bed." His response? "Go to bed." Arrgh! If it wasn't every single time he was out on a business trip, I wouldn't mind. But this is ridiculous. Well, he knew I was mad, and called me back 5 minutes later. Saying sorry, but they got wrapped up into playing pool, and then they were going to meet the rest of the office at another bar. I was annoyed, so I said goodnight and hung up. He then sent me a text message at 2AM (!!!!) saying goodnight, he loved me, blah blah. Then, he called this mornign and can't figure out why I'm so ticked when he says "wow, I got pretty hammered last night." So, we attempt to have it out, at which point he gets mad at me because of course, "He's building relationships, even if it's with everyone in his office...he's the new guy, so he has to do this."

I swear I just feel like it's a drunken frat party every time he goes out there. Regardless if its with clients or not. And it's not really just him - it's the nature of his company. That's what they do. Drives me crazy. But, of course, I'm the bad guy for bringing it up all the time. He says that I'm being ridiculous, it's not like he's going and picking up women or going to a strip club or something. But it's just the point, you know?

Okay, done venting. Trust me, it's not like I think DH is cheating on me or anything, I just think he's liking this freedom a little too much...

 

[T. Lynn]

Can't blame ya for getting upset on the "drunken fest". I'd be ticked too.

I think yesterday kinda gave my DH a reality check. He went to a funeral for a friend of ours. She was 34 and passed away with cancer and had two young children under the age of 5. The dad will have to now step up and do everything.

DH said that it gave him a reality check on how much he relies on me (taking care of DD all day while he works and then side job work - basically morning till night by myself, cleaning, appointments, parent helper @ school, pick up DD at sitter on days I work, taking care of finances, doing quarterly reports/taxes for our business, etc...). He said it made him think about how much I do and how he'd be lost without me. I can tell in his voice how much it was affecting him.

Maybe now he'll be home a little more like he use to over the winter. One can only hope as life is too short. It's scary when someone passes away that is close to your age. Makes you think how lucky you are and that time is precious.