Anyone else have a workaholic husband?

[mamaprincess]

hello my name is mamaprincess and my DH is a workaholic.

He is an overachiever in all areas He would put most workaholics to shame. He thinks he does everything better than everyone else so he also grocery shops, irons, mops, vacuums, scrubs all the house hold surfaces and cooks, does all the yard work, washes the cars by hand weekly all with alarming precision all while working 60 hour plus work weeks because if he doesn't do it, it won't be done right. I gave up and now spend my time lazing around on the couch snacking and watching t.v. because I don't have to do anything but comb the girls hair, pick out there outfits and drive them to school but don't think he wouldn't drive them if it didn't conflict with his precious work schedule.

Anyone else have a DH from outterspace?

 

[DVC-Don]

DW was a workaholic back when she started her own buisness in 1987 and for several years thereafter. She'd be at her office at 8 AM and come home for dinner about 6 PM then it would be back to the office till 9 PM weekdays. She was also in the office Sat's 9-5 and then catchup work Sun afternoons. I used to to hang out with her Sat's and Sundays. After our first child she was back in the office the day after getting out of the hospital. Nowadays she has some employees and rarely works past 5 and even rarer on weekends. Having the second child in 1992 slowed down the night work also.

 

[canwegosoon]

With all due respect, I find this rather amusing..or annoying...not sure which at this point. This board is filled with SAHMs who want it all. SAH, yet have enough money for WDW trips, nice house, designer clothes for themselves and the kids, all the latest and greatest "toys," etc.

You can't have it both ways. In this world, if you want it all your husband must give 100%. There is no such thing as 90% in the corporate world. Now before anyone stands up and declares "Not me, Not me!!! I'm different" that may be. Some of you may be happy with a smaller house, older cars, and less frequent trips to WDW. But from reading this board for years, I know that's not the norm. So think about it before you reply. Do you want (or even expect) to have all these things? Be honest. If the answer is yes, that comes at a price. And if that's the case, be thankful rather than resentful that your husband cares enough to work that hard for your family.

How rude can you be...I mean really...it's nice that you troll these threads and spew your hatefullness. You would not even know what it means to be a partner in a relationship where one spouse is making all the sacrifices as related to a career, and the other spouse is at home handling everything else-and making sacrifices in their career(or lack of one)too. I guess you think it is fun to have someone say well my money pays the bills, and provides for us-That's what some people get even in 2006. I guess you think SAHM somehow deserve that attitude for the right to be home. How do you know that there aren't members of this thread that walk around in old clothes, dye their own hair, and drive older cars...you have ESP...let me know so you can pick the lotto for me(and I won't have to figure out how to balance my budget). Or perhaps you think all we do is sit home and eat bon bons...well yesterday I was having 2 cars inspected, brought my DH to work, praticing baseball with my boys, along with the usual house work and laundry. Sorry I don't spend my afternoons lunching with the girls and shopping.

As I put in my post competition is alot more feirce in the corporate world, and for get 100%- it's more like 200%. Do you think every husband wants to be in a medicore job? Not mine...he's a smart man who has carved out a good career path for himself. Could he do it alone? NO...many wives support their DH with a variety of ways. We have to be nice to the boss and his wife, no matter what is going on, we have to host parties that we might not have the money to do, and we might even have to join a Country Club so our DH can make connections etc. Is it a tough life...yes...it sounds great doesn't it. I guess you think it's fun to explain to your children again that their dad just called and he won't be home for dinner (again), but still be happy about it-and not let them see how disappointed you are. I guess you don't think it is heart breaking that you would love to do more for your DH, but you can't.

A friend said to me, you know you wouldn't want it anyother way...and I had to walk away. Corporate America has changed so much in the last 10 years it is scary. It is not about my wants...it is about my DH needs to keep his job, and I cannot complain. ALso I hope you realize that many corporate families do not live anywhere near their extended families or friends, infact I know several husbands that work in different states than their wives and children-I guess those wives want it that way too.

Since you obviously don't want to support spouses of work-acholoics...

 

[punkin]

How rude can you be...I mean really...it's nice that you troll these threads and spew your hatefullness. You would not even know what it means to be a partner in a relationship where one spouse is making all the sacrifices as related to a career, and the other spouse is at home handling everything else-and making sacrifices in their career(or lack of one)too. I guess you think it is fun to have someone say well my money pays the bills, and provides for us-That's what some people get even in 2006. I guess you think SAHM somehow deserve that attitude for the right to be home. How do you know that there aren't members of this thread that walk around in old clothes, dye their own hair, and drive older cars...you have ESP...let me know so you can pick the lotto for me(and I won't have to figure out how to balance my budget). Or perhaps you think all we do is sit home and eat bon bons...well yesterday I was having 2 cars inspected, brought my DH to work, praticing baseball with my boys, along with the usual house work and laundry. Sorry I don't spend my afternoons lunching with the girls and shopping.

As I put in my post competition is alot more feirce in the corporate world, and for get 100%- it's more like 200%. Do you think every husband wants to be in a medicore job? Not mine...he's a smart man who has carved out a good career path for himself. Could he do it alone? NO...many wives support their DH with a variety of ways. We have to be nice to the boss and his wife, no matter what is going on, we have to host parties that we might not have the money to do, and we might even have to join a Country Club so our DH can make connections etc. Is it a tough life...yes...it sounds great doesn't it. I guess you think it's fun to explain to your children again that their dad just called and he won't be home for dinner (again), but still be happy about it-and not let them see how disappointed you are. I guess you don't think it is heart breaking that you would love to do more for your DH, but you can't.

A friend said to me, you know you wouldn't want it anyother way...and I had to walk away. Corporate America has changed so much in the last 10 years it is scary. It is not about my wants...it is about my DH needs to keep his job, and I cannot complain. ALso I hope you realize that many corporate families do not live anywhere near their extended families or friends, infact I know several husbands that work in different states than their wives and children-I guess those wives want it that way too.

Since you obviously don't want to support spouses of work-acholoics..why don't you just move on.

ITA. I just wanted to add: What about my career that I gave up because we had children and someone had to spend time with them. The fact that I was making as much as DH when I decided to stay home and give my children at least a mother they saw more than once every other weekend and now apparantly I'm a freeloader.

 

[mamaprincess]

Oh how could I have forgotten that when our baby was due he told me he wasn't sure if he would make it because they were finishing off a project and he may be needed. He was working out of town the majority of that year. I had to tell him as clearly as I could that if he was not there for the birth of the baby that I could not be held responsible for what I might snap and do to him. Needless to say, he found a way to be there.

 

[FreshTressa]

hello my name is mamaprincess and my DH is a workaholic.

He is an overachiever in all areas He would put most workaholics to shame. He thinks he does everything better than everyone else so he also grocery shops, irons, mops, vacuums, scrubs all the house hold surfaces and cooks, does all the yard work, washes the cars by hand weekly all with alarming precision all while working 60 hour plus work weeks because if he doesn't do it, it won't be done right. I gave up and now spend my time lazing around on the couch snacking and watching t.v. because I don't have to do anything but comb the girls hair, pick out there outfits and drive them to school but don't think he wouldn't drive them if it didn't conflict with his precious work schedule.

Anyone else have a DH from outterspace?

All that and you can eat whatever you want too...??

I think I hate you

j/k....do you guys ever have fun together??

My DH's workaholism never extends to domestic chores...NOPE, those are all mine!!

 

[WIcruizer]

How rude can you be...I mean really...it's nice that you troll these threads and spew your hatefullness. You would not even know what it means to be a partner in a relationship where one spouse is making all the sacrifices as related to a career, and the other spouse is at home handling everything else-and making sacrifices in their career(or lack of one)too. I guess you think it is fun to have someone say well my money pays the bills, and provides for us-That's what some people get even in 2006. I guess you think SAHM somehow deserve that attitude for the right to be home. How do you know that there aren't members of this thread that walk around in old clothes, dye their own hair, and drive older cars...you have ESP...let me know so you can pick the lotto for me(and I won't have to figure out how to balance my budget). Or perhaps you think all we do is sit home and eat bon bons...well yesterday I was having 2 cars inspected, brought my DH to work, praticing baseball with my boys, along with the usual house work and laundry. Sorry I don't spend my afternoons lunching with the girls and shopping.

As I put in my post competition is alot more feirce in the corporate world, and for get 100%- it's more like 200%. Do you think every husband wants to be in a medicore job? Not mine...he's a smart man who has carved out a good career path for himself. Could he do it alone? NO...many wives support their DH with a variety of ways. We have to be nice to the boss and his wife, no matter what is going on, we have to host parties that we might not have the money to do, and we might even have to join a Country Club so our DH can make connections etc. Is it a tough life...yes...it sounds great doesn't it. I guess you think it's fun to explain to your children again that their dad just called and he won't be home for dinner (again), but still be happy about it-and not let them see how disappointed you are. I guess you don't think it is heart breaking that you would love to do more for your DH, but you can't.

A friend said to me, you know you wouldn't want it anyother way...and I had to walk away. Corporate America has changed so much in the last 10 years it is scary. It is not about my wants...it is about my DH needs to keep his job, and I cannot complain. ALso I hope you realize that many corporate families do not live anywhere near their extended families or friends, infact I know several husbands that work in different states than their wives and children-I guess those wives want it that way too.

Since you obviously don't want to support spouses of work-acholoics...

That's a nice diatribe, unfortunately it isn't based on anything I said. Instead, I think you're venting about what you wanted it to say. In fact, I see a whole lot of comments like "perhaps you think." I understand it makes for more interesting debate if you fantasize about what my post REALLY means.

I stand by what I said. I know women like this. And their are women like that in DIS. If you're not one of them, why would you be offended? Either way, let's not pretend their aren't plenty of women who want all the luxuries in life, then complain DH is working all the time. We all know that's true. Just as some DH work more than they have to in order to avoid home.

 

[WIcruizer]

ITA. I just wanted to add: What about my career that I gave up because we had children and someone had to spend time with them. The fact that I was making as much as DH when I decided to stay home and give my children at least a mother they saw more than once every other weekend and now apparantly I'm a freeloader.

And, of course, you can point to the quote where I said you (or anyone) is a freeloader. Right?

 

[mamaprincess]

All that and you can eat whatever you want too...??

I think I hate you

j/k....do you guys ever have fun together??

My DH's workaholism never extends to domestic chores...NOPE, those are all mine!!

He is a riot. We have an awesome time together. I hit the motherload with him. I just thought he was kind of cute and funny and would be nice to be with for life, all this additional stuff surprised the heck out of me.

 

[canwegosoon]

ITA. I just wanted to add: What about my career that I gave up because we had children and someone had to spend time with them. The fact that I was making as much as DH when I decided to stay home and give my children at least a mother they saw more than once every other weekend and now apparantly I'm a freeloader.

And not only the fact that you gave up that career, but try to re-enter the workforce when your kids are grown, you will be lucky to make what you were making before...and you will never beable to catch up-even if you are a workacholic too.

BTW I think being the parent to raise the family is an important job if that is the choice you/your dh make. And we had a long discussion about this -before we had kids. I don't want to take anything away from spouses that continue to work.

And to make some of you laugh...my brother is a SAHD...he drives a truck at night (his wife is a teacher)and does take advantage of daycare. But for them this works best...but neither of them are workaholics .

 

[mookie]

That's a nice diatribe, unfortunately it isn't based on anything I said. Instead, I think you're venting about what you wanted it to say. In fact, I see a whole lot of comments like "perhaps you think." I understand it makes for more interesting debate if you fantasize about what my post REALLY means.

I stand by what I said. I know women like this. And their are women like that in DIS. If you're not one of them, why would you be offended? Either way, let's not pretend their aren't plenty of women who want all the luxuries in life, then complain DH is working all the time. We all know that's true. Just as some DH work more than they have to in order to avoid home.

As the person who originally posted this thread, I just had to point this out. WIcruizer does have a bit of a point, even though it wasn't so eloquently put.

I do know many moms in my area that are like this. They do want everything, but they don't know financially how they are going to get it. Their poor DH's listen to them list off all of the things that they want or feel that they "need," and then the DH's realize if they are going to provide that for their family, they are the only ones that are going to be able to do that. The pressure is on for DH to perform. These wives want to "keep up with Joneses" but at the same time, they want their husbands to be home at 4pm, after leaving the house at 9am.

I do know that these women exist, but I don't think any of those women are here on this thread. It's not about the money. It's about the time. We have the money. It's a non-issue. I know DH feels a bit of pressure because if he doesn't do a good job in his career, gets fired, laid off, etc, we have no other salary to pick up the pieces since I stay home. I do understand that is a lot of pressure, and I don't know if I would want that on my shoulders. However, just knowing my DH and how his "inner workings" are, I also know that there is probably plenty of times that he could prioritize better. If he did that, he probably could still get done what needed to be done, and still be home for dinner. DH thinks I'm crazy, but I've seen it firsthand. His boss will call him from halfway across the country at 6:00, to BS (I don't think talking about his golf game really helps any work issues) and DH wil talk to him for over a half hour, because "it's his boss," and he feels like if he just does those little things, it will make a difference when review/promotion time comes around.

I'm sure his boss knows that he's human, and has a family, and if he wants to BS, fine. But don't engage in a conversation at 6pm to do it, and take time away from the family. DH could easily say "call me on my cell, so I can get in the car and work my way home while we talk." I don't think his boss would fire him over that.

I honestly feel bad for DH....sometimes. I feel like he misses out on a lot, and it bothers him, but he doesn't know how to fix it. That's why I think he gets so upset when I bring it up to him. But at the same time, he's done it to himself. Today was another example. DD had her yearly pediatrician exam and it didn't go so well. We decided to go to lunch with daddy after it was over. We picked him up to make it easier for him. Keep in mind he agreed to go to lunch, and I even suggested something quick, not even a sit down lunch. Do you know what he did? Checked his Blackberry the entire lunch for emails, and barely said 2 words to his DD about her appt!!! When I finally asked if he did the same thing during client lunches, he said no. I said, good, because if I were a client, there is no way I would do business with someone who doesn't value my time. I think he got the hint. I told him: treat us like a client. We are here for lunch. Our time is just as important as yours. If you can't lunch, say no, but if you say yes, don't do it half-a*ssed. That's what makes it look like we are low on the priority list.

Again, it's just the little things. Don't stay for the "extra drink" after the business dinner. Try to take the earlier flight home if you are done with your meetings early. And for gosh sakes, take a day off....you are still getting paid for it, and that's what they are there for!!!!

 

[mickeyboat]

mookie - you said that really well. I wrote a post with some similar ideas, but hit the "back" button, because it wasn't coming out right.

My SIL is a SAHM, her husband is a workaholic, and it has been this way for almost 16 years. She did not give up a high-powered career, but she gave up spending time with her husband, spending time as a family, and a lot of her own identity in the process. They live in a fancy house, drive fancy cars, and buy lots of stuff. But her husband is never home, they rarely take family vacations, and he doesn't really have much in common with his wife anymore.

I think her DH feels a lot of pressure to provide well for his family - if he can't spend time with them, he should at least be able to buy whatever they want. Her being a SAHM also allows him the freedom to spend more time at work - because she is always there to do everything related to the kids and the house.

SIL has always enjoyed the advantages of staying home with the kids, and having the financial freedom she does. But now as the kids get older, she and her husband are having some issues, because I think they have grown apart - while he spent time on his career, and she spent time on their family.

DH and I saw this happen to them before we had kids, and it is one of the reasons I work. I don't want DH to miss out on his children, or on me because he has to work night and day to provide for us. I would feel guilty that I got to spend all kinds of time with the kids, while he couldn't. He is a self-employed carpenter, and works realy hard, especially in the summer. But he has the financial flexibility to turn down a job if it will take away from time spent with us. He comes to parent-teacher conferences, he takes the kids to the dentist, he picks them up from day care quite often. It works for us.

Denae

 

[WIcruizer]

As the person who originally posted this thread, I just had to point this out. WIcruizer does have a bit of a point, even though it wasn't so eloquently put.

I do know many moms in my area that are like this. They do want everything, but they don't know financially how they are going to get it. Their poor DH's listen to them list off all of the things that they want or feel that they "need," and then the DH's realize if they are going to provide that for their family, they are the only ones that are going to be able to do that. The pressure is on for DH to perform. These wives want to "keep up with Joneses" but at the same time, they want their husbands to be home at 4pm, after leaving the house at 9am.

I do know that these women exist, but I don't think any of those women are here on this thread. It's not about the money. It's about the time. We have the money. It's a non-issue. I know DH feels a bit of pressure because if he doesn't do a good job in his career, gets fired, laid off, etc, we have no other salary to pick up the pieces since I stay home. I do understand that is a lot of pressure, and I don't know if I would want that on my shoulders. However, just knowing my DH and how his "inner workings" are, I also know that there is probably plenty of times that he could prioritize better. If he did that, he probably could still get done what needed to be done, and still be home for dinner. DH thinks I'm crazy, but I've seen it firsthand. His boss will call him from halfway across the country at 6:00, to BS (I don't think talking about his golf game really helps any work issues) and DH wil talk to him for over a half hour, because "it's his boss," and he feels like if he just does those little things, it will make a difference when review/promotion time comes around.

I'm sure his boss knows that he's human, and has a family, and if he wants to BS, fine. But don't engage in a conversation at 6pm to do it, and take time away from the family. DH could easily say "call me on my cell, so I can get in the car and work my way home while we talk." I don't think his boss would fire him over that.

I honestly feel bad for DH....sometimes. I feel like he misses out on a lot, and it bothers him, but he doesn't know how to fix it. That's why I think he gets so upset when I bring it up to him. But at the same time, he's done it to himself. Today was another example. DD had her yearly pediatrician exam and it didn't go so well. We decided to go to lunch with daddy after it was over. We picked him up to make it easier for him. Keep in mind he agreed to go to lunch, and I even suggested something quick, not even a sit down lunch. Do you know what he did? Checked his Blackberry the entire lunch for emails, and barely said 2 words to his DD about her appt!!! When I finally asked if he did the same thing during client lunches, he said no. I said, good, because if I were a client, there is no way I would do business with someone who doesn't value my time. I think he got the hint. I told him: treat us like a client. We are here for lunch. Our time is just as important as yours. If you can't lunch, say no, but if you say yes, don't do it half-a*ssed. That's what makes it look like we are low on the priority list.

Again, it's just the little things. Don't stay for the "extra drink" after the business dinner. Try to take the earlier flight home if you are done with your meetings early. And for gosh sakes, take a day off....you are still getting paid for it, and that's what they are there for!!!!

Thank you. Eloquent isn't my strong suit, but I'm glad you took the time and effort to actually read and understand my point. In no way did I intend to insult anyone in particular.

 

[olbear]

This is what I posted on the first page. I just wanted to repost it to encourage those who have been stressed out by this thread. Life is hard. Marriage now-a-days can be harder than ever. But a good healthy relationship/marriage is attainable as long as both have the strength and desire to go the distance in love. Grab those hugs and kisses when you can.

Blessings to all,
Winnie


Hi Girls,
Yup, mine is a wrok-a-holic as well. And he is a truck driver no less! He was also military for 21 and a half years (reserves). SO between his trucking and reserve weekends there was not a whole lot of time for "US".

When he retired from military it helped a bit. But now he does 3 over-night runs a week, mon/tues, weds/thurs, fri/sat. So I see him early afternoon on tues, thurs and saturday, and most of the day on sunday, till he goes to bed at about 6PM to be up and on the road at mid-night.

Here's how I live with it... #1 I love him with all my heart & soul, married almost 22 years. #2 I admire him for his strong work ethic. Cause face it ladies, there are way too many women out there who just about have to kick their huubies in the rear to go to work, or just get a job altogether. So we are luckier and more blessed then most!!

My hubby and I agree strongly that although we hate it when we're apart, we make the most of it when we're together and do our best to make sweet memories to share and remember when we are old and bored and can't go anymore.

Hope this has encouraged some of you!
God bless,
Winnie

 

[T. Lynn]

DH called to tell me he was heading down to the garage...Big shocker on that one (yeah right).

I asked him if I was going to be a single mom again. He said no and started laughing. Guess he realized what I meant. I told him it was a good thing or he was going to have to fork up some child support.

Love joking around with him. Better to laugh than cry. We don't do much through the week anyway. Let him go play with his cars.


PS - You should have seen DH on our last trip to disney. It was his first time there and he actually had to relax for 2 weeks. Can you imagine that?

 

[mookie]

Well, Dh just left for Colorado until Sat morning. Last night when we were talking on the phone and he was still at work, I asked him when he was going to be home for the evening. I figured since he wasn't going to be here for a few days, I'd plan a nice dinner. Then he tells me..."I'm trying hard to get out of here by 6 or 6:30." Well, with almost and hour commute, that's not really what I had in mind!!!

So, when he gets home, I casually mention that since he was going to be gone, it would have been nice for him to come home even just a little early. But his thinking instead is "Since I'm going to be gone away from the office, I have to work LONGER to make sure I keep up with things." Keep in mind - he's traveling to Colorado to be at their Headquarters...he has an office there too!!!!

Then, we were talking about helping his sister move. The only problem is that the day she needs help is the day we have sibling preperation clas for our dd for the new baby, and it's the only date they have scheduled before our due date. I thought it would be a nice thing to do as a family before the baby comes, and it's been planned for almost 2 months. DH says to me, "Well, I could go help them, and you could just take her...I really don't need to be there, right?" I think I could have burned him with my retinas I was glaring at him so hard. He got the hint, but still had to throw in "Well, they have helped us move twice, I just feel bad that we have something going on." Well, too bad...you have a family, and you work long hours already...so your family comes first, she doesn't!!!!

Winnie, thanks again for the repost. You are definitely right in your thinking, and it does help. It's nice to be able to come and post here, do some venting, and be over it. Thanks again!!!

 

[agnes!]

As the person who originally posted this thread, I just had to point this out. WIcruizer does have a bit of a point, even though it wasn't so eloquently put.

...(edited for length)...

I honestly feel bad for DH....sometimes. I feel like he misses out on a lot, and it bothers him, but he doesn't know how to fix it. That's why I think he gets so upset when I bring it up to him. But at the same time, he's done it to himself. Today was another example. DD had her yearly pediatrician exam and it didn't go so well. We decided to go to lunch with daddy after it was over. We picked him up to make it easier for him. Keep in mind he agreed to go to lunch, and I even suggested something quick, not even a sit down lunch. Do you know what he did? Checked his Blackberry the entire lunch for emails, and barely said 2 words to his DD about her appt!!! When I finally asked if he did the same thing during client lunches, he said no. I said, good, because if I were a client, there is no way I would do business with someone who doesn't value my time. I think he got the hint. I told him: treat us like a client. We are here for lunch. Our time is just as important as yours. If you can't lunch, say no, but if you say yes, don't do it half-a*ssed. That's what makes it look like we are low on the priority list.

Again, it's just the little things. Don't stay for the "extra drink" after the business dinner. Try to take the earlier flight home if you are done with your meetings early. And for gosh sakes, take a day off....you are still getting paid for it, and that's what they are there for!!!!

I LOVE your comment about treating family as nicely as one would a client.

agnes!

 

[tandrjohn]

Been there, done that. I switched jobs 6 years ago to spend more time with my family and DW left the corporate world 2 years ago, taking a huge salary cut, to work in a local school district for the same reasons. Workaholics, especially with children should take heed:
"A hundred years from now
It will not matter
What my bank account was,
The sort of house I lived in
Or the kind of car I drove

But the world may be different
Because I was important
In the life of a child"

 

[Simba's Mom]

Arrgh! I'm just venting right now. I do love my DH, he is awesome. But I swear, his job is starting to drive me nuts! He is the type of guy that can never say no, and he's always feeling like he must impress someone "higher Up." DH is always looking to get ahead, as he wants to provide the best for our family. I truly love him for that, but in my opinion, I would rather have him HOME, than working 12 hours a day!!! He leaves the house at 7:30 in the morning and sometimes isnt home until 7 or 8 at night. THEN, he travels 2-3 times a month where he is gone 2-3 nights at a time. He was out of town last week Wed. through Friday night, and now this week, he'll be gone again Wed. night until Sat. morning. So, I thought he'd at least try to be home at a decent hour before his dd goes to bed on the 2 nights that he is in town...but he's still at work, and will probably only see her for an hour at most before she is in bed. I don't want to be the nagging wife, but I just wish sometimes that he'd not be so "driven." Does that sound wierd? I guess I'd just rather have him home at a decent hour than having the extra money in the paycheck just so we can buy something else we don't need. It's not like we are truly struggling for money, so for me, time is more important.

Just wanted to vent...am I the only wierd wife out there?

Thank you! I'm not alone. DH is a big time workaholic. He leaves the house at 6 am and I'm lucky if he's home by 6:30 pm. He's always got reasons (or is it excuses?) why he has to postpone/not take vacation. The joke in our house at the end of the year is "So how many days of vacation did you not use this year?" since he can't carry days over. He travels too-only once every month or two, but he's gone for at least a week at a time-China, Australia, France, places where the time is so different, I rarely hear from him. If you started a support group, I'd be right there!
And I noticed you're from the Chicago suburbs? That's where he's originally from too.

 

[ReggieB]

Another poster mentioned the beloved Blackberry....4am it went off this morning. London, England calling, somethings not working. DH didn't come back to bed. He will check email's in the middle of me talking to him, so I end up having to repeat what I have just said... The worse time was when we were getting..erm romantic, and it rings, so naturally he answers it. What it couldn't wait for a couple of minutes???!!!

DH is on call 24 hours a day (if you think they can't reach you on Disney Cruise Line, think again) He's had a conference call in the queue of Splash Mountain, he continued after we rode, so at least he stopped for the ride. He's spent the day in the lobby of the Contemporary (our room wasn't ready) using their wi-fi. This was the day after we had been tracked down on the Disney Wonder. Of course there are plenty of other non-Disney stories, but you would think they could at least allow him to have a vacation. He was there in body, if not in spirit, poor thing.