Anyone else feel this way regarding your kids and Disney?

[SL6827]

oh this is funny, you put your personal business on an internet message board and then get mad when people make assumptions. You asked and I gave my opinion based on the limited information you gave. It wasnt meant to be confrontational but hey ho, thats the way you took it, Im out. Im off to plan my June 2019 solo trip to Disneyland California!

Solo. Well I admit, I wouldn't want to go with you either!

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

Its funny how you started this thread by throwing your kids under the bus but take no responsibility in how they are acting and doesn't seem like you really care to fix the child you say is spoiled which could be done by changing your own actions.
Children learn by example.

 

[SL6827]

Its funny how you started this thread by throwing your kids under the bus but take no responsibility in how they are acting and doesn't seem like you really care to fix the child you say is spoiled which could be done by changing your own actions.
Children learn by example.

I guess maybe I just need to quit taking her. Maybe so. Maybe me and my husband do need a trip alone, because the only thing I have done is to take her. But I will give that some thought.

 

[wendlle]

My Kids are only 3 and 2 months old, my 3 yo has been on 3 overseas trips and numerous domestic ones (we're from Australia), most involve theme parks.
I NEVER went on a single vacation as a child. My first real vacation was when I was 20 and I went on a solo trip to London, the year after I visited Disneyland (2003) and have been back to either WDW or DL every year or two since.

I love that I can involve my kids, I have had people say to me and my Daughter that she is "spoiled" and "very lucky" to be going on so many elaborate vacations (WDW is over 20 hours away) but the way we see it is that we work very hard and WE enjoy our vacations - the kids are just along because WE enjoy it.
We already make sure we tell her that not everyone gets to go on Vacation, but we save hard and don't do things on weekends etc like other families do so we can have these wonderful experiences once a year as a family.

I think your child will be fine. And TBH I don't find a value that much different from a Moderate or Deluxe in terms of service, they all have such fantastic CM's in fact, sometimes I think the values have BETTER CM's than the deluxe resorts do. Yes there are more amenities but I don't think she will feel "less entitled" by staying at a value than a deluxe - it's still WDW after all.

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

I guess maybe I just need to quit taking her. Maybe so. Maybe me and my husband do need a trip alone, because the only thing I have done is to take her. But I will give that some thought.

I think taking some time off yourself would be the better solution to show her that its a privilege not a right if that's how you feel she is acting.

 

[SL6827]

I think taking some time off yourself would be the better solution to show her that its a privilege not a right if that's how you feel she is acting.

Why? I am not the one acting like it.

 

[grossmansr]

14 year olds tend to act entitled to whatever lifestyle they've become accustomed to. And I don't mean this for just you. We have a 14, almost 15 year old, and I teach 8th grade so I'm around this age group a lot. They are a self-centered bunch. They can't really help it and certainly don't mean to be so.... arrogant. It's just that they don't have much life experience yet.

For example, our kids don't remember a time without wifi. They take it for granted. When the wifi goes down, suddenly they appreciate it so much more. Same with food. We go out to eat a lot, and typically stock the house with a wide variety of snacks and drinks. Sometimes, if we're running low on groceries or if we don't agree to go out for dinner, they get all cranky because they have to eat something plain or whatever.

We've been lucky enough to be able to raise our kids without hardship and they've been fortunate to have a privileged upbringing. But they are unable to "see" their privilege because it's all they've known. So we really can't be mad that they take some things for granted. That said, we do try not to spoil them too much. Like, even if we "can" order the most expensive things on the menu, we don't have to. We can point out that we don't actually need to order drinks or dessert and try not to waste food by bringing home leftovers and whatnot. So you could choose to "teach your daughter a lesson" by staying at a value resort, or even taking a trip without her if you want. But I would be careful about how you go about this. I wouldn't do it in a mean-spirited, "I'm gonna teach you a lesson" type of way. Rather, try explaining some of your reasoning and be kind about it. She's just being a normal teenager.

 

[SL6827]

My Kids are only 3 and 2 months old, my 3 yo has been on 3 overseas trips and numerous domestic ones (we're from Australia), most involve theme parks.
I NEVER went on a single vacation as a child. My first real vacation was when I was 20 and I went on a solo trip to London, the year after I visited Disneyland (2003) and have been back to either WDW or DL every year or two since.

I love that I can involve my kids, I have had people say to me and my Daughter that she is "spoiled" and "very lucky" to be going on so many elaborate vacations (WDW is over 20 hours away) but the way we see it is that we work very hard and WE enjoy our vacations - the kids are just along because WE enjoy it.
We already make sure we tell her that not everyone gets to go on Vacation, but we save hard and don't do things on weekends etc like other families do so we can have these wonderful experiences once a year as a family.

I think your child will be fine. And TBH I don't find a value that much different from a Moderate or Deluxe in terms of service, they all have such fantastic CM's in fact, sometimes I think the values have BETTER CM's than the deluxe resorts do. Yes there are more amenities but I don't think she will feel "less entitled" by staying at a value than a deluxe - it's still WDW after all.

I agree. She doesn't get the latest and greatest Iphones like some kids in her class do, and she does have to earn her money to go skating on the weekends when she wants. I guess I am going to try to remind her more that every trip she goes on that she is lucky to get to go.

 

[SL6827]

14 year olds tend to act entitled to whatever lifestyle they've become accustomed to. And I don't mean this for just you. We have a 14, almost 15 year old, and I teach 8th grade so I'm around this age group a lot. They are a self-centered bunch. They can't really help it and certainly don't mean to be so.... arrogant. It's just that they don't have much life experience yet.

For example, our kids don't remember a time without wifi. They take it for granted. When the wifi goes down, suddenly they appreciate it so much more. Same with food. We go out to eat a lot, and typically stock the house with a wide variety of snacks and drinks. Sometimes, if we're running low on groceries or if we don't agree to go out for dinner, they get all cranky because they have to eat something plain or whatever.

We've been lucky enough to be able to raise our kids without hardship and they've been fortunate to have a privileged upbringing. But they are unable to "see" their privilege because it's all they've known. So we really can't be mad that they take some things for granted. That said, we do try not to spoil them too much. Like, even if we "can" order the most expensive things on the menu, we don't have to. We can point out that we don't actually need to order drinks or dessert and try not to waste food by bringing home leftovers and whatnot. So you could choose to "teach your daughter a lesson" by staying at a value resort, or even taking a trip without her if you want. But I would be careful about how you go about this. I wouldn't do it in a mean-spirited, "I'm gonna teach you a lesson" type of way. Rather, try explaining some of your reasoning and be kind about it. She's just being a normal teenager.

I think you may have the answer down pat here.

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

Why? I am not the one acting like it.

LOL but you're not entitled?

I suggested it because it would show her that none of you NEED to go and instead with that time maybe you could show her that there are others that aren't as privileged and her and she would better appreciate what she has and what she gets to do.

By leaving her home yet you still going that shows her that YOU still NEED to go.

But hey its your life and your kids. I only had an opinion because you asked the internet for opinions.
You certainly don't have to follow anything anyone says on here.

 

[tjmw2727]

my post has been ignored in favor of arguments.... so be it so - I

edited my entire post even though I thought about it for a day or so and have grown kids who have been going to Disney for their entire lives and are not entitled.

 

[SL6827]

LOL but you're not entitled?

I suggested it because it would show her that none of you NEED to go and instead with that time maybe you could show her that there are others that aren't as privileged and her and she would better appreciate what she has and what she gets to do.

By leaving her home yet you still going that shows her that YOU still NEED to go.

But hey its your life and your kids. I only had an opinion because you asked the internet for opinions.
You certainly don't have to follow anything anyone says on here.

I am the one working to help pay for it. She is not.

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

I am the one working to help pay for it. She is not.

Hmm then set an example and require her to earn some money if that is what you deem the problem is.

 

[SL6827]

Hmm then set an example and require her to earn some money if that is what you deem the problem is.

We already do that, and believe me, at age 16 she will be getting a job. If nothing but on the weekends.

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

We already do that, and believe me, at age 16 she will be getting a job. If nothing but on the weekends.

Ok then I guess that is not the problem although that's how you make it sound in the PP saying that you pay for it not her lol.

 

[grossmansr]

I think you may have the answer down pat here.

I can just feel your frustration. Hang in there. 14 is a tough age.

 

[SL6827]

Ok then I guess that is not the problem although that's how you make it sound in the PP saying that you pay for it not her lol.

Good Lord. She does not pay for anything with Disney. What is your next answer going to be? What can you think up next?

 

[SL6827]

I can just feel your frustration. Hang in there. 14 is a tough age.

Thank you.

 

[amiskell28]

 

[SL6827]

I know, right!