Anyone else feel this way regarding your kids and Disney?

[SL6827]

Me and my husband have two girls, one that is not real thrilled to go to Disney anymore WITH US, and the other who I will probably never get to go on a Disney trip without her, but if I did I might feel real guilty the whole time.

But the other one, the youngest, I feel like she really doesn't understand the value of getting to go because since she was born, it has been an on-going trip. Every year or every other year. And now twice to the Grand Caymans in one year (but that was a different story there). But I feel like she really doesn't appreciate it because of my love of going and going so much. I think she may feel entitled, like is just no big deal, I am just not sure.

I don't think she, well I know she can't ever remember us staying in the Value hotels because she was just a baby then. I ought to switch out our one night stay at Port Orleans back to Pop Century just to see how she would react to not staying in a Deluxe or Moderate resort. I wish I would have though of that earlier now. When I was growing up, we never took not one vacation. Not one.

 

[SL6827]

I am going to talk to my husband about it and possibly change back to Pop for that one night to see her reaction. She might just love it and then she might just be what I am afraid of, spoiled.

 

[SirDuff]

She could also just be bored of going to WDW so often. Despite what many on here believe, not everyone is thrilled about going every year/every other year. Not sure why that makes her entitled - you speak of your love for it, not hers.

 

[SL6827]

She could also just be bored of going to WDW so often. Despite what many on here believe, not everyone is thrilled about going every year/every other year. Not sure why that makes her entitled - you speak of your love for it, not hers.

No, believe me, she loves it. The oldest one, yes, she is bored of it. Or at least of going with US. But the youngest one, she loves it. She is a mini me.

 

[a1tinkfans]

I’d not ruin my vacation ( sorry that’s how I feel about values) to try n make a maybe pointless point for my ...child, lol.
She just may love that chaos and then what... will u change ur mind and start doing values? That’d scare me more lol

Seriously though... you daughter may not realize how lucky/privileged she’s been to get all those fabulous vacations.
Perhaps a quiet sit down at some point when you know she’ll be receptive and talk about lifestyles and how Blessed you all truly are? I don’t agree she’s spoiled, perhaps just unknowing and you can Enlighten her!
Whatever u decide about the room... enjoy ur visit.
I grew up on yearly vacations to disney, then we got a Florida vacation home. I don’t think I understood then how Blessed we were to get our large family on those amazing vacation experiences ... till I was older.
My own thinks Disney is a second home (yearly and sometimes several visits) and has grown up the same way. Thankfully realizes how Blessed we truly are.
We re now Living the Dream.. in SW Florida
, but I digress..
Enjoy!!!!

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

Whoa its kinda like where is this coming from?
Is she suddenly acting entitled?

I don't have kids of my own but I can tell you from my own childhood we went every year we never felt entitled.
We also never stayed onsite until I was an adult paying for myself and most o those onsite stays have been a in a value. Only twice has been at a mod and I'm staying deluxe for the first time my next trip but can easily see myself staying value again.
I also don't think it ever became "no big deal".
I think other kids in school seemed much more entitled with their brand name clothes and the latest electronics.

I guess you have to do what you feel is right for your family.
Maybe that means skiipping a trip entirely or dropping to a lower tier resort to "teach her a lesson"?

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

No, believe me, she loves it. The oldest one, yes, she is bored of it. Or at least of going with US. But the youngest one, she loves it. She is a mini me.

So if she is a "mini me" then I guess you have to think about how you're acting.
Do you act entitled without realizing it?
Do you not appreciate each trip as much as you should?
Are you maybe becoming a mod/deluxe "snob"?
Just food for thought.

 

[SL6827]

So if she is a "mini me" then I guess you have to think about how you're acting.
Do you act entitled without realizing it?
Do you not appreciate each trip as much as you should?
Are you maybe becoming a mod/deluxe "snob"?
Just food for thought.

No I don't act entitled at all. Like I said, when we grew up, we never went on one vacation, so I do appreciate that we can do this now, because there might come a time when we may not. Well the deluxe snob thing, maybe, but I did buy into DVC so that is where most of our trips will be now.

 

[BadPinkTink]

just a thought, but when you are in the parks, and when you are planning the trips are you the main planner? Do your kids have any input into rides, things to do, what time to go to the park, what time to leave the park? You havent said how old the children are, but Im just thinking maybe the older child has had enough of the one for all all for one type of touring. Maybe the older child would like to do the parks HER way instead of the family way. Im saying this as my first Disney parks visit was with my family, a group of 7 people when I was 16. I fell in love with Disney Parks the moment I saw The Castle BUT I hated being in the parks with my family. I really wanted to explore on my own, do rides multiple times, stay longer etc etc, but being with a group I couldnt. I now go solo and have been to Disneyland California 9 times and Disneyland Paris 3 times.

 

[SL6827]

I am the planner of it all! Ya, the oldest "kid" is a grown adult, 22, the other 14. Ya, we had them a ways apart.

 

[LongLiveRafiki]

If you think she's taking the trips for granted and not appreciating how lucky she is to be able to go, have a chat with her about it. Involve her in more of the planning to she sees how much work it is, and have her earn her own spending money doing chores. Discuss with her how most kids never get to go even once, talk to her about your childhood, etc.

 

[LongLiveRafiki]

At 14, the youngest can sdinitely get more involved with earning her souvenir money and planning. With the oldest at 22, if she isn't enjoying the trips, why continue taking her? She's an adult. Her work or college obligations may be having an impact on why she isn't as thrilled to go, or maybe she just wants to be an adult and not go on vacation with her parents anymore.

 

[BadPinkTink]

I am the planner of it all! Ya, the oldest "kid" is a grown adult, 22, the other 14. Ya, we had them a ways apart.

well theres your problem

To me its a combination of the kids getting older and wanting to be more independant and you just dictating we do this we do , we go here, we go there.

The 22 year most defiantly should not be forced to go and if she does, treat her like the adult she is. She shouldnt have to get up when you get up and follow YOUR plan for the day. Let her do her own thing, let her sleep in if she wants, let her go to the parks on her own, heaven forbid let her have a drink in a bar if she wants.

The 14 year old the same. Let her be more involved with the planning, let her have her own free time in the parks, let her be involved with the planning.

It sounds like this is YOUR holiday so everyone does what you want, when you want. Im not surprised the kids are not wanting to go to Disney with you.

 

[LSUmiss]

Me and my husband have two girls, one that is not real thrilled to go to Disney anymore WITH US, and the other who I will probably never get to go on a Disney trip without her, but if I did I might feel real guilty the whole time.

But the other one, the youngest, I feel like she really doesn't understand the value of getting to go because since she was born, it has been an on-going trip. Every year or every other year. And now twice to the Grand Caymans in one year (but that was a different story there). But I feel like she really doesn't appreciate it because of my love of going and going so much. I think she may feel entitled, like is just no big deal, I am just not sure.

I don't think she, well I know she can't ever remember us staying in the Value hotels because she was just a baby then. I ought to switch out our one night stay at Port Orleans back to Pop Century just to see how she would react to not staying in a Deluxe or Moderate resort. I wish I would have though of that earlier now. When I was growing up, we never took not one vacation. Not one.

I would assume she also has many other privileges that many others don’t have. I worry about this too with DS b/c he has already been & he’s only 8 mos & we will go again next yr. But, I’ve decided that he will likely (unless something drastic happens) be afforded many privileges many others don’t have including what DH & I had growing up. So, I’ll have to find a way to ground him & make him appreciate his advantages with many things not just WDW.

 

[SL6827]

well theres your problem

To me its a combination of the kids getting older and wanting to be more independant and you just dictating we do this we do , we go here, we go there.

The 22 year most defiantly should not be forced to go and if she does, treat her like the adult she is. She shouldnt have to get up when you get up and follow YOUR plan for the day. Let her do her own thing, let her sleep in if she wants, let her go to the parks on her own, heaven forbid let her have a drink in a bar if she wants.

The 14 year old the same. Let her be more involved with the planning, let her have her own free time in the parks, let her be involved with the planning.

It sounds like this is YOUR holiday so everyone does what you want, when you want. Im not surprised the kids are not wanting to go to Disney with you.

Really? Boy you really have this all wrong. Just assuming things that you have no clue about. The 22-year-old I understand, she doesn't go with us much anymore, what the problem is the 14-year-old is the one that I believe is just spoiled to the trip

 

[SL6827]

heaven forbid let her have a drink in a bar if she wants.

This? Really? Pathetic. We make our own wine at home, she can drink it at home if she wants.

 

[SL6827]

At 14, the youngest can sdinitely get more involved with earning her souvenir money and planning. With the oldest at 22, if she isn't enjoying the trips, why continue taking her? She's an adult. Her work or college obligations may be having an impact on why she isn't as thrilled to go, or maybe she just wants to be an adult and not go on vacation with her parents anymore.

She very rarely goes. Ya, she does have a lot on her plate too. All of the above, plus health issues.

 

[Monorail_Man_NJ]

My son is 10 and I try to stay at a different resort everytime (Havent done values) Mods and Deluxes.

Usually the last resort he was at becomes his new favorite. Dont think the kiddo will mind at all.

 

[SL6827]

My son is 10 and I try to stay at a different resort everytime (Havent done values) Mods and Deluxes.

Usually the last resort he was at becomes his new favorite. Dont think the kiddo will mind at all.

Ya, I like to do different resorts. But I do have my favorites. POR is one of my husband's favorites.

 

[BadPinkTink]

oh this is funny, you put your personal business on an internet message board and then get mad when people make assumptions. You asked and I gave my opinion based on the limited information you gave. It wasnt meant to be confrontational but hey ho, thats the way you took it, Im out. Im off to plan my June 2019 solo trip to Disneyland California!