For us it's the opposite. I will say I've worked in finance for years. I've used a budget since I was a teen. I use a spreadsheet and keep a 5 year budget at minimum. It changes but being able to see the entire year on 1 page allows me to see what I can change it something happens. I always up my costs years at least 3%, more like 8% for yearly taxes, insurance, car tags and stuff I only pay once a year. When my DH was laid off during the pandemic I was able to moved and adjust so although it wasn't easy we made it through without our savings being depleted, we only had to use a little. I think a budget is great but must be realistic. Mine has not only bills but vacation, haircuts, holiday spending, house spending, grocery costs, date nights, etc. It's a complete accurate look at our financial picture. Growing up watching my parents struggle due to not properly planning really impacted me. At this point it's comforting to me to know I can adjust, tweek, add, subtract what I need to. I will also say that a a lower middle income family we live much larger than most folks in our income bracket and our retirement savings are great. I have a DD who is a planner like me and a DS who isn't. I think it's the way we were born. My DD says she is going to put my favorite saying on my tombstone, "people don't plan to fail, they fail to plan". It's all about doing what works for you.