Anybody heard of 'slap a ginger day'

[Gaynor]

My daughter 12 has just walked in from school in tears. Apparently it's 'slap a ginger day' and she's been hit across the head so many times she's got a headache just because she's got ginger hair.
I am fuming and really want to ring school but she tells me it's being sorted, she went to see her head of year and had to identify the pupils from photos they will be given detention.
My daughter with beautiful ginger hair now wants to dye it.... should I let her?

 

[natalielongstaff]

That is disgusting !!!

I would be tempted to let her dye her hair, i had laser eye surgery purely because i hated my glasses

 

[Bolanette87]

For what its worth, you can show this to your DD....

I love ginger hair. My own hair colour is blonde, but I was desperate for red/ginger hair all my life.... It's such a beautiful colour. I have always been jealous of it. I have dyed my hair that colour many many times.... Its gorgeous! I love it!

And for the record, the people that have been picking on her for something like her hair colour aren't worth anything- It's just wrong to pick on people for something like this!

I would maybe consider contacting the school if nothing is actually done, but if punishments are being given, I doubt the school will do much more at the moment. Your DD has done the right thing reporting them though!

I've dyed my hair from being 12, just for the record, but tell her not to do it unless its something she wants. Not because she thinks she should.

Bob xoxoxoxox

 

[irisheyes123]

Thats shocking hopefully she is ok I love ginger hair too I think its beautiful...

 

[mandymouse]

Oh your poor daughter, that's terrible. I hope the school get it sorted

My DD hates her brown boring hair and dye's it a rather bright red, and she loves it -

 

[jjk]

thats terrible, hope she is ok x

 

[PoppyAnna]

If it were me, I'd still be getting in touch with the school to find out what is being done about what has happened to your DD. I'd hate to see my little girl in tears after such an incident.
My DD is three and a half and already we get lots of comments about the colour of her hair, most are very postive, but not all. I've already mentioned to DH that she will probably want to dye or highlight her hair when she gets to senior school.
I think fine blonde highlights can look really lovely in ginger/red hair. Why not try something like that first. My friend has long dead straight ginger hair down to her bottom, it's beautiful.
Is there an older member of your family with red hair that she can talk to about it? I wonder if it might help if she knows somebody else has been through it too.

This is my "baby-G" - as I call her!

 

[wils]

Quite awful.

As a fellow 'ginger' I can sympathise with all the attention. I often talked about dying my hair when I was at school (not that my mother would have let me (even now she wouldn't be at all happy!)) When I looked into it I found that I'd probably have to bleach it before dying it as black dye would turn it prurple etc. Its darkened over the years.

I hope that you get a result from the school. I'm so sorry she's had to go through such a day but I'm glad she took action. As for dying, only you and your DD know what would be best.

DD has beutiful streaked blonde hair but DS is curly and ginger - cute now so we are enjoying it now before he has an opinion about it lol!

If you/your DD want to PM me please do so

 

[wilma-bride]

I think it's terrible the way she's been treated and would definitely speak to the school, even if she has said they are sorting it.

I have never heard anything so stupid as 'slap a ginger day' and I think these children should be severley punished.

I would beg of you not to let your DD dye her hair at such an early age, though. Dye can cause such damage and she is only young. If she continued to dye it throughout her childhood and into adulthood, it could really cause some damage.

Personally, I think ginger hair can look absolutely beautiful and am always envious of anyone with hair any different colour to mine i.e. boring brown. Please show your DD this thread and make her realise that there is nothing wrong with her hair colour

 

[PoppyAnna]

.....this is playing on my mind a bit now, I guess it's made realise what my DD is likely to go through

It's brought back a memory of a comment we had once whilst out shopping. I remember a little old lady screwing up her face and saying to DH and I what "strange" colour hair my DD had - oh, this old lady - she had a blue rinse like she could talk!

 

[wilma-bride]

If it were me, I'd still be getting in touch with the school to find out what is being done about what has happened to your DD. I'd hate to see my little girl in tears after such an incident.
My DD is three and a half and already we get lots of comments about the colour of her hair, most are very postive, but not all. I've already mentioned to DH that she will probably want to dye or highlight her hair when she gets to senior school.
I think fine blonde highlights can look really lovely in ginger/red hair. Why not try something like that first. My friend has long dead straight ginger hair down to her bottom, it's beautiful.
Is there an older member of your family with red hair that she can talk to about it? I wonder if it might help if she knows somebody else has been through it too.

This is my "baby-G" - as I call her!

Her hair colour is absolutely beautiful - I don't know how anyone can think that's a horrible or strange colour.

 

[mandymouse]

Please show your DD this thread and make her realise that there is nothing wrong with her hair colour

 

[Snowy-girls]

That is terrible.As mum to Emily with ginger/strawberry hair-that has really upset me. Especially that this is still going on.I have'nt heard of any picking on/bullying if you have ginger hair for a while now.
As Joanne said i would still phone the school+mention to them that she now wants to dye her beautiful hair because of this.
Thankfully i/we have'nt come across any nasty/hurtful comments about Dd4 hair.So many people comment on how beautiful it is+what a lovely unusual colour it is.
As for letting her dye her hair-i would'nt if it was my child,but you know best.My reason for saying no-i really can't explain myself clearly enough,i have just tried for about 10mins+deleted everything i have said.There are so many things i would have changed about myself,but i did'nt-as this is me,how i was created-don't change what is'nt broke(i really hope that makes sense).x.

 

[disneyhockeymad]

I'm another fellow ginger and I can definately sympathise with your DD about all the comments she gets about it. When I was in primary school I was called all sorts of names and it really upset me.

I dyed my hair a funny dark purple-ish colour and then went brown for a bit when I was 12/13 and I can honestly say I absolutely hated it. I got more comments about being ashamed about my hair colour and dying it than I ever did about it being ginger in the first place.

Although it's not a nice thing to go through and this 'slap a ginger' day is awful it won't last, I found people grew up alot more once they hit being a teenager. I'm only 18 and I still get comments now but most of them are in jest and definately not meant to offend me and I've learnt to take them on the chin and laugh about them.

So many people I know are jealous of my hair colour now and it's great sometimes to have something naturally that other people have to dye their hair to get!

I'm sending you and your DD lots of hugs because I know how difficult it is!

 

[Trilli-magic]

Thats awful!!
My auntie has red hair ahd she got bullied at school for it!! that was 30 odd years ago though!!
My best friend also has red hair and she never got bullied, people would make fun but of the light hearted kind that she would laugh at too.
I'm sorry your poor DD had to go through that! people can be so mean and just plain stupid sometimes!
I love red hair I always wished mine were ginger!!

 

[natalielongstaff]

Please show your DD this thread and make her realise that there is nothing wrong with her hair colour

As an adult that is so easy to say....as a child i was desperate to fit in and would have done ANYTHING to do so ! (tbh im the same now) peer pressure is cruel and nasty but it takes a different kind of person to say accept me as i am and it isn't me. Thats why i would let my dd change her appearence if she wanted to

 

[PoppyAnna]

As an adult that is so easy to say....as a child i was desperate to fit in and would have done ANYTHING to do so ! (tbh im the same now) peer pressure is cruel and nasty but it takes a different kind of person to say accept me as i am and it isn't me. Thats why i would let my dd change her appearence if she wanted to

I totally agree with you, but I'm torn and agree with some of what Joh says too, in a perfect world the young girl should have the confidence to rise above the nasty comments.
What the OP's DD has gone through is bullying plain and simple and most parents would do anything to stop their child being a victim of bullying, as most of us know bullying can quickly get out of control and escalate to something worse.
If it was just peer pressure I'd agree with Joh.

 

[silver apple]

Your poor dd, but what a mature young lady to rise above this bullying and report it!

I don't have red hair, but i would give my eye teeth to have hair like Bree Van de Camp's

 

[wilma-bride]

As an adult that is so easy to say....as a child i was desperate to fit in and would have done ANYTHING to do so ! (tbh im the same now) peer pressure is cruel and nasty but it takes a different kind of person to say accept me as i am and it isn't me. Thats why i would let my dd change her appearence if she wanted to

I do know what you mean and, yes, it is easy to say that as an adult. However, I think in all of us (unless suprememly confident) there is a need/want to fit in and be like others - otherwise I wouldn't be on a constant diet and dye my own hair to cover the grey

I suppose what I'm trying to say is that, looking ahead to the future, it may be that Gaynor's DD would like and even relish having red hair and it would be a shame to have dyed it to the point where it won't go back to the original shade.

Far better to sort out the evil little witches that have started the problem in the first place

 

[Pinky166]

How awful for your DD. Lots of hugs to you both.