Any Single Disney Men Out There?

[djblu883]

Well I'm sure there are some nice Dsiney men out there...but there are so many more ladies out there that there just aren't enough of the guys to go around! Good luck to each and every one of you searching for mr/ms right!

 

[Disneyfan63]

Hi,

CinRell and mdhkitten, I'm sorry to hear about your breakups. I agree with DisneydaveCT. There are lots of Disney guys out there looking for a Disney girl.

I'm one of those looking for a nice Disney woman; but like Tink's Tormenter, I haven't had much luck. Though I've had three dates this year with Disney-loving women--counting #1DizGal on May 12 at Animal Kingdom; prairiegekko on May 11 at LeCellier; and Sharon (from BigChurch) on July 1, with whom I haven't spoken in almost three weeks--in my whole life I've demonstrated an uncanny ability to be "Mister Left" instead of someone's "Mr. Right".

The three dates in one calendar year tied a personal record I set in 1990, which is probably a bad sign; I went completely dateless from August 4, 1990 to October 24, 1999. I've reached a point now in which I believe that I like women more than they like me; that I should concentrate on friendships instead of on finding "the one"; and that if I can't choose wisely, perhaps I should not choose at all.

Have a Disneytastic day!

Jim

 

[DisneydaveCT]

Think so?

I think so, don't you?

 

[DisneydaveCT]

Hey DisneydaveCT! We are gonna be at WDW at Thanksgiving too. I love, love, love the holiday decorations. "See" ya there!

Wherever are you staying over Thanksgiving weekend?

 

[sandy5764]

I think so, don't you?

I guess maybe we'll be finding that one out????

 

[Johnfish]

I should concentrate on friendships instead of on finding "the one"

Hi Jim,

I think you need to concentrate on this line in your post. The key is being friends and then working on the serious relationship down the road. I used to go on every first date thinking this is the "ONE". That was just a set up for disappointment. I remember an episode of Fraisier where Fraisier was to the point of desperation about finding his true love. One of the other characters said being desperate was bad. That the women could "smell' it. Although that sounds a little crude maybe its correct. Just go out there thinking Im going to get to know the other person and if something developes then great. If not then you have made a new friend. Hang in there just when things seem hopeless God will through you a curve ball and the next thing you know things are going better!

I wish you the best of luck and keep your chin up. Just remember what Winston Churchill said... If your going through hell.... Keep on going!

John

 

[rer1972]

Hey Jim,
This might be kind of long, but I had to it put out here.
I gotta agree with John. I'm in the same boat. I was married to "the one", but apparently she didn't feel the same way. At first I thought I wouldn't find anyone like her, and couldn't stop thinking about going out with women and being with someone again. With the help of some buddies I finally came around. Now, I focus on myself. Not in a selfish way; I workout everyday to stay healthy, I get involved in the community to create new friends or meet new people, and I try to get the most out of everthing I do. So don't get bogged down on "dating". First, try and find situations where you can hang out and talk to women. Some good ideas: fundraisers, the gym, night school, business conferences, etc. These kind of situations are great from the start cause everyone there already has a common bond. It makes it easier to make conversation. Just don't go into it looking for a date; look at it as making friends and contacts (get emails their easier to get than phone numbers, oh and women can smell desperation - I've been told first hand ). Later on you can get in touch for a get together. Oh, well like I said don't give up you will find your "one" when you least expect it .

 

[LindaR]

DisneydaveCT, we are staying at SOG from 18-25 November. We've stayed at POR,POFQ,CBR and AKL but never tried SOG (DD17 wanted to try). Are you staying at OKW this time?

 

[DisneydaveCT]

I will be OKW during my Thankgiving stay. Where are you doing your Thankgiving dinner?

 

[LindaR]

Jeepers.......I let my daughter do all the planning......AND all the notes are at work! I believe we are eating at Crystal Palace. And you?

 

[Tink901]

Very well said John! Friends first is usually the better way and developing a relationship. It's better than having high expectations on a first date and then being disappointed.

 

[tmli]

As a woman I would like to say I agree with the remarks made here by the guys. We HATE desperation....or a guy who comes on too strong on the first date. Taking the advice of those here and going into the entire dating thing as friends first will end the best. AT best you may find that special someone at worst you have made a new friend.

There's another thing women really love....discretion!

 

[nightowlky]

Hi Jim,

I think you need to concentrate on this line in your post. The key is being friends and then working on the serious relationship down the road. I used to go on every first date thinking this is the "ONE". That was just a set up for disappointment. I remember an episode of Fraisier where Fraisier was to the point of desperation about finding his true love. One of the other characters said being desperate was bad. That the women could "smell' it. Although that sounds a little crude maybe its correct. Just go out there thinking Im going to get to know the other person and if something developes then great. If not then you have made a new friend. Hang in there just when things seem hopeless God will through you a curve ball and the next thing you know things are going better!

I wish you the best of luck and keep your chin up. Just remember what Winston Churchill said... If your going through hell.... Keep on going!

John

Oh definitely. And, somehow, they can pick up on confidence, too.

There are days when I'm just feeling at the top of my game (mentally I suppose) and I'll notice looks and smiles as if I'm in an Axe commercial or something.

 

[Teresa Pitman]

I also think that to a certain extent it is a numbers game. By that I mean you have to meet and get to know a certain number of people before you meet the right one - the person you can have a real relationship with. Often when you don't "click" with someone, it isn't for any reason you can control. Maybe she doesn't like redheads. Or you happen to use a phrase that reminds her of her ex - or you somehow remind her of the high school teacher who flunked her in algebra. Often it's unconscious - you don't even know what it is, but the person just doesn't attract you. Or you don't appeal to them.

Sometimes people are lucky and find their "match" quickly. For others of us, we just have to keep meeting people, getting to know them, and believing that one day it will be right for both of us.

Teresa

 

[CoMickey]

Oh definitely. And, somehow, they can pick up on confidence, too.

There are days when I'm just feeling at the top of my game (mentally I suppose) and I'll notice looks and smiles as if I'm in an Axe commercial or something.

If I may chime in here...

Nightowlky is correct...when someone I meet has confidence his attitude draws me toward him. If I meet someone who gives off the persona of Eeyore you know with the 'thanks for noticing me' attitude instead of being interested I feel sorry for them and it is hard to have a good time with them.

I understand too that it is hard to gain self confidence when you've been disappointed but like the an old commercial used to say, 'don't let them see you sweat'. Show that you have confidence and tell yourself that you are...positive thinking holds a lot of power...and if they don't see it then move on and you will find someone who does find you to be someone they want to spend time with and get to know.

When you go out go with the same attitude you would with a good friend and don't have expectations that this is the one because if it is the one you'll both know but in time...not on the first date.

 

[Johnfish]

When you go out go with the same attitude you would with a good friend and don't have expectations that this is the one because if it is the one you'll both know but in time...not on the first date.

Wow CoMickey you hit it right on the Head!!! Just hang in there Jim and take all this advise to heart! It will make a difference in the end!!!

Talking as some one who has been where your are at a change in attitude can make all the difference in the world!



John

 

[tiggergirlinMI]

Wow I just got back from my 11 day 5 state amusement park trip, and was catching up on all the replies to this thread, congrats to WDW and Alacrity, hope all works out for you.
I have to agree with some of you that confidence in a man is great..however don't confuse that with those men who are overconfident and come off as cocky, that's a huge turnoff. But so is the Eeyore "oh no, I lost my tail" type. That can be such a downer to be around.
When I go out anywhere, as a single woman? I do 2 things, and I never used to do them, I make eye contact with everyone I look at and I smile alot more. I don't look for someone to date, I figure, in my every day adventures in work and doing errands, and my traveling? I talk to people and I know my Mr Right will come along probably in the last place I expect.
So chin up, single ladies and gents, keep the faith and believe that everyone has a special someone, it's just finding them that's the trick, but the way I see it, it will be worth it in the end! Group hug anyone????

 

[djblu883]

OK I'm gonna pitch in my two cents too...friends real friends are GOLD it's hard to find it but when you do it lasts a lifetime. Take time to fashion your friendships first...then you can have a golden relationship. I lost my best friend though an accident and miss him alot but know one day I'll find another if I'm patient and it's in my destiny to find it again...until then...I live and love life like each day is the last...Disney is a great place to do that solo or with friends...Keep your chin up Jim and don't get in a hurry...one day your princess will come when you least expect her...maybe in the grocery, or standing in line at POC...its a small world...AFTERALL!!! PS I'll see you in Dec and buy you a dole whip..

 

[Lizzybee]

Hey everyone, I'm new to this thread and to Dismates.com. It never occured to me there would be such a thing, but it's really cool. I guess my take on it is that if someone has the personality to embrace magic and fun, then maybe...well that would be a good thing. Acouple of months ago, I ended a 3 yr relationship with a guy who was nice but never happy, never in a good mood and hated Christmas/Birthday/or any kind of Party. He hated Disney too and didn't understand how much my kids and I love it. Not that Disney is a reason to end a relationship, it was more the "I'm gonna vomit" feeling I had in the pit of my stomach when he'd talk marriage that made me decide to end things. Anyway, those I haven't seen on the planning boards. Hi, nice to meet you!

 

[kkmauch]

Hey all!

I am a 24 year old DisneyGal. I am a DVC owner at SSR and BCV and I am a certified Disneyholic!

Still looking for my Disney Man. Have dated outside the Disney realm and they really don't seem to get it. Drop a PM if you'd like to talk!
Thanks!