Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[helenabear]

Denise, I am glad you found a multivitamin that will work for you while waiting for your others to come in.

Carla, thank you for that... I talked with a friend of mine last night who went through something similar to me. She said much of the same. I do appreciate hearing it though. I keep telling me that the odds are in my favor.

Lisa, I used this forum to get when my last period was as well I was so busy last month I had no idea exactly when it was.

To echo was Nicole said, I didn't have implantation bleeding or even cramping. The last time I did so I am actually glad this time I didn't have it... considering I bled way too much due to the subchorionic bleed last time caused by the implantation (for me I'd rather not have the same thing happen ) So sometimes you can see it or feel it, and other times you won't. Neither is right or wrong... same with all symptoms. I didn't feel any nausea last time until 6 weeks. I'm just starting to feel it now and I am probably just about 6 weeks again.

Michelle's post had me look something up. Supposedly according to a study, out of 100 eggs that come in contact with sperms, less than 1/3 actually end in a viable pregnancy.
84 eggs get fertilized
69 implant in the uterus
42 live the first week
37 live six weeks
31 are born alive
Apparently though, as many as 50% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. 1 in 5 is the number they know for sure (as in documented). Really makes getting pregnant a miracle at times.

Meredith, I do hope that all goes well for you when you test on Tuesday! To give you another symptom to look for... increased ******l excretion. I feel like I am "leaking" now and then. It's usually very watery and may be slightly tinged.

Luis keeps talking to me as I post, so I am quitting because it is obnoxious to type and hear him talk

 

[skuttle]

Well, I think my bleeding has stopped, so hopefully we can start trying again really soon!! I'm supposed to go back to the dr. on Monday for another blood test "just in case", but I think I may skip it. I know I'm not pregnant...and I really don't feel like surrounding myself with happy, pregnant ladies again. It was just awful. I don't know.

It's bad enough my neighbor is pregnant...and I know they weren't trying because she's told me several times that they only wanted one child and that this one is a surprise. That makes it even worse. Thursday her son, who is a year older than my DS, was outside playing and Colin wanted to go play. I told my DH to go with him because I just couldn't bear to sit with her. Pathetic, I know. I ended up going, but I avoid talking to her about her pregnancy at all costs. Again, childish, I know.

I've been doing better, and I know my DH is happy about that. He can't seem to grasp that I can be happy with him and DS, but still be sad that I don't have another baby. He doesn't understand why I don't just focus on and be happy with what I already have, and then just keep trying for another baby and it'll happen when it's meant to be. His view is that we aren't giving up trying yet, and whatever "time limit" I've put on myself is stupid...that we'll keep trying for another until it happens. I know he's right. And I know I've hurt him by saying I won't be happy unless I have another. I am VERY happy with my life now, but I think a part of me will always be sad if I don't have another. DH equates this to him and DS not being good enough. It's so hard to explain to him. He has such a positive attitude about everything...and I'm negative usually. I so wish I could be more like him. I try, I really do, but it's hard for me.

Today we have a wedding to go to...actually, it's a commitment ceremony. I've never been to one of those before so I'm looking forward to it. Ryan's family will be there, so I'm dreading getting "the question."

Forgot to add: Thanks for letting me ramble.

 

[Princess Tinkerbell]

Allison: I completely understand about being very happy with your life, but knowing you have so much love to give to another child. My DH had a hard time understanding why we needed to change everything when we are so happy and our life is clipping along so perfectly. I think he took it a little personally too. I never really understood about "knowing" it was the right thing for me until I felt it. You are perfectly justified to feel the way you feel. Sometimes men just don't get it. Why do we keep them around again? Just kidding. They know we love them.

I'm so sorry there are so many pg people around you right now. That's just plain crappy. I know your time is coming. You have been so strong! Just a little bit further and you'll make it! I have enough optimism for both of us. You steel mine whenever you need it.

I had an idea about your blood work. I agree that there is no way you should have to go be w/ the pregnant massses. Call your doctor and ask them to allow the blood to be drawn at a lab. Normally just a bunch of people getting random drug tests for work when I go. I have blood sugar issues and my doc always just sends me to a lab for convience sake. No appoitment for necessary for me and then they run it and just send my doc the results. That's how I did my FSH test too. It might be easier that way.

Rebecca: I'm gald you are feeling better. Next month is it!!

Sue: That story was hilarious. I thought of you when I peed on my hand yesterday .

Meredith: Are you sick of pineapple yet?

Denise: I'm gald you found a vitamin you can use until the good ones come in the mail. Rest up. Those late nights are a thing of the past. I can't wait until I am exhausted and puking non-stop


Hi to everyone else! I hope all our "graduates" are not too sick and I hope all of us wanna-be's get our BFPs this month!

Jennifer

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Hi Ladies! How is everyone doing? Anyone flooded out? I've been shocked and appalled by how many people out here don't have any idea what's going on in the rest of the country... but I've been following the news online and hoping everyone is okay.

Just wanted to check in and say I've been thinking of you all!

 

[mickeyboat]

Meredith - Can't wait until we hear from you about your testing tomorrow! Don't forget to do it in the morning, and catch your pee in a cup. I usually have to pee so bad when I wake up in the morning, that it sprayed all over when I was trying to get it on a stick!

Denae

 

[Octoberbeauty]

I hate this two week wait!!! How early will a positive show up? Of course I couldn't resist the urge and already took one (Dollar Tree kind) and it was negative, but it's still a week too early to test. <sigh> I want to be pregnant!!! NOW!

 

[Tiggerlover91]

Any of you ladies ever played around with the chinese gender predictors? I just did it for me and it predicted boy. I used it for my sister with her last 2 children and it was right on the money for her! I thought that was pretty cool.

Here's the first one I used: http://www.obfocus.com/calculators/gender.htm

and here's the second one I used to see if it was right for my sister AND it also predicted a boy for me:

http://www.chinesefortunecalendar.com/Charts/BabyGender.htm

 

[Octoberbeauty]

Well I certainly hope it's right. If I am pregnant, they both say girl. In fact, the second chart one says that if I conceive anytime before November that it should be a girl! Which is what we desperately are wanting.

 

[Tasha+Scott]

The first link you posted was wrong for me and the 2nd one was right. When I was pregnant with dd, I played around with several of the gender predictor charts. I wanted to see if it was accurate so I tested it with all of my friends' kids and things like that. It was right about 50% of the time and I know with my dd half the charts said girl and half said boy.

 

[snoopygirl79]

Hello to everyone again. I'm very confused with what's happening with me at the moment. I'm on CD39 with nothing to show - no AF and no BFP. I've booked to see my doctor tomorrow afternoon as I'm pretty sure this isn't right. The longest cycle I've had is 37 days but last month it was only 30. I'm just in limbo at the moment as I can't write this cycle off yet until something happens and then I can't think about trying next month until I know when to start counting!! Grrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!

 

[skuttle]

Snoopygirl, I'm not sure what to tell you. I hope you get some answers from your doctor! I stopped BCP last June and AF has ranged from 28 to 34 days, but I've never skipped.

I've come to the realization that I have become consumed with TTC. Ever since my BFP on Easter Sunday, and then the loss, it's all I think about. I'm in depositions with the same people a lot due to the type of law I practice, and, of course, one of the girls are pregnant. I could hardly concentrate with her in the room yesterday. Same with my neighbor...when I'm around her, I can hardly concentrate. It just hurts SO bad that it's not me. I hate the jealous feelings. I hate the sadness. I hate thinking that if we don't get pregnant again, that I may feel like this for the rest of my life. I don't like it at all, and I try to look at the positive, at what I already have, but right now it's really tough. I thought I was doing okay until all of this happened with the BFP.

Rambling again, I know...y'all are probably like, "stop the pity party and get over it!" LOL! I've just never wanted anything more than this and it hurts so much to not have it, and not really have too much control over it. Hopefully we won't have to fight this battle too much longer...I'm tired of feeling sad all of the time.

 

[snoopygirl79]

Skuttle, I want to offer you my support as lately I've been feeling really down about the whole issue. I seem to spend so much time in tears just being angry and upset about the fact that I'm not pregnant yet.

I was on the train last week and my Mum phoned my up for a chat. She told me that a friend of the family's daughter is 3 month's pregnant. I was really gutted. She only got married recently and after she did, my Mum and her Mum were joking about who would be the first to have a baby and of course I thought it would be me as I'd been married longer but no. All I wanted to do was burst into tears on the train but I had to really restrain myself. When DH met me at the platform, I just buried my head in his shirt and bawled my eyes out - he had no idea why!! Then I explained why and when I heard myself say it, I felt so selfish as I should just be happy for them. DH said it's understandable that I'm upset but I've just got to accept it.

I feel like I've been miserable for so long that I can't remember what it feels like to be happy.

I wish I could do more to help as I feel the same but I know that no words can really help the situation, only a BFP!! I just hate that it takes time for that to happen.

Take care

 

[mickeyboat]

 

[helenabear]

Wow, I wish I could give you girls a hug... I really do. My heart really is breaking for you. I can only wish you peace. If it gets to be too much, take some time off. Enjoy your life the way it was. It really can be all too consuming when you think about it too much. My DH didn't understand either.

Of course he still doesn't understand why I am sooo scared. I had twinges of blood again. Granted I have been coughing like crazy and the NP said that is a big cause for spotting and staining. She must see the fear in my eyes because she scheduled me for an ultrasound this friday. Sometimes it is hard to be positive about life... and I know if this one ends again, I can't do it anymore. It sucks too much out of me to lose.

Sorry for my rambles as well...

 

[mickeyboat]

Elaine - sending more sticky baby dust

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

 

[7beasley]

Allison - sorry for all the heartbreak lately -- you are in my thoughts!! Hang in there -- I *know* it will be your turn soon!

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Meredith -- check in!! Thinking about you and sending you positive vibes!! Did you POAS today? Hope you are okay?

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Hello to everyone else - hope you all weathered the storm okay and are having a good day!

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I am having some light cramping today -- I am exactly 11 weeks today -- needless to say it is stressing me out!!! No bleeding though! I am hoping the cramping (which is a combo of cramps and a pulled muscle feeling) is due to the fact that our basement flooded yesterday and DH and I spent 6 hours pumping it out, cleaning, wet/dry vaccuming water etc....

I don't see my obgyn for a checkup and ultrasound until April 26th -- the wait is killing me -- I haven't seen the baby via ultrasound since March 26th -- I am so paranoid about this pregnancy that I just want to see if every week to get confirmation it is still in there and is growing -- going for weeks at a time like this makes my mind wander to dark and bad places of worry!!!

Plus - I failed my progesterone test last Thursday to see if I could stop the progesterone needles -- I can't --- after one day off the progesterone my levels dipped to 14 - they have to be at least 20 -- so I am on the shot again until tonight - stopping tomorrow and another level on Thursday to determine whether or not I have to stay on the shot -- I am not optimistic as the nurse has told me I will probably need a few more weeks on the progesterone! Ugh - I hate these needles!!

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Ok - sorry for all my bit*hing and griping - I will shut up now!

Hugs,
Nicole

 

[skuttle]

Just not a good day today, is it?

Snoopygirl...I'm so sorry you've been having the same feelings as me. I'm glad I'm not the only one that has had these feelings, but at the same time I'm so sorry that you feel the same. It's so hard. And you are right, I do feel selfish when I stop and think about it.

Elaine... Big hugs to you! Definitely sending sticky baby thoughts your way!!

Nicole...same to you!!

You know, when I was pregnant with DS, I couldn't say enough bad things about the internet! There's so much bad stuff on the internet, especially dealing with pregnancy! Why don't people write about the good odds?? Towards the end of my pregnancy, I was put on bed rest for PIH and had to have several ultrasounds to monitor the baby. At one, the ultrasound tech started asking me about my height and my DH's height because the baby's femur length wasn't where it should be. I went home, started researching on the internet, and had myself convinced DS was going to be born with Downs! Never did I stop to think...hey, I'm only 5'3" and DH is only probably about 5'7"...we're just short!

Thanks to all of you girls, really. I can't express how helpful it is to have a place to vent about this stuff. Most of you girls know what it's like to wait and wait and wait for the BFP, only to get BFN month after month while everyone around you seems to be getting pregnant. I think the BFP last month and then the disappointment that followed just pushed me over the edge.

I just keep trying to think happy thoughts. Happy thoughts bring happiness, right?

 

[mickeyboat]

You know, when I was pregnant with DS, I couldn't say enough bad things about the internet! There's so much bad stuff on the internet, especially dealing with pregnancy! Why don't people write about the good odds??

When I was pregnant with Hannah, we had an early ultrasound (about 16 weeks) and they were not able to see one of her kidneys. THey were also a little concerned about my amniotic fluid levels. They scheduled another u/s for about 2 weeks later. I spent that entire time convinced that she was going to be born with only one kidney, or have a diseased kidney, that she would be a diabetic, etc. She is fine. But I, too blamed my distress on all the information that is out there.

On the other hand, the only reason I figured out what my infertility problem was is because I researched my symptoms and found out about PCOS. So I guess it isn't all that bad.

Denae

Oh, Happy happy, joy joy!

 

[helenabear]

I just keep trying to think happy thoughts. Happy thoughts bring happiness, right?

I'd like to think so!

I realize I sounded really down. I'm probably just too hormonal. I'm also probably too scared for my own good. We all get by somehow don't we?

Nicole, I will tell you what my Doc Office said... if you are ever concerned... CALL!!!!!!! I know mine will get you in as quickly as possible (even if your doc isn't available, a physician, NP, or tech will be there) But remember cramping IS normal. I've had twinges (though usually around my pelvis) and some constipation cramps (didn't know how similar they are yet different until after the D&C and I was miserable). But your uterus is expanding at an alarming rate, so some pain is expected. Of course not all feel it, and some have it much worse than others. As long as your pregnancy symptoms (if any left at this point) aren't suddenly gone, don't freak yourself out too much.

Allison, I admit I smiled your story about the femur length. I won't even look at anyone seriously if they ask me that (I'm barely 5') And feel free to vent here about everything. A lot of us really do understand how it feels. I used to feel like a failure and hated hearing anyone getting pregnant. It really put me in a very bad state of mind. I've said it before, I found my peace after the miscarriage. Very odd timing, but I realized I had no control over this... the worrying and stressing just didn't help me at all. Try to relax if you can (yes, you can hurt me for that one, but listen) Even if you had a chemical pregnancy, now you know you can conceive... sometimes the stress of trying can actually be detrimental (yep I'm really saying this ). So try to enjoy it some, and realize that your time wil come and I honestly have a feeling it will be very very soon! And do realize, you so are not alone. I was so jealous of every single pregnancy that I couldn't even bear to watch the baptims at church.

*yes, I said not to stress out and relax, but obviously I know full well that relaxing won't cure infertility*

I am feeling better right now. I keep joking about how I hope to see twins on Friday. Don't ask, but I would love a set