Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[LisaB]

Michelle we are all here for you and I hear you. After clomid with regular intercourse; clomid with iui clomid iui hsg and then 3 months of glonal f and iui I have basically given up. I am so sick of the ultrasounds and bloodwork with no outcome. Kevin and I feel that maybe it is time to just count our blessings with one

 

[arizonacolbys]

Hey girls! I've been MIA for a couple days - things have just been crazy around here!!

Michelle - so sorry you're having a rough day & that you're away from home dealing with this all on your own. That makes things even harder! I'm sure it's very frustrating - but, try to stay positive!!! AF isn't here yet!! I hope your test tomorrow comes up a BFP!!! KUP!

Elaine - I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. We'll all be thinking about you tomorrow - I'm sure everything will go smoothly for you. Sounds like you have a lot of support here from all these great girls!

Not much is new here, other than not being able to keep my eyes open in the evening!! I also just feel very bloated & may look for a pair of maternity jeans over the weekend. My jeans still fit & all, they just become so uncomfortable by the end of the work day! Ugh! Tomorrow night we're going to my in-laws for an early Thanksgiving celebration - hopefully I can stay awake past dinner!!

Hope everyone else is doing well!!

 

[helenabear]

Kay, thanks for dropping in! I have no idea what I would do without this group of great ladies!

Michelle, my fingers will be crossed for you tomorrow morning... be sure to do it first thing. I really do hope you get that BFP!!! You can also look up somewhere all the levels of hormones each tests at to see if yours is less sensitive than others... just giving a wee bit of hope

Denae, I appreciate you sharing your experience. I have never been put under before ever. I have a feeling it will be a light sedation, since they expect me out w/in an hour. It will also be in an outpatient clinic made for these types of things. I'm sure they will be just as nice as the nurses in the OR were. My whole doctors office set it up for me as well, and made sure I had nothing to worry about. Just reasuring to know I am being taken care of.

Nicole, I am so glad you stopped in again! I was getting worried about you as well. I will keep my fingers crossed for a miracle for you in February. I happen to think that is a great month (same month my brother and I were born) Thank you also for your kind thoughts... it's been a rollercoaster for sure, but I am lucky to have a rock of a husband.
Oh and we already went to WDW... we are going to visit in-laws next week.

Lisa, I am still holding hope for your miracle as well

Emily, I know that feeling of being bloated. Way back when we knew we were going to try we decided to get really low rise jeans. Really helps with that bloaty feeling I had. It seemed to be worse towards the end of the day/after big meals. Hope you stay awake at dinner

 

[skuttle]

Oh, Elaine, I'm so very sorry. I had to read your post two times before I believed it. I hope everything goes smoothly for you in the days ahead. :hugs:

Michelle, I'm also sending my thoughts your way! I hope you just tested too early and you really get a BFP this time.

AF left today, so I suppose we'll start the BD'ing soon.

 

[exwdwcm]

Lisa, thanks for the thoughts. we've down the same road so it seems. i am trying for #1. so i can't give up. even if i have to adopt, we want at least one child, so we'll keep doing this until i am broken financially and emotionally. i spoke about doing IVF with DH last night and we are going to talk to the doc about it and our options. i have no clue how much he charges, so that will affect when we might try it. DH likes to save up and pay cash. so that might set us back longer. we will see.

well another BFN this morning. today is 14DPO and CD26. so i am pretty sure this cycle is a bust. it really really sucks. especially when i know there are so many out there with unwanted children and i can't have one.

Elaine- being put under was nothing at all. i did it for my first time last month for the lap- also outpatient. i woke up and didn't even realize it was over with! My friend that m/c this week had her D&C last night and she said it was not bad at all. She went in at 2pm for pre-op and was home by 6 or so, already eating. i wish you all the best.

 

[helenabear]

You know I totally meant to ask why doctors are suggesting that men wait to "build up soldiers" Mine has never suggested that... she is younger too so I would imagine she would remember that. Just curious why some doctors think it is that important if you are doing it eveyr other day for a while anyway.

moving on

Skuttle, I am thinking good thoughts for you this month!

Michelle, I totally appreciate you letting me know how you did with the lap and how your friend just did. It is kind of scary when you have no idea what is supposed to happen. I'm going in for pre-op at 2 as well and they suspect I will be out before 5. We only live 5 minutes away so I hope to be eating supper by 6.

I am sorry you had BFN though I really was hoping for you. I am sure someday soon you will be a mom

 

[LisaB]

I think if we didn't have Diana we would have gone straight to IVF and not fool arround with the iui's

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

You know I totally meant to ask why doctors are suggesting that men wait to "build up soldiers" Mine has never suggested that... she is younger too so I would imagine she would remember that. Just curious why some doctors think it is that important if you are doing it eveyr other day for a while anyway.

I'd like to know too. I can understand not BD several times in one day, but every other day (even every day?) I guess it doesn't matter though as long as something works.


Michelle, I'm sorry about the BFN. You will be a mom someday.

Elaine, good luck with the D&C.

 

[mickeyboat]

I'm going in for pre-op at 2 as well and they suspect I will be out before 5. We only live 5 minutes away so I hope to be eating supper by 6.

Extra for you today, Elaine. I will be thinking of you.

Denae

 

[kellyf2626]

Sending some love and hugs to you today Elaine... . We are all thinking of you.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Elaine - my thoughts are with you today. I'm so sorry for all of this.

Nicole - Welcome back!! I've missed you.

Jen

 

[helenabear]

thanks ladies!

I am back at home trying out soup... with the sudden change of hormones and completely empty stomach, I did wind up sick when I got up So I am going to gently eat my egg drop soup. They were as nice as can be... my last memory is of my doc holding my hand... taking it easy now... will check in later

 

[kellyf2626]

Elaine...glad to hear that you are home and resting. We are thinking of you....

 

[skuttle]

Elaine, I'm glad the procedure went well. I hope you have a nice, relaxing weekend.

 

[helenabear]

Thanks, so much, for all the good thoughts. Obviously I hope to never have to do this again, but at least everyone there made it as easy on me as possible. They had comfy blankets that were heated and everyone was just sweet as can be. The only one who seemed kind of clueless was the receptionist. I can't explain it right, but I have a feeling if she looked at my paperwork she wouldn't have said (after I said I was doing okay) "oh I bet as okay as one can be who is having surgery" But, everyone else was great and had tissues on hand when need be. All very nice, and it actually made me respect my doctor more with how she treated me and my husband.

Today is THE day for football. Luis and I are OSU graduates so the Ohio State/Michigan game is our biggest distaction today. I am finally feeling hungry myself (I did eat a lot last nigt) so we'll probably get an early lunch soon.

 

[lil mermaid]

Elaine,

I am glad to hear that you are doing okay and that you were treated well (except for the silly receptionist.) Just try to take it easy over the weekend. A weekend of snuggling on the couch watching football sounds great!

PM me you if you need to talk.

Laurel

 

[Pollito916]

Elaine - I am so sorry for your loss, but glad to hear you are doing well. I remember you having doubts on this pregnancy from the beginning. I guess a mother's intuition is often right.

I had my 3-hour glucose yesterday, and got to spend some quality time in the waiting area of my doc's office. Towards the end, they brought a girl out crying in a wheel chair, who had walked into the office just fine. I can only imagine the news she must have received. My heart was really breaking for her.

Congrats on all the new BFPs!!! I know this thread is lucky, so I'm sure there will be even more to come! We also had our first childbirth class this week, and there were two couple there that had been through IVF, one was pg after trying for 3 years, and the other after 5 years. It was a great reminder as to how much some people go through to get pregnant, and reminded me of you ladies. Never give up hope!

 

[skuttle]

Well, I made it through my early Thanksgiving today. I found that I kept my distance from my pregnant cousins. I guess I didn't really feel like talking about their pregnancies. That's probably awful of me, but I couldn't help it. We walked in, and I swear, we were not even there a minute before my grandma, pregnant cousin, and an aunt asked when we were having another baby. Then, later on, another cousin asked me when we were going to have another. I know they mean well, but it's still hard. At least I got through it.

 

[helenabear]

Thanks Laurel... football watching did me some good. Mostly because Ohio State remains #1
I do go up and down... Luis is very supportive though. He knows how much I wanted the baby. We both know we can try again and hope for the best.

Polly, you are right, I think my intuitions were right. There was good with this for us, and of course the bad. My doubts about getting pregnant at least were quenched. I hope all goes well with the classes!
My heart would break for that girl as well. I can only imagine the type of news she must have recieved

Skuttle I am so sorry that it was so hard on you. I can't even imagine. Though I expect Luis' brother to do some of the same. He is the one who called and said "I heard you quit your job to have a baby" I don't want to deal with those questions or discussions with him. They don't even knwo I got pregnant and I am not sure I want to discuss with them anyway. They just aren't close to us.
Anyway, don't feel bad for keeping distance. I know I have in the past as well from some people. You have to do what you need to in order to keep yourself emotionally in check. Do you have many more family gatherings coming up?

 

[exwdwcm]

Elaine, so glad to hear you are home now and doing well. sounds like it went okay and they treated you well (other than the receptionist!lol). i admire your strength!

well AF showed this morning. so the 2 BFNs i got the last few days were right. so that really sucks. so my 7th month of fertility treatments was a bust, never have i gotten a BFP. I am calling my RE first thing Monday to try and get a consult to discuss next steps. DH is gone on a fun trip to vegas with his work (boss is taking him and his team as a thank you for hard work! no fair!)-----and that will be 'prime time', when i am ovulating probably. so i don't know if we can do another IUI cycle since he will be gone most likely when i would be triggering and doing follistim injections. so i am going to figure out our options, if they can delay my ovulation? the thing is, my IUIs are only covered by ins until Dec 31st. i still have to pay the $500-$1000 for the shots, but at least the $400 for the IUI is covered, so there is a rush and i would hate to miss next month. but we might have to. I am going to find out about IVF, the details on how long the process is and how much he charges. my ins does NOT cover that. i am guessing it can be anywhere from $8k-$15k per month. so who knows. Grandpa is visiting on thanksgiving and I think my mom is going to ask him if he can help me and DH with costs if we want to do IVF. it would help so much not having to stress about the money and grandpa is usually pretty generous, especially when it is for such a good cause, right? he helps out my cousin that lives in SC with him- she had a baby at 16 and here I am 33 and still can't get prego! lol

i hope you all have a great rest of the weekend. Elaine, rest up and take it easy. we are all cheering for you!