Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[fanofdisney]

Actually, I would suggest starting right away and not waiting until next week. The month I got pg, DH and I started BD the day AF ended and did it every other day for about a week.

I'm sure dh won't have a problem with that...

I shouldn't either, just watched McDreamy on t.v. last night! This sounds weird, but since I've been off the pills, esp. when around when I'm ovulating, I'm drooling over every man's picture in magazines, and on t.v. Anyone else have this? My guess is nature working me up to breed. lol

 

[lil mermaid]

Mickeybar -

I agree with those who suggest charting 100%!! Even if you use an OPK, you still don't know if you have ovulated. An OPK detects the LH surge just before ovulation, but it is possible to have an LH surge and then NOT ovulate in a particular cycle.


I really recommend using the Fertility Friend site. It is very cool and will tell you exactly when you ovulated by using the data you input. And the basic charting is FREE.

 

[TAKitty]

Mickeybar -

I agree with those who suggest charting 100%!! Even if you use an OPK, you still don't know if you have ovulated. An OPK detects the LH surge just before ovulation, but it is possible to have an LH surge and then NOT ovulate in a particular cycle.


I really recommend using the Fertility Friend site. It is very cool and will tell you exactly when you ovulated by using the data you input. And the basic charting is FREE.

I tried to chart one month, but I just kept forgetting to take my temp, or the time I take it varies so much during the weekend. I may have to go back to charting next month.

 

[DMickey28]

Minnesota, Hi, My name is DMickey28 and I have/had a 28 day cycle and O on day 14. Very rare I know... but now we have offically met!!

When I was on BCP I had a 28 day cycle to the T. By 9AM on every fourth Thursday AF was there. It was crazy. Off BCP for the first 5 months and it was between 9AM and 11AM on Thursday and my OPK was + for the 13th and 14th day. I temped the last two months and had comfirmed O on the 14th day. Had an early MC in May and got my period late on a Saturday. Temped with O on the 14th day. Fourth Saturday again by 3pm. July, I only saw DH once, it was on Saturday and that is when we concieved, then by 3pm on the fourth Saturday since the start of the cycle AF had not arrived so I took a PG test and wa-la Digital said Pregnant. Wasn't expecing it at all since we only saw each other once and the previous months I timed, charted, OPK's, looked for signs and obsessed!!! Didn't chart for July because we had just moved, decided to get settled before trying again, let God take control, and we both traveled for work for three weeks and only saw each other for one weekend in the middle....

Everyone is different!! Growing up on or off BCP my cycle never changed....

 

[Syrreal]

I take baths too Dr said a tub bath is fine b/c the water cools as you sit in it. A h9t tub on the other hand just keeps heating it up which is why it cab get dangerous

 

[fanofdisney]

I just signed up for fertility friend. Can I just say that THIS SUCKS?? I work nights, 7p-7:30 a.m. My husband works nights. I only work 3 nights a week, but last month I think was ruined b/c I had to work when I thought we had a good chance from bd. FF predicts my 3 fertile days on 3 days I am working this month, also! How I am I supposed to squeeze it in? We also have a 5 year old at home.

 

[beckmrk04]

I just signed up for fertility friend. Can I just say that THIS SUCKS?? I work nights, 7p-7:30 a.m. My husband works nights. I only work 3 nights a week, but last month I think was ruined b/c I had to work when I thought we had a good chance from bd. FF predicts my 3 fertile days on 3 days I am working this month, also! How I am I supposed to squeeze it in? We also have a 5 year old at home.

FF doesn't know everything. The predictions aren't "truth" and set in stone.

Sometimes it would change my O date, then change it agian, or change my predicted fertile days after monitoring my temps.

Just try to BD as much as you can around your expected O date.

 

[AllyandJack]

Kristy, did you have the lap?? Are you going to cycle again in December? Does the doctor have any new information??


I drank during my 2ww. A beer one night. Some wine the next. I was really stressed out and figured the alcohol was better than popping pills. Tylenol PM is safe during pregnancy, but some studies have shown that anti-histamines like the drug contained in Tylenol PM as the sleep agent (and also contained in allergy meds and other OTC sleep aids) can hinder implantation. So, I cut it out during the 2ww. Obviously, I couldn't take Xanax. So, I had a beer and some wine.

There was no way I lived like a saint for 27 months!!

Besides, my cousin did heroin during her entire pregnancy and her son lived. I don't think a bath is worse than heroin.

 

[helenabear]

Kellyf, did you have a good anniversary? I realize I forgot to wish you a happy one yesterday

I'm all for finding out when you O whether it be by charting or checking mucous. My doc suggested to me though, that once I knew my cycle, to quit looking at it all the time. She could tell I got stressed by trying so hard. I knew when I was based on the mucous for me more than the temps. I just had a harder time doing it daily due to my schedule. My doc was also willing to run tests to make sure I was ovulating whenever I got too discouraged. In addition to other tests to make sure hormones were good.

Now the funny thing is I stopped looking and caring all together in Sept. My heart was just breaking and I couldn't take hearing more people getting pregnant who weren't even trying. I hadn't been posting here, but i had been lurking since my fingers were crossed for so many of you. Anyway, the funny thing is for some reason, I must have ovulated early. I was probably stressed and that causes my cycle to go short. I didn't change anything about what I did during that time. In fact I didn't even believe I could be pregnant even after I took that test

Just saying that even though you think you know when something is going to happen, it doesn't always happen that way. We didn't BD near as much last month because I needed a break from trying. And the BD we did would normally not have worked for us based on my due date. Sometimes when you try to do everything right, your body has other ideas.

If we ever try this again I'll remember that during stressful months, I do O early (which makes sense). Which means waiting to BD a week isn't a wise idea. A good suggestion from my doc if you can do it w/o stress. Starting the day your period ends, BD every other day until you get a BFP or AF comes.

Though as I say that, I am laughing, because that is what we normally did and that isn't what it took to get the deed done

Long rambles... we have an outdoor wedding to go to today. Fortunately the reception is inside. But not sure what bride would pick an outdoor evening wedding during Oct in Ohio. Not smart as it will be freezing I just hoe she doesn't have a strapless dress!

Been tired and so I've been lazy. So far the only time I feel nauseous is when I am hungry or eat fried food. I seem to be drawn to bland foods at the moment. Though tomato sauce still appeals to me. I'll be looking at the menus at WDW for sure now to make sure I can eat something nice and bland

 

[kellyf2626]

Hi Elaine....yes, I did have a nice anniversary. DH got me a beautiful Coach pocketbook - so I have been on !! I got him a drill set....and he was just as excited! Ha! Men!

So I have been charting temps since the onset of AF every morning. Wow - almost every morning I have been 97.3. It's like clockwork?! After all the reading I have done, though, I thought it would be a little lower. O well....waiting for that temp surge!

 

[helenabear]

Very cool Kelly! Sounds like he did good and you as well!

As for charting, I didn't mention this, but I have another issue with the temp thing. Mine will drop more if I get cold. At night my blood pressure drops so low that if the house isn't warm enough, I will wake up with a temp of just over 96. Normally though mine is 97.1 in the morning and 97.9 at night. So you don't seem too high IMO. A friend of mine was nearly 98 and would go up just above 98. We all have different temps

Oh and I looked it up
http://babymed.com/faq/content.aspx?70

you are fine with what that average said. I do know mine is lower, but because of my issues with lower temps, we already had checked my thyroid and it was totally normal

 

[skuttle]

Well, AF arrived Friday morning. After I went to the bathroom, I crawled back into bed and cried while DH took a shower. He heard me so came out of the bathroom and asked what was wrong. My DH is such the optimist, I'm not sure what I'd do without him. We haven't *really* been trying consistently, so this month, I want to make more of an effort. Guess we'll try the every other day BD. I'm sure DH won't mind. Even though I already have DS, we weren't TTC when I got pregnant. And all I keep thinking about is how it took my mom almost 9 years to get pregnant with me. I know I shouldn't think about it, but like I said, my DH is the optimist. Not me. In addition, we're the only ones in our family that haven't had the second child yet. I know for Thanksgiving that's all we'll hear about, especially since we just bought our house over the summer and DS just turned 3. Two of my cousins are pregnant...I'm scared I'll break down at Thanksgiving seeing them. Awful, I know. Sorry...I'm rambling. My birthday is next week...maybe I'll have some birthday magic this month.

 

[fanofdisney]

Well, AF arrived Friday morning. After I went to the bathroom, I crawled back into bed and cried while DH took a shower. He heard me so came out of the bathroom and asked what was wrong. My DH is such the optimist, I'm not sure what I'd do without him. We haven't *really* been trying consistently, so this month, I want to make more of an effort. Guess we'll try the every other day BD. I'm sure DH won't mind. Even though I already have DS, we weren't TTC when I got pregnant. And all I keep thinking about is how it took my mom almost 9 years to get pregnant with me. I know I shouldn't think about it, but like I said, my DH is the optimist. Not me. In addition, we're the only ones in our family that haven't had the second child yet. I know for Thanksgiving that's all we'll hear about, especially since we just bought our house over the summer and DS just turned 3. Two of my cousins are pregnant...I'm scared I'll break down at Thanksgiving seeing them. Awful, I know. Sorry...I'm rambling. My birthday is next week...maybe I'll have some birthday magic this month.

We are also trying for number 2. If I got pregnant this month, they would be 6 ½ years apart. I really don't want to make it 7! It took dh a year to be convinced to try, I wanted to for a long time now.

Anyway, try not to stress. Easier said than done! My birthday is 11/2, and AF is due the 3rd. I hope we get nice birthday presents! Cheer up, and remember you're spending the new year at Disney! If all else fails, I hope you bring home a nice souvenir.

 

[helenabear]

Skuttle, I am so sorry I was hoping to hear good news from you this weekend I totally know that feeling of crying and just breaking down. It does get heart breaking after a while. I have had to avoid situations in the past due to my own sadness. Take some hope, my parents took 7 years and my in-laws took 9 years to have kids. I'm at about 10 months for how long it took. 6-12 months is totally normal from everything my doctor said. As for Thanksgiving, I know it will be heartbreaking if you aren't pregnant, but just think if you weren't TTC, would it be any of their business if you got pregnant or not? I know it doesn't make it any easier. My DH was the optimist and I am the pessimist. I am still worried about this pregnancy. But try to be optimistic. You did get pregnant before and weren't trying at all then. Of course if you get worried, feel free to talk to your doctor and you can run tests to make sure nothing is wrong. Hang in there

I am hoping for good luck to you both on your birthday months. It seemed to be a good time for us (DH's birthday ) Hopefully you'll have BFP for Thanksgiving or at least for the new year

 

[caribear]

Thought I would join in on this thread! Dh and I have been trying for #2 for about a year now. I've been seeing a doctor for the past 6 months.....and I take prometrium, metformin and I have taken 2 cycles of clomid. So far...nothing. I am almost positive I am ovulating. My dd was conceived in the blink of an eye, so I really thought having another child would be easy. Dh says enough is enough, but I really can't envision never holding another little baby in my arms. Every month when I get AF I cry....I try to tell myself not to, but it doesn't work. If anyone has some extra baby pixie dust for me it would be much appreciated!!!

 

[beckmrk04]

Well, AF arrived Friday morning. After I went to the bathroom, I crawled back into bed and cried while DH took a shower. He heard me so came out of the bathroom and asked what was wrong. My DH is such the optimist, I'm not sure what I'd do without him. We haven't *really* been trying consistently, so this month, I want to make more of an effort. Guess we'll try the every other day BD. I'm sure DH won't mind. Even though I already have DS, we weren't TTC when I got pregnant. And all I keep thinking about is how it took my mom almost 9 years to get pregnant with me. I know I shouldn't think about it, but like I said, my DH is the optimist. Not me. In addition, we're the only ones in our family that haven't had the second child yet. I know for Thanksgiving that's all we'll hear about, especially since we just bought our house over the summer and DS just turned 3. Two of my cousins are pregnant...I'm scared I'll break down at Thanksgiving seeing them. Awful, I know. Sorry...I'm rambling. My birthday is next week...maybe I'll have some birthday magic this month.

You have to be optimistic!!! You know you can get pregnant because you already have a little guy running around!

It will happen when the time is right and repeat my often said mantra, "You will have the child you were meant to have. This may mean it takes a little longer for you, or that you have to jump through a few more hoops, but you WILL have the child you were meant to have!" Just have faith in that. Know in your heart that it will happen when it's supposed to.

 

[beckmrk04]

Ok girls!

ALl of you TTCers- here is some

BABY DUST

Hang in there ladies!

 

[mickeybar]

Ok girls!

ALl of you TTCers- here is some

BABY DUST

Hang in there ladies!

Thanks Becky!

It can be so stressful, especially with my irregular periods it's the 3ww! Ughhh! Still awaiting AF's arrival.
I will keep your mantra in my heart. It's very true.

Another thing that all of us, including myself, need to keep in mind is to relax and stop worrying and obsessing. The first time I got pregnant in July (had a m/c) we were just having fun, very relaxed TTC. I went on vacation and barely thought about it, didn't even take 1 HPT! This month I have used about 10 HPT and we were totally stressed and checking for ewcm and even used a OPK and I don't think we had success. I'm not sure why, but we just all have to relax! That is why I don't want to start temping yet because I don't need one more thing to obsess over right now!

Good luck to all TTC'ers.

 

[DMickey28]

Elaine ~ I missed the U/S update! Congrats. I am so happy for you!!

Becky ~ When did you first feel Vaylie kicking????

 

[helenabear]

Becky, you have such an awesome way with words. You say what I am thinking and can never put into a post. I wholeheartedly agree with all you said.

And Mickeybar, I think you have a great point. I know that kind of thing is why my doc said to quit trying so hard. Of course the month I had given up and just did what came naturally out of love seemed to work.
Of course there are our lovely ladies even here who know they or their spouse have physical issues. They are the ones who will have to go through more steps to have their baby. So it is wise to know your bodies, but not dwell on them when things are discovered to be "okay"

Cari, welcome!!! These ladies here are wonderful people and have been a great support and source of information!

Still trying to decide what to wear today for the wedding. It is about 5 degrees warmer than I thought it was going to be, but it will still only be in the lower 50s during the ceremony. I'm just afraid my feet will freeze.