Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[Syrreal]

Aunt Flo just left here, getting ready for month 4 of trying. Next week is the big BD week, so I'm trying to gear up for that. Here we go again...

Actually, I would suggest starting right away and not waiting until next week. The month I got pg, DH and I started BD the day AF ended and did it every other day for about a week.

 

[ashjohnson80]

Well, we just finished BDing all week. Goodness I need a break! . Now the two week wait. Anyone else waiting? When might I experience any symptoms?

I'm waiting too.

 

[kellyf2626]

Actually, I would suggest starting right away and not waiting until next week. The month I got pg, DH and I started BD the day AF ended and did it every other day for about a week.

I agree! Start right away! The month my girlfriend got pg, she only bd'd once or twice when AF had just ended! They really weren't even trying yet - but she got pg! So, she knew it was one of those times!! Really, the time right before you o is the most fertile (I have heard)....so don't wait!!


Also - is deli meat really that bad? I eat a turkey sandwhich almost every day for lunch! Should I stop doing that???

 

[Syrreal]

Kelly, they say that you can get some kind of bacteria (listeria?) from deli meat. I asked my dr and she said that you can either just heat it up before you eat it or you can make sure to get it sliced fresh at the deli and then only get enough to last you at the most 3 days. I still eat deli meats. While I had all day m/s, a turkey sandwich with swiss cheese and a touch of miracle whip or ranch dressing was all I could sometimes manage to get down.

 

[ashjohnson80]

Ok. So I went ahead and told my mom and dad and sister and brother that we were ttc, but I haven't told any of my friends and I don't plan to. If I get a BFP, I'll just be like, "Hey, guess what?" But since I'm in the 2ww I'm not drinking at all. So they keep asking "why don't you want to drink?" "I got that new wine that you told me about for my birthday, want to come and drink it with me?" I'm running out of excuses.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

ArizonaColbys - When you O is dependent on your cycle, so when you do may not be when someone else does. If you have a 28 day cycle, it tends to be around day 14. If you do the whole temperature thing for a while, you can guess when it will be. I could never figure out the whole mucus thing, nor did I have any O pains.

Kristy - Welcome back!! We've missed you! Good luck with the weight loss.

Skuttle - good luck with the testing!

KellyF - happy anniversary! A BFP would make an excellent anniversary present!


As far as the food cravings - lately I've really wanted Applebee's nachos. Odd, and a long trip to get them My husband has given up trying to figure out what to have for dinner in the morning, because by the time I get home, I'll have changed my mind about what I want anyways.

Have a good weekend!

Jen

 

[beckmrk04]

Jen- I'm the same way about dinner; I don't know what I want until it's actually time to already be eating dinner. What sounds good now won't sound good in 4 hours.


2ww Questions: I didn't avoid ANYTHING the month I got pregnant. I had a few margaritas, took ibuprofen, ate whatever I wanted. I figured, once I knew *for sure* that I was pregnant, then I would start with the avoiding things- but honestly, Iasked my doc before I got pregnant, and she reassured me that I could eat pretty much whatever I wanted. I still eat lunchmeat (cold) and blue cheese dressing and hot dogs- especially corn dogs, as I have already mentioned.

Your chances for listeria (from lunchmeat or soft cheeses) is practically NILL. A few drinks will not kill your chances to conceive (maybe TMI- but I'm actually pretty sure that I had a couple of glasses of wine the night we DID conceive, and then some margaritas a few nights later).

Most books will tell you not to worry about anything you did/ate/drank before you knew you were pregnant.

Once I did get pregnant, I cut out the alcohol and switched to Tylenol only for pain relief. I still drink caffiene- Wild Cherry Pepsi tastes SOOOO good right now (which is weird because I usually don't drink it).

And honestly, since I was so sick, I had to have a lot of things done that are considered pregnancy no-nos. I have had about 8-10 Xrays. I had to be INJECTED with radio active material to check for a blood clot in my lung. I had to breathe radio active material for the same test. I had surgery when I was only 10 weeks along. But you know what? My little girl is still in there: alive and "kicking" (pun intended) She's growing right on target!

SO- the moral of my story is: don't get yourselves too worked up- it'll make you crazy if you worry about all of the things that *could* happen. Instead, my advice is to ask your doc if you are really concerned about something (like meds, for example) but otherwise RELAX and have fun.

 

[mickeybar]

Your chances for listeria (from lunchmeat or soft cheeses) is practically NILL. A few drinks will not kill your chances to conceive (maybe TMI- but I'm actually pretty sure that I had a couple of glasses of wine the night we DID conceive, and then some margaritas a few nights later).

That's right. My OB is known as the best around here (and I live in a big City), and he has been in practice for over 30 years and said in all of that time, he has seen only 2 cases of listeria. He said if you aren't going to eat lunch meat while you are pregnant, you shouldn't eat it at all. He really just told me to avoid sushi and anything raw.

 

[lil mermaid]

The thing about listeriosis is that although it isn't very common (I think the statistic is around 2500 cases of serious illness per year) the effects on pregnant woman and unborn babies can be devastating. Also, a pregnant woman is 20 TIMES more likely than other healthy adults to become ill. If a pregnant woman contracts listeriosis, it usually has very serious consequences - premature birth, serious illness in the baby, or death of the fetus.

So my point is - yes it is not likely to happen, but if it does, it can be very bad.

PS - I know someone who this happened to - so I admit that I am not all that objective about this topic.

 

[TAKitty]

Ok. So I went ahead and told my mom and dad and sister and brother that we were ttc, but I haven't told any of my friends and I don't plan to. If I get a BFP, I'll just be like, "Hey, guess what?" But since I'm in the 2ww I'm not drinking at all. So they keep asking "why don't you want to drink?" "I got that new wine that you told me about for my birthday, want to come and drink it with me?" I'm running out of excuses.

Say you are on medication for awhile and you shouldn't drink while taking it.

 

[ashjohnson80]

Say you are on medication for awhile and you shouldn't drink while taking it.

that's a good one.

 

[kellyf2626]

Thanks for all the info on the deli meat! I feel better now...I was starting to get worried that I was doing something very wrong!

 

[Pollito916]

I agree with Becky on all the things to worry about while TTC. I took the same approach and didn't cut anything out until after BFP. I know I also had a few margaritas in the 2ww, includng the day before BFP. I also still eat lunch meat, but try to avoid raw meats/seafood. Then again, I might not be a good example, b/c I also still take baths, and even went jet-skiing when I was about 12 weeks pregnant. But this little guy is still growing and kicking (all the time!)

 

[zweihund]

Someone asked about the day of ovulation in your cycle. My Doc explained to me that is it 14 days BEFORE your period starts, not after. So if you have a 28 day cycle, then it will fall right in the middle on day 14. But if your cycle is shorter or longer it would adjust accordingly. Say you have a 33 day cycle - you would ovulate on day 19. Make sense?

I say if you don't know your OD just BD for the whole month

 

[Tasha+Scott]

Becky - she looks like she is holding a little hammer.

Denae

Oh, wow! She really does! Hmmm...maybe that is what has been making her mommy so sick!

 

[Tasha+Scott]

I agree with Becky on all the things to worry about while TTC. I took the same approach and didn't cut anything out until after BFP. I know I also had a few margaritas in the 2ww, includng the day before BFP. I also still eat lunch meat, but try to avoid raw meats/seafood. Then again, I might not be a good example, b/c I also still take baths, and even went jet-skiing when I was about 12 weeks pregnant. But this little guy is still growing and kicking (all the time!)

I took baths constantly while pregnant with Kylie. I had pretty bad round ligament pain with her and leg cramps, etc. Sometimes the only thing that really helped with that was a nice hot bath (yes, my baths were pretty hot too because I just can't stand it if it's not) and toward the end of my pregnancy I sometimes would take 2 or more baths in a day. Kylie is doing just fine and has had no problems. She is a typical toddler now...which is sometimes good, sometimes bad! My dr. told me that baths aren't really a huge concern like we are told they are. She said the only way she would be concerned over that is if my water temp. got as high as a jacuzzi or something. Even my baths weren't that hot.

I also ate lunch meats and hot dogs some. I didn't eat a lot of seafood though but, then again, I generally don't like a lot of seafood anyway.

 

[mickeybar]

Someone asked about the day of ovulation in your cycle. My Doc explained to me that is it 14 days BEFORE your period starts, not after. So if you have a 28 day cycle, then it will fall right in the middle on day 14. But if your cycle is shorter or longer it would adjust accordingly. Say you have a 33 day cycle - you would ovulate on day 19. Make sense?

I say if you don't know your OD just BD for the whole month

If that were true, then how come I haven't gotten AF yet? I took a OPK on 9/22 and it said I was O, so 14 days later I should have gotten AF but I still haven't and I don't think I am pregnant. Could the OPK have been wrong? That would explain why I had the EWCM a week later than the OPK said if it was wrong.
This stuff is enough to make you !

 

[TAKitty]

If that were true, then how come I haven't gotten AF yet? I took a OPK on 9/22 and it said I was O, so 14 days later I should have gotten AF but I still haven't and I don't think I am pregnant. Could the OPK have been wrong? That would explain why I had the EWCM a week later than the OPK said if it was wrong.
This stuff is enough to make you !

Some people are not the typical 14 days (I am one of them). You could be 16 days instead of 14.

Also, when did you take the OPK--am or pm? My doctor said that pm is better because you can have a rise in the am and it not be your real rise.

A good book is Taking Charge of your Fertility.

 

[Minnesota!]

Everyone's luteal phase (from O to AF) is different. A 'model' cycle would be 14 days from AF to O and 14 from O to AF. Haven't met many of those people in the 5 years I have been on TTC boards. Best way to know what your cycle is - chart.

 

[zweihund]

mickeybar - your cycle can also have changes if you're stressed or excited

Don't put all of your faith in tests. Agreeing with Minnesota! - chart!

Look at me - I'm FOUR WEEKS LATE and not pregnant.